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Getting Back Up

Life i Edited in Lumia Selfie s quite often complicated and hard. There are magical moments and moments of great hardship. The world will knock you down over and over again. Just make sure you keep getting back up.

Life lessons are hard, they create so much chaos in your life, you don’t know if you are coming or going and searching for that next step can feel like a huge burden. All the “what if” questions flood your mind, creating worry and fear. That’s the whole point.. Your world gets turned upside down when it’s time for big change. We are all creatures of habit to some extent. Unless someone throws the puzzle pieces up in the air, we will continue searching for the right piece to go in that empty space in front of us. Sometimes you are simply working the wrong puzzle.

Although change can throw you off balance, there is a great feeling that comes with finding your balance again. Remember as a child when you use to walk across an old fallen tree… each step taken with care, not to lose your balance…. when you would begin to teeter from one side to the other it was both frightening and exciting all at the same time and then that moment when you regained your balance…. remember that feeling? THAT was a great feeling, you felt safe, you felt okay and that moment of fear, when you nearly fell off … is gone. You still have to keep walking forward to get off that old tree. Just remember that the fall is still possible and that tree isn’t going anywhere… get back up and try it again.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Releasing the Pain

Yesterday I was going through some photos and noticed that there was a distinct difference in my eyes from a year thenandnow ago and a photo I took yesterday. I photochopped them side by side with the dates under them and posted this photo to my Facebook page. Friends were posting how I looked so much better, more alive, happier, healthier, etc. I have not lost a single pound, I’ve not changed my diet or exercise routine… yeah that’s still non-existent at the moment .. lol.

One friend finally said “Wow, what did you do differently?”

I went internal and thought the question over for only a brief moment when the light came on and I replied “I stopped feeling like I was nothing.”

Typing those words out and seeing them on the screen in front of me… reading them back to myself out loud, I got teary eyed and in that moment I released a world of pain that had been building up inside me for a very long time.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Unbinding Yourself from the Pain

Lately I have had big problems sleeping. My mind doesn’t stop going over and over what I’ve recently been through. I’m ready to let it go but mind seems to disagree when I try to go to sleep.

I keep trying meditation and focusing on others things but nope my brain says lets go back over here … I say noooooooooo I don’t want to go back over there … and my brain says like it or not here we go!

I want to be past it so bad and while I am awake I feel that I am okay for the most part, except for the occasional thought that usually comes unexpected and causes a brief meltdown. I go to bed NOT thinking about it and suddenly BAM! There it is like Groundhog Day, rerunning over and over through my mind. I try shifting my thoughts, I try focusing on other things, nothing seems to be helping right now.

I decided I had to go a step further to rid myself of these haunting images and thoughts. I did a little unbinding ceremony. I took a piece of ribbon (in this case I used black, thought it was most fitting), I tied it on both ends. One end I imagined it being me and the other end my ex. I smudged the ribbon, I asked that we be untied in all ways for the better of everyone involved. I wanted to unbind myself from him so that I could let the haunting memories and destructive thoughts go. I severed the ribbon in half and burned each end before the knots so that we were fully separate. My heart and soul no longer tied to the hurt and pain. I cried for a moment and let it all go.

Last night was the first night in months that I didn’t have any of those memories and thoughts running through my head all night long. The torment that is caused when you can’t get something like this out of your mind, can be so damaging. I was actually able to sleep and dream of other things. The relief that was given to me, priceless. Heavy sigh of relief. I had tried so many things and nothing helped. Sometimes we have to create a physical act for our minds to truly grasp the end and allow us to completely let go.

(Please always make sure that when doing these type of ceremonies that you do them with love in your heart and the best intentions for everyone involved.)

Many Blessings,

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Ceremony of Renewal

Last night I went to bed and heard a little nudge from Spirit telling me to get back up and smudge, and so I did. I made sure and smudged really well with sage and palo santo wood and then made my way back to bed. I knew instantly I would be gifted with a ceremonial vision.

The vision that came to me: I was painted all white with some sort of powder, from head to toe and laid out on a slab of pine. There was a bowl of smudge burning just beneath my head and the smoke billowed down my entire body. Grandmother Spirit was the one doing everything is this particular ceremony. As I lay there covered in this white powder, she prayed and used a large bunch of leaves to move the smudge smoke over my body. She would use a sweeping motion from head to toe as she chanted her prayers. She then took a large pail of ceremonial water (this is water that has been brewing with herbs for a certain amount of time) and started pouring it over me, starting at my head and going down my body. The water washed away the white powder which she called “the ghost of my past”. She washed away all of the powder and then rubbed me down with an herbal salve that she told me was for protection. Another Grandmother Spirit worked on my feet as the other continued with the herbal salve. The Grandmother working on my feet, looks up and tells me that what she is doing is for a good journey ahead, preparing me for what’s to come. Once the two of them are done they started working on a special breast plate for me. They told me that I needed a little extra protection for my heart. It had been weakened too much in the past year and needed guarding more than usual. So they crafted this special breast plate and slipped it over me and continued with their chants and prayers. I looked down and watched as the breast plate faded away and asked what happened. They smiled at me and said it is still there, not to worry. The two of them then continued on with the sweeping motion, brushing the smudge smoke over my body until I fell into a deep sleep.

I woke up feeling fresh and renewed, looking forward to the journey ahead.

I am thankful for such an honored vision and the gift of ceremony preparing me for my new journey.

Thank you always to the Grandmothers who watch over me.

Many Blessings for safe journeys ahead,

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From Nothing to Something

Through the years I have encountered many in my life who would have had me believe I was nothing… and through the years I have always come out proving that I was indeed something more. Sometimes I would go years believing how they made me feel, fighting it all along the way. The core of my being knew that I was not what they would have me believe, but when living with this kind of behavior day in and day out for so long, one can tend to start believing this lie. Everyone has value, if the person you are with cannot see yours then they truly do not belong in your life. It doesn’t always come from romantic relationships, it can come from work, friends, etc. This has been a hard lesson for me, I have relived it again and again. Someday, maybe I’ll truly believe in my own worth and forget the lie that I was lead so often to believe.

Many Blessings,

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Falling in Love

A dear friend of mine posted a picture of a loving young couple and stated that “2015 is going to be the year I fall in love again… Onward and upward Its coming.. its my turn. I can feel it”. (Thank you Januarie for the inspiration)

My instant response to her post was, “I’m going to fall back in love with me!”.

For years I have taken to heart all the terrible things others have said and done to me. I have allowed these words and actions to get stuck in my head, swirling around like a vicious tornado, destroying every positive thought that appeared. I allowed this. These are important words “I ALLOWED THIS”. I would tell myself all the time that I was not what they made me feel like. Their words and actions are a reflection of them and not me. I would repeat these things to myself all the time and yet their negative words and actions still swirled around in my head, leaving me feeling sad, hurt, alone, ugly, useless, undesirable, etc.

I knew these things they said and did were not really about me, so why were they so stuck in my head? Why couldn’t I get them out? Why was I hanging on to them? That’s it! I held on to those words and actions, I was the one who could not let them go. Why? I’m guessing a multitude of reasons, dating back to my earliest memories as a child. I know I wasn’t born to feel this way, so it must have been a million little things throughout my lifetime that just gathered like dust under grandma’s old dresser, that over time built up into the largest, scariest dust bunny anyone has ever seen!

2015 is the year I begin learning how to love myself again. I’m going back to the day I was born. Fresh and new to the world without all the crap others left at my door. I’m no longer a collector of their shit. I am falling in love this year and it’s going to be the best happily ever after in history. I’ll be falling back in love with myself. Loving every imperfect inch of me, flesh and bone, body, mind and spirit. I’m going to love every gift, every fault, every thing that I am. I will own it and I will love it! I will love me! Once and for all I WILL LOVE ME!

This is my gift to myself this year… TRUE LOVE… HAPPILY EVER AFTER.

Many Blessings,

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Reminding Ourselves of the Light

For a while there I had allowed someone to make me feel less than what I am. I lost the light that is inside me. It was still there, NOTHING will get rid of it, but… I lost it. I let doubt in and I could not see my own light for the veil of doubt in front of it. I think a lot of us do this from time to time. We allow life situations and unhealthy relationships to cloud our light and we forget for a moment who we really are and what we are capable of.

It is a great feeling though, when we are able to see past that veil of doubt and wall of negativity and we regain sight of our light. In that moment, we are filled with a fire that seems unstoppable. There isn’t anything that could bring us down or get in our way of reaching our goals and ambitions. Realizing our own light is empowering! We must work hard to keep sight of that light and stay on guard to protect it from being lost in a cloud doubt and negativity that others try to plant inside us.

People like that aren’t needed in your life, the right people will help you shine that light and fan the flames of your fire. The right people aren’t afraid of your light, they will happily join you, creating a bigger beam.

Remember this: Your light is always there… only sometimes it is clouded by muck. Grab a broom and sweep it away! Let your light shine!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

The Most Deadly Virus

It’s a nasty, terrible virus. The side effects are the worst of all. The good thing is that it affects only those who allow it. So you do have a choice in the matter at least. Once you have this ghastly virus, it can be extremely hard to get rid of. THERE IS A CURE!! YES indeed.. A CURE!!!

What virus am I talking about?

This virus is the negativity of others. Hateful, hurtful words and actions of others that get stuck in your head. The pain of rejection from someone else because you didn’t match whatever fantasy they had cooked up in their own head, that’s not really about you, it’s about them and what they had imagined, they are the ones living in fantasy.. don’t allow their voice, their words, their actions get stuck in your head, causing you pain and heartache. Some people are just nasty characters who strive in the misery of others… putting others down, makes them feel better about themselves. Don’t catch their virus. It’s deadly! It’s keeps us from shining, it keeps us down in their muck and let me tell you, nothing good ever happens there. This virus is so damaging, it can hang around for years and for some a lifetime.

Wash your hands of these virus carrying monsters and cleanse your mind of everything about them. They don’t belong in your life or your head. Let their words and actions fall upon the ground around you, don’t give them an inch of room in your head. Let them keep what they send out.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Wash your hands

What If…

What if it’s going to be okay?
What if life isn’t really over?
What if the tears stop falling?
What if I stop reliving the past?
What if my heart becomes whole again?
What if the pain just stops?
What if the bad memories no longer haunt my sleep?
What if smiles and laughter take over?
What if I’m not scared anymore?
What if this hurt becomes nothing more than a memory?
What if I’m going to be okay?
What if love comes calling again?

What if……

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Who Am I?

I’ve been called by many names…. some good, some bad. It has taken me many years to realize that it doesn’t matter what others know me by, what matters is how I know myself. It doesn’t matter what they want to call me… it only matters what I believe within myself to be true.

This is something, I’m sure that we all struggle with from time to time… “Not letting the voice of others get stuck in our head“.

Words hurt and they stick to us like some sort of gorilla glue…. that shit is nearly impossible to get off. It takes a conscious ongoing effort to stop those words from hanging around in our heads. A daily reminder that their words are more of a reflection of them than us. Their words, their opinions… only have meaning to us if we allow them to. Only if we do in fact act out what they have suggested, do we become what they say we are.

Be kind to yourself and don’t be one of those people who sends out those hurtful “gorilla glue” words to others.

Just be kind.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

The Scars

Remember as a kid, how you would compare scars with your friends. Pointing out each scratch and dent, telling the story of how they came to be. As we get older we collect more scars and the type of scars change. In our younger years we collect the scrapes and bruises of physical damage, while as we age we recognize scars in a more mental and emotional way.

Pointing out how this scar came from a bicycle accident and this one was from being bitten by a stray cat and this one here where my finger was caught in the door. Now I stand next to you pointing out the scars from heartache, stress, abuse(self inflicted and other), the scars from failed relationships both romantic and friendships, the scars from my fears, from broken promises(both from myself and from others), scars from falling down (in a non physical way) and the scrapes and bruises endured while picking yourself back up.

This one came from not believing in myself, this one came from giving too much to someone not willing to give back, this one came from rejection, here’s another that came from being afraid, this one is for trusting the wrong person, this one from what I allowed to go on and this one is from love lost. The scars seem to keep adding up, but take a look at how over time, most have healed and others are beginning to heal. The fresh ones you see, they will heal as well and I know that time will be the bandage. Open wounds hurt and that doesn’t change, but knowing that over time the wounds will close and healing will take place is what holds me together for the moment.
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Wake Up Call 101

Awakening thought of the day: If you see me crying, don’t think it is because I am weak… these tears come from having to be strong for so long, hoping that one day I wouldn’t “need” to be …. but in realty, life tells me I need to be stronger. Wake Up Call 101 – thanks life … you suck!

Before long I’ll be moving mountains with all this strength I’m building. As I type these words , a tiny little smirk forms across my face and although life at the moment is less than fun, I have hope that my statement is true. I think to myself, yes, I’ll move mountains! I’ll make my life what I want it to be and I’ll stop trying to make everyone else happy at my own expense.

I know what I would tell myself in the situation. I need to take my own advice.

Take this pain and the lessons and move forward, don’t look back. Use these obstacles to your advantage. Don’t let the pain keep you from moving forward. Pain is temporary. YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS IN ALL WAYS!

When life sucks… make it better. After all I am a magical person… my kisses, as I have always said, are magical… so here I am blowing myself a kiss, making it better one day at a time.

I have the power to change my world.

I have the tools within me to succeed.

I will do this!

Might need a nap first… being strong is tiring .. no .. no nap… move forward. You can nap later… your life needs your immediate attention now.
Many Blessings,

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What it’s like in the storm

Searching for words to say … and I can’t find anything. It’s like … a run down house in the middle of no where that has been long abandoned … no one is there and hasn’t been for a very long time. The weeds have taken over and decay has set in… seen to the world as an eyesore… just left to rot.

Needing some major weeding to be done and some tlc. It’s been a really long time since I have felt like me, wondering if I’ve ever been me. Feeling very lost, alone and afraid of the unknown. Angered at my fragility. Hating that I fall to pieces at the drop of a hat. I shake from the inside out, through the day and I don’t know how to make it stop. Trying to keep my mind occupied on other things but suddenly overcome by reality and I fall to pieces once again. Questioning my existence and why I chose this life. What is all this pain for? Where is the bright side that everyone says is there? Trying my best to keep my eye on the horizon, hoping to see the light that always shows up just after the storm. Giving myself a pep talk every few minutes. I can do this, I am stronger than I feel, I will make it beyond this point, I will get through this storm.

I write this not for sympathy or any of the like, but to help myself heal, saying out loud what is going on inside, for so long I have kept my feelings bottled up, placing my focus on the happiness and well being of others. It’s my turn now and there is a lifetime of healing that needs to be done.

Many Blessings,

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War Paint – The Painted Face

When we speak about war paint, I’m sure most imagine the painted face of a Native American. Well, natives aren’t the only ones who wear war paint. In fact, I painted my face this morning. It may not look to you like war paint, but let me tell you why it is. Just as war paint, in a variety of cultures began with the intention to distract/frighten ones opponents in battle, to connect the person behind the mask to their warrior spirit and to protect the warrior, women have long used their own form of war paint to do the same.

Even without knowing why we make up our faces, when we do, we feel different. Ready to face the world, ready to do battle. The makeup we use helps to disguise many things. It can help hide our insecurities, fears and vulnerability. When we get up in the mornings and dress to step out into the world, we prepare for the battles that may come our way. You’ll notice many, while at home don’t bother with makeup and fancy clothes, because that’s where we feel the most safe, but once we think about stepping outside into the world, our thoughts go to an instinctive behavior to protect ourselves the best way we can. Our choice in clothing, shoes, accessories and makeup are all a part of the ritual for protecting ourselves. So this morning, I put on my war paint. What it hides is a multitude of things. Fear of what’s to come, worry of how I’ll make it through the storm ahead of me, sadness that consumes my thoughts, stress, insecurities and much more. I stand here filled with all of those things, but my war paint is applied to help me face the day and what battles are placed before me with my warrior spirit.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Finding the Wisdom Hidden Inside

We are born with an inner knowing that for the most part in the majority, goes completely untapped. Finding the wisdom hidden inside yourself takes patience, practice and an ability to quiet the mind. You see as children, we live in that inner knowing. Can you remember back to your childhood for a moment? Think about some of the things that you understood without anyone telling you, think about the things you believed without ever being subjected to it, think about the things you did without over-thinking that turned out in your favor…. think back to that time.

In the process of growing up and being “taught” what to think, we forget what we already knew.

How to find that hidden wisdom:

Be patient with yourself.
Practice meditation and practice listening to your intuition.
Learn how to quiet the mind.

It’s not something that happens quickly. I’m sure you will doubt yourself many times before you start actually listening. You will get frustrated and you will give up many times. You will keep trying and eventually you will find yourself trusting that inner knowledge. It’s well worth the time, effort and practice. When we follow our instincts, we find ourselves in a better place, mentally, physically and emotionally. We have to learn the difference between fear and lessons learned. There is a part of us that alarms us when we are about to do something that isn’t good for us… only you can determine if this alarm is going off from fear or from a previous lesson.

There are many forms of meditation. Try all of them until you find ones that work for you. When you find something that works, practice, practice, practice. The more you are able to master the art of meditation, the more you will find yourself hearing and understanding your own inner guide.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Make it Go Away

Barred Owl

Make it Go Away….

Banish the Fear that keeps us from moving forward.
Lose the Doubt that keeps you from knowing your power.
Get rid of the Hurt that keeps you from trying again.
Let go of the Pain that is now in the past.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

The Healing Energy of Purple

Ever wonder how colors effect your mood and other parts of your life?

Every color has it’s own healing properties. Changing colors of a room will give it a completely different feel so why can’t it also effect other parts of your life as well?

Here’s some info on the color purple I’ve found around the web:

PURPLE light has the shortest wave and the highest vibrational frequency. The traditional meaning of the color PURPLE is that of spiritual fulfilment, and it is associated with nobility and power. (I’ve read in several places that royals wore purple because it was more expensive to create than other dyes.)

PURPLE is a deeply rich, comforting and engulfing color that resonates with passion and energy, with the warmth of RED blended with the calmness, coolness and sophistication of BLUE.

PURPLE is used to inspire and motivate us to put our creativity into action.

The color PURPLE is indicative of devotion, Divine healing and healing abilities, kindness, love and lovingness, compassion, care and empathy. PURPLE is also the color of mysticism and spirituality, justice, wealth, dignity, integrity and high rank, and resonates with power and inspiration. PURPLE represents Divine guidance, protection, creativity, art, beliefs, imagination and extra-sensory abilities. PURPLE enhances inspiration, reinforces spiritual awareness and enlightenment and meditative abilities.

PURPLE relates to mystery, perceptions, psychic abilities, transformation, spiritual insight, spiritual renewal and power, psychic healing, balancing polarities, astral projection, paranormal sensitivity, compassion, active dreaming, personal power and inner-wisdom. PURPLE relates to the intuition and is deeply associated with dreams.

PURPLE stimulates our spiritual perspective and is the color of transformation, contemplation, reservation, and meditation. PURPLE uplifts, calms the mind and nerves, offers a sense of spirituality and encourages creativity. PURPLE brings spiritual insights and renewal, and encourages restful sleep.

PURPLE has long been the color of royalty, dating back to a time when the monarch was thought to have a direct link to the heavens. PURPLE resonates with divination and prophecy, angels, psychic healing, psychic abilities, reversing curses and counter-acting negativity/black magic, meditation and inspiration, spirituality, astral projection and the Third Eye.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Choosing Stones & Crystals

crystal2 Crystals & stones have long been used for healing purposes of all kinds. Each one having its own unique properties and qualities. There are websites all over the place that elaborate on all the many different types of crystals and stones and their many uses.

Find a website that you trust when it comes to understanding their properties. Also you have to use your own intuition as well when it comes to picking out one that best fits you and your needs.

So you have done some research and you know what type of crystal or stone you need and now all you have to do is find one. Here’s what you do:

If you are able to go into a physical store and touch the stones, then that is the best way of choosing. Pick up and touch every stone of the type you are looking for with your intentional use in mind. Eventually you’ll pick up a stone that you feel that you just can’t put down or that you’ll keep going back to. THAT is your stone! If you can’t find one that calls to you then you’ll have to find another shop or wait til they have new inventory.

If you can’t get into a physical shop and you are shopping online for your stones then it’s a little bit different since you can’t touch the stones and feel their energy. You’ll have to keep that intentional use in mind while surfing through websites. The same feeling will come upon you when you find THE ONE. It will be stone that you just keep coming back to. A stone that imprints on your mind and connects with you.

I hope this has been of help.. now go out and get some stones!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Spirit Journey

5/4/2014 Tonight as the hours tic by and bedtime approaches I feel Spirit guiding me. I decide to go have a bath and meditate for a while. As tub begins to fill I feel myself in a very calm, relaxed state. I was meditated until I started to wrinkle and just before I got out of the bath I heard a whisper say ” you know better, dip your head under the water as well… you know this is how a cleansing goes before each journey”. I thought for a moment .. but I didn’t want to get my hair wet .. and Spirit whispers .. ” well do as you like but if you don’t dip your head, it is then your choice not to journey”. And so I dipped my head like I was told.

As soon as I slid under the water, a Grandmother spirit appeared overhead and said “Go la nv Ga wo ni ha , you and I will journey tonight. We will walk together in the clouds for a while, there are things I need to show you.” Her face I will never forget, aged but not too aged, graceful and full of knowledge and kindness. Her eyes twinkled and her smile, sincere. She had long flowing, gray hair that seemed to float in the breeze. I cannot wait to journey with her tonight. So, off o my office I got to smudge before bed and then let the night fill my eyes to see what there is to see.

As I lay my head to pillow the journey begins:

Great Grandmother spirit comes to me and begins to bless me with healing waters. First she casts the waters down the center of my body from head to toe and then across my body from side to side tells me that this to keep me centered and aligned. She then begins to rub an herbal ointment on my feet for safe journeys. Next up is the painting of my body, she begins with blue flowers that quickly turn into paint and rubs this all over my neck for a strong and clear voice, my face and entire head is painted white for the crown chakra, except for a purple smudge right in the center of my forehead for clear vision… tiny lines are then painted from the purple dot in my forehead that move from above my eyebrows and circle around to the corners of my eyes, again for a clearer vision. The rest of my body is painted in greens and browns to keep me grounded. My feet and hands are painted white. The palm of my hands have a small, bright fuschia red spot in the center, the white represents energy being formed and the red spot it’s focus. My feet are painted white so that I can easily walk between the worlds.

Now that I am all painted and have been blessed and told all the meanings of the processes that have been done to me, I am given some information to help with the days to come. I’ll keep those things to myself, for they are personal and not to be shared at this time.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Abusive People

This morning I was reading a post by a friend, she spoke about a dream she had that her mother was in. It turns out that her mother was a very angry, negative and abusive person. In the dream, my friend had hoped that her mother might apologize or at least show some remorse for what she had done. That, of course never happened.

I have thought about what I could say to ease the pain of that friend and had a realization that I hope helps many. You see, I know a lot about abusive people, as I have been around them far more than I like to reflect upon. I had an abusive spouse that was abusive in every way that one could be. I grew up with a mother that never saw the sunshine, only the rain. Her entire life revolved around pain and misery and she was more than happy to spread it around. Let’s not forget those abusive friendships, abusive work relationships/encounters, etc.

So, while pondering what words of advice I could give to help my friend move past this pain, I began to think about all the abusive people I’ve encountered in my lifetime. It all really came down to something so simple and true.

All the pain, misery, abuse and negativity that comes from someone is because of them. It is not because of you or anything you have done. It is not any failing on your part, but on theirs. People are angry, abusive, negative, and hurtful because of themselves and their own past. They were not born this way but somewhere down the line they allowed themselves to become it.

You are not the root of how they behave… You were just simply there.

The best way to let it all go is to forgive them for not being able to rise above their own history and become something better than what has happened to them. Forgive yourself for allowing their issues to get inside your own head and cause you pain. Forgive and let it go. Holding on to the pain doesn’t make them any better a person, it doesn’t change what they did or what they will do in the future. It changes nothing. It holds you back from moving forward and from finding your own peace. Let it go. Forgive.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Holding on to Pain and Anger

Someone suggested yesterday that I speak a little about holding on to anger, so here I am talking about holding on to pain and anger. I’m adding in pain, but this should include any type of negative emotion, behavior or thought.

Holding on to these things do us no good at all. They stew inside us and destroy our chances of peace and happiness. Negativity robs us of so many things and can hold us back from progressing forward.

So, you are holding on to anger from something that has happened to you, or you are holding on to pain from a past event or you have developed some sort of negative behavior, stemming from something that happened…. in the PAST. PAST being the keyword here. You cannot go back and change what has happened, you can’t rewind and replay and expect a different result. Why hold on to these thoughts or feelings? What good are they doing? Is the other party learning any lessons, are they suffering from what you continue to hold on to? NOPE! They are most likely oblivious to your own internal pain and self punishment while you suffer daily.

So why hold on?

It’s in the past… it happened. EVERYONE has had bad things happen to us… EVERYONE. You are not alone. LET IT GO! It does not serve you at all to continue holding on to the negativity. It hurts you and you alone… why allow a negative experience from the past to continue interrupting your present and infect your future?

LET IT GO… It will be the best gift you ever give yourself… that release will be your new found freedom.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

My Birthday

Yep today is my birthday … but instead of being happy, I’m very emotional and ready for it to end. This happens every year. I know it’s coming and I try to mentally prepare… I try to get over my obstacles but I have yet to find the trick that works.

You see I have a terrible history when it comes to my birthday, let me explain, then you’ll understand me a little bit more. Growing up I had maybe 2 parties on my birthday one when I was in 1st grade and another when I was 16. Yep that’s it. You see my mother always said she didn’t want to have a party for me because she didn’t want people to think they had to buy me something. She didn’t want others to buy me gifts. I understand that concept because it’s not about the gifts it’s about celebrating your life. It’s about those you love and care for coming together to celebrate the fact that you were born and that you exist in this world.

I understood this even at a very young age but what was hard is going to all my cousins’ birthday parties and giving them gifts and watching them be celebrated while I wasn’t worth celebrating. At least that’s certainly how it felt. I got to watch as others were celebrated and I had to participate in celebrating everyone else, including my mother’s birthday and my dad’s … oh dear would she always get upset if she wasn’t celebrated enough. She was never happy with what others did for her. Nothing was ever exactly how she wanted it.. so I had to prepare for that as well, the backlash that came with her being overly unhappy on her birthday.

So even now I have a hard time with my own birthday. I don’t know how to let go of all those years of holding in the pain. I had to always mask my feelings and just get over it. I wish I knew how to let it go and make it go away but even with all the wisdom, spirit messages and well wishes I just can’t find that magical thing that helps.

I don’t want anyone to feel sorry or bad for me and I don’t want to chat about it … I just want all those years washed away and I want to not feel this way every single year. Distractions are the best … diving deep into a project or doing something completely not related to my birthday is my only way to cope and get beyond this moment.

Now you all have a little understanding for one of my worst pains.

If you see me on one of my birthdays and I’m acting what you might think is a little odd… now you’ll understand why. Just remember … it’s not you … it’s me. LOL

At least I always know that TOMORROW will be a much better day! 🙂

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

There’s a Little Something In My Soul

There’s a Little Something In My Soul…

There’s a Mighty Dragon in my Soul.
His fire runs through my blood, coursing through my veins,
building the flames within that push me further than I’ve ever been.

There’s a Fairy in My Soul.
She prances and flitters to and fro, sprinkling her magic all over me as I grow.
Tiny she may be but her magic is greater than I’ve ever seen.

There’s a Wicked Witch in My Soul.
She casts her spells and boils her brew, giving me a life I never knew. Her cackle contagious just like a smile, sharing with me knowledge from a distant isle.

There’s a Healer in My Soul.
Shaking bones and chanting words that resonate deep within. Collecting energy from the air, healing with a sacred prayer. Sage and incense smoke rising to the heavens, giving me knowledge of all these sevens.

There’s a Monster in My Soul.
Big and scary, feeding upon my fears. Kind and gentle, wiping away the tears. He’s there for my protection, certainly a different kind of astral connection. Giving me the ability to face all those things that scare me, his strength is certainly always there for me.

There’s a Unicorn in My Soul.
Mighty and proud, majestically strong. He carries me from one life to another. Safe passage from here to there. His strength, greater then that of ten bear. A stallion getting me to where I need to be, a truly magnificent sight to see.

There’s a Bright and Shining Light in My Soul.
Consuming my being, ridding me of the darkness that lurks inside. No shadows left to fear, only a loving light with the kindness of a deer. Healing me from inside – out. Leaving behind all the worry, stress, fear and doubt. Shining brighter than the nearest star, releasing me from all of this life’s scars.

Many Blessings,

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Conquering Your Fear

A vision from one of my morning meditations:

At some point, what seems to me now like it may have been in the middle of this mornings meditation, I found myself on a paved road, but the center of the road was flooded with water and had broken away. The edges of the road were jagged and at first I stood there looking at it, knowing I needed to make it to the other side but how?

I examined the road and what parts were left that were still paved and I began walking on the edge to try and make it over to the other side. Suddenly water flowed over the side I was on and now there was no paved edging to walk on. If I was going to make it to the other side I would have to get wet. I would have to fully immerse myself into the water and through my own efforts make my way to the other side.

Water is a symbol of emotions. Good and bad (all emotions). So in this vision, you can see I have a path to follow but my emotions seem to have blocked my way. In fear of facing these emotions, I tried to navigate around them but Spirit took away that possibility, forcing me to make the choice of standing still and not moving forward, running the other way, or facing my fears and facing my emotions by pushing through them.

I stood on the edge of that pavement only for a moment before I realized what was needed. With a little hesitation and one big gulp of gumption.. I jumped right into the water and swam my way across. It turns out I was afraid of nothing. I did not drown, I did not even struggle .. I swam straight across with no trouble at all. When I got to the other side… crawled upon the pavement and looked back at where I had just come from…. I smiled and giggled just a little. What on Earth was I so worried about? I had let my fears stop me from moving forward. I allowed silly thoughts I made up in my own mind to be “Oh this can’t be good”… and I allowed my progress to be halted for a moment. It is true that we are our own worst enemies at times. It is so easy to convince ourselves of just about anything. Be careful of what you allow yourself to believe. Trust yourself and your abilities. Know that you have it within you to make it through whatever life throws in your direction.

It is smart to think before you leap, just don’t let it stop you from moving forward.

Many Blessings,

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Chakras!

What the heck are chakras you say???

Chakras are the points in your body where energy flows from. When a chakra becomes blocked .. illness can set in or we may be thrown off balance, mind, body and soul.

It’s good to do chakra meditation and other chakra alignment work to keep you well and in balance.

Here’s a brief description of the 7 chakras from mindbodygreen.com:

1. Root Chakra – Represents our foundation and feeling of being grounded.
Location: Base of spine in tailbone area.
Emotional issues: Survival issues such as financial independence, money, and food.
Color: Red

2. Sacral Chakra – Our connection and ability to accept others and new experiences.
Location: Lower abdomen, about 2 inches below the navel and 2 inches in.
Emotional issues: Sense of abundance, well-being, pleasure, sexuality.
Color: Orange

3. Solar Plexus Chakra – Our ability to be confident and in-control of our lives.
Location: Upper abdomen in the stomach area.
Emotional issues: Self-worth, self-confidence, self-esteem.
Color: Yellow

4. Heart Chakra – Our ability to love.
Location: Center of chest just above heart.
Emotional issues: Love, joy, inner peace.
Color: Green

5. Throat Chakra – Our ability to communicate.
Location: Throat.
Emotional issues: Communication, self-expression of feelings, the truth.
Color: Blue

6. Third Eye Chakra – Our ability to focus on and see the big picture.
Location: Forehead between the eyes. (Also called the Brow Chakra)
Emotional issues: Intuition, imagination, wisdom, ability to think and make decisions.
Color: Violet

7. Crown Chakra – The highest Chakra represents our ability to be fully connected spiritually. Location: The very top of the head.
Emotional issues: Inner and outer beauty, our connection to spirituality, pure bliss.
Color: Violet (some use white for the crown)

A simple chakra meditation I like to do is as follows:

– First settle in a comfortable position and do a few breathing exercises to relax.

– Imagine each chakra point as the color that represents that energy point. You may visualize it as a colored ball, a window, a flower, a door, etc.

– Visualizing one chakra at a time – see the image – see it’s vibrant color and then open it. (if you visualize a ball.. make it spin, if it is a door ,a window or a flower, then open them.)

– Don’t move on to the next point until you are comfortable with the first one..

– Once you have gone through each energy point – go through them again and again until you feel you are done.

– practice makes perfect – it can take some time to get the hang of it, the more you do this the better you get.

– When you feel like you are done – be sure to close each one before ending your meditation.. stop the ball from spinning or close the windows, doors and or flowers.

Let the healing begin!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

The Rebuild

Inspired by a video that my dear friend Olivia Kemp posted on my Facebook wall this morning.. I feel drawn to write a bit about rebuilding. Rebuilding ourselves.

Okay Olivia .. you asked for it .. so here it goes!

Life can be harsh and people even more so. For those who have been bullied as children and adults… it’s not just school age children that play the part of the bully. The bully can be a school mate, a spouse, a parent, a boss, a co-worker or even a stranger. The damage left behind from the torment that a bully lays upon us can be life changing, devastational and ever so difficult to get over and move past.

Once we have been able to remove ourselves from this destructive person, we have to then start working on the rebuild. We must find a way to repair and rebuild ourselves and the damage that has been done to our heart, our mind and our soul. We don’t want to continue carrying around with us this pain, so we must work to rid it from our lives.

Step 1 is understanding that the things that were said were not about you .. it was always about them. The acts that were done to you was not about how good or bad you are but how they felt about themselves.

Step 2 is understanding that no matter how great you were, how much you loved the other person, the kindness that you tried to show them or anything that you did or did not do .. it wasn’t and still isn’t your place to change them or heal them. They must find the change and healing within themselves.

Step 3 is understanding that you have value. No matter what was ever done or said to you by another.. you DO have value.

Step 4 is knowing who you are and who you aren’t. ( you aren’t a doormat, you aren’t bad, you aren’t the names someone else calls you, you aren’t the pain they are fighting)

Step 5 is to continue growing, learning, living, loving and understanding yourself.

Step 6... keep walking forward.

Step 7 … smile, for you are of great value and you are a survivor!

I hope this blog finds you all well and on the way to recovery..

Many Blessings,

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Daily Insight – Transformation

Transformation…. we all must transform… it is how we grow and evolve.

As life comes at us, bringing everything it has…. the good and the bad, we grow, we learn and we transform.

The key here is to transform with life as it comes… don’t fight it. It’s going to happen no matter what we do so fighting it only causes us that much more heartache and sometimes even trauma. Find that place in yourself where you can find comfort in your own growth and transformation. Fighting with ourselves when we are trying to evolve only causes us more harm and sets us back when we should be continually moving forward.

I know that some changes are hard to take but by fighting this change we only make it that much harder. Don’t think of it as giving in.. think of it as moving forward. Allow nature to take its course and allow yourself that room to grow.

Again, I know this can at times be very hard… but becoming stagnant can be even harder on the soul than one could imagine.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

When Creating For Others

Be sure that when you are creating pieces of art or craft items for others that you feel good yourself when doing the work. Your energy goes into everything you create and so when that item gets a new owner .. not only do they have your creation they also have a bit of your energy. You want to make sure that they receive good, healing and happy energy along with the item and not cruddy, negative or sick energy.

If you feel bad, if you are angry, depressed, hurt, sore, achy or any of the sort then that energy will go into whatever you are doing at the time. Be aware of your own feelings when creating or doing anything.

It’s ok to have a bad or off day… just be aware of what you are doing and how you feel .. whether realted or not that energy is there and it DOES go into whatever it is you are doing… even if you are simply cooking a meal.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Daily Insight – The Energy of Emotions

Be careful not to cling to any emotion… allow yourself to experience emotion without fear of that emotion and without clinging to that emotion.

For instance: When one is happy, you want to hold on to that feeling for as long as you can. You push that moment into being and in doing so you also create a fear of loss with that emotion. This blocks energy from flowing freely through you and all times we need that energy flowing.

Allow happy moments to come and go at their own natural pace. The same is said for all other emotions. When you allow fear to take over you allow road blocks in your own life-spring of energy.

It is hard to let go of that control. We want so badly to keep happiness in our lives, but think about this for a moment. If you are clinging to one particular happy moment … you are blocking other emotions from flowing through you. The same again is said for other emotions…. Anger, hatred, sadness, etc. Live in this moment .. right here .. right now.

What is done is done.. holding on to past emotions is pointless and helps no one.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Daily Insight – Futility

Daily Insight – Futility – Oct. 17

Negative thoughts and behaviors are usually hang-ups from our past. You need to understand that these things have nothing to do with you current situation. You must be careful not to let these behavior patterns dominate your life. Remember that what you send out, comes back to you. If you are sending out negative thoughts about yourself even, guess what comes back to you. If you fear everything then guess what you are sending out… the more you fear the more there is to fear. It is a never ending loop of chaos and drama.

Take a look today at your behaviors, actions, reactions and thoughts. Understanding exactly what it is you are sending out to the world is one of the first steps toward a better you.

Many Blessings for a great day,
Go la nv Ga wo ni ha

Standing Still

Today I want to speak about standing still within so that we can learn more about ourselves. Stepping back to clearly see yourself and how you behave and how you react to life’s many situations.

How many times do we speak when we should have stayed quiet ?
How many times have we taken a leap when we should have stood still?
How many times did we think we saw something that just wasn’t there?
There are so many ways that we learn about self… these are just a few.

The key is learning how to find that place in yourself where you can stop, stand still for a moment and really see clearly .. so that we may not make that leap if it is not needed.. so that we may be able to keep our words quiet until they need to be heard .. and so that we may see things as they are and not how we think they are or how fear would like us to see them or how we wish they were.

It takes time and practice and lots of self discipline to learn about standing still within yourself. Maybe take a few minutes a day to try it at different times throughout your day. Take that time and learn about that place within you. .. get to know it… feel it… love it and you may find that often you will go back to it withmore ease each time you visit.

So lets all take a moment now to sit in the stillness within to have a more clarity of our lives and of ourselves.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Reaching Out to Others

Reaching Beyond Yourself

Reach out beyond yourself.. beyond you own circle.. reach out to friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, people in your community, etc.

It is a great feeling to touch the lives of others in a positive way .. Don’t let the holidays or special events be the only time of the year you reach out to help another.

The greatest gift is a gift given from the heart… gifts come in many sizes and in many ways.. sometimes it is a gift to just listen. Gifts don’t always need to cost money. Give a gift of your time. Whatever you have, reach beyond yourself and give it with your heart… act with love and watch and feel how that love is returned.

Sometimes others just need an ear to listen.. a shoulder to cry on or a friend to lean on… be there for others.. and not just when it’s convienent.

It’s not always easy to be so available… and it’s not that you should ALWAYS be .. you do need time for yourself as well. But try and make yourself more available to help… that’s all I ask today.

You just never know what storm is going on inside someones life and you just may be that smile that helped them make it through.

Most don’t ask for help.. but if you are aware of others and you have opened up your perception of the world around you … then you will know when someone needs that help.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Time for Appreciation

Today being 9-11, I thought this would be fitting.

Take some time today to think about all the things that made you laugh or smile. I bet most of those things had nothing at all to do with material possesions… but more likely they were acts of kindness, friendship, family bonding, and basic human interaction. Maybe it was finding your very first 4 leaf clover, or watching the sunset or rise. Maybe it was the look on someone face when they had lost the plot and became confused… maybe it was your child’s first steps… whatever it was … I can almost guarantee it had nothing at all to do with something you “thought” you wanted or needed.. instead it was something that just came to you freely and without some supermarket price tag.

I’m not saying that life isn’t hard and that there are no tragedies.. today is a reminder that tragedy happens …. I’m simply saying to take a moment and appreciate all the little things in life that bring you unexpected joy.. take a moment to appreciate those around you … tell those close to you that you love them and appreciate them. Hug a whole lot more and complain a whole lot less.

Take time today to appeciate the fact that if nothing else in this world you still have life to live … and if you still have life you have dreams, hopes and possibilities.

Remember to take time daily for appreciating all the great gifts that have come your way. You just never know when one of those gifts will be gone.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Awakening To Your True Self

Lets talk today about Awakening to your true self..

These are my thoughts alone so please don’t think I am saying that any of this
is ultimate truth for all.. because we all need to find our own truths .. and
that indeed is a part of awakening to the true self.

I feel as though we are born to be a certain person … or at least a
particular type person .. we are all born with particular gifts and it is for
us to find those gifts and develop them .. and then take them out into the
world and share them.

As we develop and grow we try on many faces. Hoping to find one that really
fits and feels right.

Awakening to our true self is identifying the face that needs no mask.
Identifying with your own soul .. finding the true you .. and then allowing
that person to be free.

Awakening causes us to put down our masks and be true to not just all that come
in contact with us but also true to ourselves.

We must awaken to the gifts we have been given and we must put them to use.

We must stop finding faults within and stop holding ourselves back with self
created fears and doubts.

We must find love for ourselves and then that love is free to pour out into the
world.

Be proud and not ashamed of who you are.

Be strong and hold your head high. Do not allow the ideas and thoughts of
others make you hide your gifts or any other part of who you truly are.

Awakening to true self gives you freedom from such negative thoughts others may
project onto you.

Awakening to true self … makes you aware of not only your surroundings in
the world.. but also to your own thoughts, actions and gifts.

When you are truly awake .. you see the world with new eyes … like the fog
has been lifted and suddenly things start becoming clear.

It’s not something that happens overnight, so don’t sit there expecting that to
happen..lol

I’m sorry to say that there is not set ritual.. ceremony .. life experience ..
or certain age that the awakening will happen. The awakening will happen
when the time is right and when you are ready.

You might say, “Oh I am ready now”, so I will do ceremony on next full moon
and from that point on I will be awake.. quiet giggle… I won’t say that it
won’t work. What I am saying is that it will work only if it is time and you
are TRULY ready .. so don’t give up .. just continue the journey as you are
guided and learn to trust your inner senses.

The awakening process is a long and often painful one.. again, I will say …
well worth the effort.. 🙂

Many blessings to all
Raventalker

Balance of the Good and the Bad

Today is a good day for me so it’s easy to say that we should take each day as it comes… look beyond the trauma, the stress, the pain and the sorrow and hold your focus on the horizon for the storms never last forever .. they move on quickly (tho it may not seem so) just like the weather.

These are easy words today … because for me at the moment anyway .. the weather is good. But, I have been through many storms and as I reflect back on those times… I have to say that it was keeping my focus on the horizon that got me through each moment of that storm.

In general I am a very positive person.. always looking at the good in everything. That character trait in me has often been the very thing that has gotten me mixed right into the middle of some really bad storms. My eyes, so focused on the positive and the good … that I completely overlooked the bad crap that was standing right in front of me.

So, in saying that … I have to say that we need to find a good balance between the two.

You can’t live your life always looking for that negative aspect of everyone and everything .. for thats all that your world will become.. one giant heap of negative CRAP! You also can’t just look at the positive in everyone and everything … because you will still find yourself deep in the crap. But it would be unexpected crap and sometimes that can tear your world farther apart than always expecting the worst.

BALANCE is the key… I’m still working on that, myself.

It’s certainly not an easy task.. and I don’t have any clever wisdom that will suddenly make it all come into play…. but what I do know is that as long as you are aware of your own view of the world (yours and the world around you) then at least you are working on it and that is the first step forward.

Remember, you can’t just stop at acknowledgement … it has to be an on going task within yourself to see the whole picture every moment of every day.

Sounds exhausting, I know!

But really what we are talking about here is being awake and aware in this moment.. and this one.. and this one … and the next ..

Many Blessings and Good Luck on Your Journeys,
Raventalker

Learning from Nature – The Birds

One of my favorite things to do is to sit out in nature and take in the beauty that surrounds us. Not only is it relaxing and beautiful.. there are many things we can learn from observation. Take a moment to enjoy this video slide show of photos I’ve taken of the birds in my very own back yard. Below is a bit of information about some of our bird friends.

Information below comes from linsdomain.com

The Hummingbird
Hummingbird a symbol for accomplishing that which seems impossible.
It can teach you how to find the miracle of joyful living in your own life.

Hummingbird medicine is herbal; it shows us how to use flowers for healing.
They teach us how to draw life essence from flowers and create your own medicines.

This totem reminds us to explore the past and extract the sweetness from it.
It can help you find joy and sweetness in any situation.
Grab joy as swiftly as you can.

The Cardinal
Cardinal reminds us that no matter what time of the day or year it is,
there is always the opportunity to recognize the importance of our life purpose.
They remind us to add “color” to our life and to remember that everything you do is important.

The Blue Jay
If you have a Blue Jay totem, you must learn to use your personal power properly. Be careful not to become a bully.

If Blue Jay is your totem, you may have tremendous abilities and potential, but you must learn not to be scattered and neglect to develop your abilities to their fullest. Blue Jay people can become dabblers – a little bit of knowledge about many things but master of none. Develop your gifts and you will have unlimited potential.

The Bluebird
Bluebird is a reminder that you are born to happiness and fulfillment,
but you can sometimes get so wrapped up in everyday things, that happiness seems rare.
Bluebird reminds you to take time to enjoy yourself.

Bluebird is symbolic of the need to work hard and play hard.
Be careful of shouldering too much responsibility.

The Finch
A Finch totem increases the opportunities to experience a variety of activities.
Everything is amplified.
There is a distinct possible of mingling with a wide variety of people and environments. Life will become more active after a Finch totem has arrived in your life.

The Chickadee
Chickadee is associated with the thinking process, higher mind and higher perceptions.
It is also associated with mystery and the feminine.
Chickadee can help you uncovering the mysteries of the mind.
With a Chickadee totem, you can perceive more clearly in the dark and understand higher truths.

For the Cherokee, Chickadee is the bird of truth.

The Robin
A Robin totem will stimulate new growth in all areas of your life.
Believe in yourself as you move forward.
Obstacles will fall by the wayside if you do and confrontations will be for show only.
This totem gives you the ability to will new growth into your life.
Meditate on Robin and the correct path will be revealed to you.

The Woodpecker
When a Woodpecker totem enters your life, it indicates that the foundation is there and it is safe to follow through. It will stimulate new rhythms. It reflects a wakening of new mental faculties.

You may be so wrapped up in mental and spiritual activities that you’ve neglected the physical.
Listen to your body’s rhythms and sounds and heed what it is telling you.

Many Blessings for a Great Day,

Raventalker

….And We Shall Celebrate!

For those of us who are the givers in this world.. remember to take some time for yourself…. it’s ok .. no reason to feel guilty for taking a moment for you … you are worthy and you deserve just as much as anyone else.

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As the wind blows we shall embrace our freedom and we shall fly.

We shall explore all the wonders of not only life here on Earth but in the spirit world as well …

Most important we shall explore all the wonders of ourselves and we shall celebrate.

We shall swim the rivers within and splash around in all that we are and we shall celebrate.

We shall walk the many paths of who we are and frolic in the essence of self and we shall celebrate.

For we are worth celebrating.. even if no other cares – we care and we celebrate our own being.

All life is sacred and should be celebrated and we shall not be left out for we are worthy!

This life is each our own and we shall celebrate .. we shall dance!
Many Blessings and Celebrations,
Raventalker

An Unexpected Break Through

me and mom

Ok so I’m sure this happens to everyone at some point and time.. you think you have gotten past something and BAM you realize that maybe you haven’t.

So I’m at the gym .. did my all time best on the bike today 10.69 miles in 35 minutes .. wooohoooooooooooo …. I’m hot and tired but feeling good about my accomplishment .. proud I made myself go to the gym today .. then off to the sauna I on my usual routine.

The sauna can be an awkward place some days .. depending on who else is in there .. you have all personality types do deal with… some won’t speak or look at anyone else.. some will speak briefly to say hello.. some will just nod and others don’t mind striking up conversations.

Well after the men leave the sauna there is a lady that comes in and sits right next to me… at first we both sit there silent .. relaxing .. enjoying the sauna and then I spoke up and mentioned how nice it is that the weather is going to be cooling off into the mid 80s this week and from that point we continued to chat.

She was telling me about one of her daughters in college and how last year she was called to a college in Seattle to speak and how worried she was letting this child go alone because she is oblivious to all things around her. Well the story goes on with the daughter getting in a car with a 26 year old man she had just met .. he offered to take her to the airport and her being the naive one says .. ok no problem and gets in the car with this man.. everything turned out ok.. the man wasn’t an axe murdered or rapist .. thank goodness… but the daughter said to her mom.. it’s ok Mom, he’s a vegan! hahahaha what the heck does that have to do with anything! The mother was at a loss for words.. and explained to me this is how her daughter is and went on to say her son is street smart and totally opposite of the daughter, thank goodness .. she says ..

Well then she asks me if I was that way as a kid or was I more like her son.. street smart…

I replied with .. oh very street smart .. always looking at everyone around me s if they were up to something..lol… and then something made me tell her about when I was 4 I had to watch after my two younger cousins because we had an uncle that lived a block from my grandmother’s house and when my grandmother would leave at dawn to go for her daily walk he would make is his way up to her house where we laid there sleeping without anyone else in the house. So, now you know his intentions. I need not describe what he would do to us.

It only took once for me to then be aware and make myself aware when my grandmother would leave and at that point when I heard him making his way up the trail I would grab my cousins and we would hide or run out of the house and up into the woods until my grandmother got back home. He would on occasion catch us …. thankfully not often… those times were few and far between for me at least .. I have no idea about my cousins when they were there without me.

So the next thing she says to me is …. I bet you didn’t sleep well as a child.

OMG! Ding Ding Ding .. the bells go off and the light is on … I said to her .. I still don’t.. I never have been able to sleep … and never even thought to put 2 and 2 together.

Then I got emotional.. I had thought I had made peace with it all but at that moment in telling her my story I relived it all again and then when she mentioned not sleeping .. I was stunned.. and I broke down… it was a break through way over due. I’ll be interested in seeing if now after nearly 40 years I’ll begin to actually sleep at night without the tossing and turning and the restlessness that I have had since I can remember.

I stepped out of the sauna and went to refill my water bottle and it was all I could do to hold back the tears. I went on out to my car and sat there for a few minutes.. collecting myself and my thoughts … trying to keep it together.. WOW! So you could say going to the gym today did far more than help heal my body … it may have also just healed a part of me that has been so long ago damaged.

What happened to me as a child is something I’ll certainly not ever forget …. these type things we live with each and every day of our lives. I never told my mother … she had told me about her brother this to her and her sisters and how she still had issues from it … I guess she told me the story as a way to make me aware of what he could do .. hoping it wouldn’t happen to me.. so even at the early age of 4 I could see and feel the pain that it had caused her and I then felt that I had to protect my mother from more harm from this brother .. I thought that if she found out that he had done the same to me that it would have crushed her .. so I thought that I could be stronger and could handle the burden and protect her from further damage. I was now very aware and I took this responsibility upon myself to protect my mother.. my cousins and me… and as I sit her telling you the story .. I think back to when my own children were 4 and can’t imagine them bearing something like this at that age .. I guess the survival mode kicks in at all ages.. and this was my way of survival back then. My mom still doesn’t know. This is certainly something I’ll never tell her, I still feel that she wouldn’t be able to handle knowing it. It’s hard enough knowing myself.

I am ever so thankful for this chance meeting with a woman I don’t even know. I’m still in shock really .. the next few days I’m sure to have many moments of reflection and at the end I hope to be stronger and more aware.

Wow…. pretty much sums this up for me.. just wow!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Starting Over

Every day we wake up .. we have another opportunity to begin again.. no matter what happened the days, weeks, months or years before.. every new days offers us a NEW chance to begin again.

Whether it is getting back on track with a diet and excercise routine or mending relationships.. each day brings us an opportunity.

What you do with that opportunity is what really matters.

Stop beating yourself up over things you wish you had or hadn’t done just start fresh with that new days clean slate and make the changes you so desparately want and or need.

It’s never too late to be who you always wanted to be.

Take each day as it is .. an opportunity to learn, grow, heal and move forward.

Many blessings for a great and prosperous day,
Raventalker

The Possibilities are Endless

You’ve heard it before… “The possibilities are endless”

I’d like to argue but really I’d just be making excuses. If we want something bad enough … we have it in us to obtain whatever it is we seek.

Ok, so someone says … I’d like to obtain a million dollars…. well with work, planning and dedication.. I’m sure thats a goal one could certainly obtain.

Is it easy?

I don’t think that was ever a part of the phrase nor do I think anyone ever thought the two go hand in hand… You know that other saying… “Nothing worth while comes easy”

Here are some thoughts I’d like to leave you with today ….

What is it you truly want?
How far are you willing to go to reach that goal?
Are you ready to work for it?
Do you believe you can do it?

What are you waiting for?

To quote from the movie Soul Surfer ” I don’t need easy, I just need possible.”

What possibilities are waiting for you?

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

All Signs Point To…..

On my in to work this morning I was greeted right away with the angelic numbers 222. (222 meaning – Have faith. Everything’s going to be all right.)

This made me smile as I felt blessed and comforted seeing the numbers there in front of me as I drove to work. I began to think about signs in general.. what they mean to people and their significance to others.

I also thought for a moment about those who would like to tell us that we make things up to mean things and that none of it really means anything .. we just say that it does.

Then I thought … well who cares if it is real or not. If I am able to find comfort in something as simple as a set of numbers, then whats the harm… what does it matter to anyone else but me. It means something to me and that is all that matters.

The truth is that none of us can truly say what is at the end of our road until that end has come to be. Having faith and something to believe in doesn’t hurt anyone at all. If in times of stress, hardship, struggle, loneliness or whatever the case may be .. you are able to find comfort in whatever sign it is you have chosen to see then so be it. You are the only one effected by the sign.. so whats the big deal. Why is it some are so bent on arguing about what sign you chose to believe in and whether or not it is a real sign or not??? I think maybe the case is that they have their eyes closed so tightly to what cannot be explained that they don’t “SEE” .. and when others say that they have “SEEN” they feel.. .well they feel a bit left out and since they haven’t “SEEN” any signs then they must not be real.

Finding comfort in finding a feather.. seeing sets of numbers.. hearing a birds call… feeling like someone of a higher power is watching over you harms no one. Go ahead and believe as you wish .. it is all our given right.

Signs are everywhere you just have to ask for them. When asking for a sign you are making yourself aware of your surroundings.. so what was there all the while is now visible to you.

Just as that line from one of my favorite songs goes… Only the ones who believe, ever see what they dream, ever dream what comes true.

So says the raven today… DREAM.. BELIEVE.. HAVE FAITH.. LIVE.. LOVE… LAUGH and SEE!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

STOP! You’re Going the Wrong Way!

How many times have you started down a path that you just knew was not the right path for you?

This happens to us all. It’s all a part of life and being human, making mistakes, learning and growing. I can tell you from far more experience than I’d like to admit …. that path is a torturous one.

So there we are walking down the path laid before us… something inside us tells us something is wrong. The universe starts throwing signs in front of us to let us know that this path we have started on is not the one for us and yet we continue to walk forward. Oh how silly are we? We don’t intend on taking the wrong path. We don’t intend on making our lives harder, but somehow .. there we are… doing just that! Ignoring our own inner knowing and ignoring the signs in front of us.

Why? Why do we do this?

So many factors come in to play as to why we go down that wrong path.

Every path, every situation, our motives and reasons for our choices are different. Here are just a few of examples as to why oh why we go down that road:

Sometimes it is ego… dare we admit we have made a mistake..LOL…damn that ego!

Sometimes it is worry and fear. Worried that we are afraid of the path unknown to us, afraid of hurting others, afraid of what if I’m just making excuses and this is the right path. Don’t you just love it when you argue with your own inner knowing.

Sometimes it is a case of walking past that point where you feel you have already traveled beyond that half way point and you think to yourself.. well I might as well keep going to the end. You tell yourself that turning around and going back is further than just going on and making it to the end. Ummm, hello! Is it not further to keep going in the wrong direction and then having to turn around .. than it is to just stop what you are doing .. no matter the point… and get your butt back to the beginning to travel down the road better suited for you?

When in the thick of it all, we have a hard time seeing clearly. We question every move, we ignore the obvious and we make excuses not only for ourselves but for others and for our actions and motives. Hoping for the best and intending on doing the right thing for all involved.

I mean really! Who wants to admit they are wrong??? hahahahaha I can laugh now … but during those times when I was on that wrong road… whew, was it ever so hard and troubling!

I believe this is something we will all do at some point in our lives and often more than once in our lifetime. The key is recognizing your mistake and in the best way that you can … correcting it. People will get hurt, times will be hard… but we all have the ability to heal and in the end everyone will benefit from better choices.

Pay closer attention when life throws you a road block… there must be a reason for it. Don’t make things out to be more complicated than they need be and don’t let fear guide you. I know… easier said than done.. but the first step is realization.

Many blessing for a path well traveled,
Raventalker

The Upside of Living

I won’t pretend life is all roses and smiles… life gets crazy, hectic, hard, painful and down right insane at times… BUT … my message for you today is … The Sun is ALWAYS Shining.

Beyond the clouds… the sun is ever shining. Though we may sleep .. the sun never does.. it’s rays of light are continuous.. and when the moon takes it’s rest and the clouds part way… we are given the gift of light to brighten our way.

Take each day as it comes…. hardships are expected …. none of us are immune to that fact… but how we make it through.. how we handle ourselves through those times.. how we endure.. is completely up to us. We can give in or we can fight it out.

When times get hard and you are finding it difficult to keep going .. think about the bright days you’ve already had.. think of the blessings that have come your way .. remember the days when smiles and laughter filled your heart and know that those days will come again.

Hard times are temporary just like the weather… hang in there and keep walking forward. Brighter days are just around the corner. Focus on the positive. Let the negative slip away.

Many Blessings and great big hugs to all,
Raventalker

The Good and the Bad

Inspired by the words of a friend this morning … “Its the choices we make in the toughest of times…that show us and others who we really are….” by Bear Medicine Walker

I thought I’d take some time to elaborate on this topic for a moment.

It’s easy to be great when things are going well… but when things go bad that’s when our true colors and our true nature sings out loud.

We may not make the best choices or decisions during hard times but if we are of good intentions and a good heart, we will do the best with what we have and what we know.

Mistakes happen .. we all fall down from time to time. It’s easy to be pulled down into a slump of depression and negativity… but it’s how we pull ourselves out of it that matters most. The will and intent to want to pull yourself out of the darkness and into the light says more than words could ever do.

I want to offer just a small bit of advice at this time: Please do not judge others by their immediate actions.. instead take a longer look at the whole picture and give them time to regroup. Treat each as you would hope you would be treated in times of hardship and struggle.

If I alone were to be judged by some of my decisions and actions from the past … Ooooooo boy would I be in a world of trouble.

We each walk our own path … although it may seem similar to another .. each walk is different.. with different circumstances, experiences, knowledge or lack of and different actions and reactions. None should be compared to another.

Our life here is about learning and growing … so mistakes will be made without doubt. EVERYONE makes them .. big , small…. we all are similar in this way.

Be kind to others as you walk through your day .. you just never know what they may be going through … behind that smile maybe a broken heart, a stressed mind and a confused weary soul… so be kind and considerate with your actions always.

Many blessings for a great day!
Raventalker

Watch Your Words

The simplest of statements can change who you are and how you feel and how you live.

Think about these statements for a moment and think of how many times you may have said them …

I am broke
I am sick
I am hurt
I am sad
I am afraid
I can’t do it
I don’t know how…

Think for a moment how these statements effect you …

Now change your statement to define you in a better way

I’m not broke.. I just don’t have the money right now … but its coming

I’m not sick .. I’m just not feeling my best at the moment .. but better days are ahead

Here’s to using better words…

Many Blessings for a great and prosperous day,
Raventalker

Magic Wish

I wrote this a few years back and thought it was a time to reshare 🙂
Don’t Make Me

Don’t make me call on the rain to hide the tears

Don’t make me call on the wind to carry away the fears

Don’t make me!

I tell you I have been there … so many times.. I have visited this place … you know.. that sad place deep inside you where you go to when you’ve been hurt.. when you’re sad and lonely .. when you feel like no one else in the world feels the way you do.

That place you escape to … that place where you think no one will notice how sad and lonely you are or how deeply hurt you may be..

I just wanted to send out a great big {{{hug}}} to all those finding themselves in that place.

So I’m posting this little message to let you know you’re not alone.. there are people who care.. you just have to let them help you .. let them love and care for you ..

Pull yourself out of that lonely place and try to have a bit of fun.. laugh … and live .. don’t let anyone make you feel like you don’t deserve to be loved ..

Here’s a bit of magic coming your way .. hoping you’ll be able to laugh and have some fun … and most importantly feel the love this magic wish brings

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Now close your eyes and count to three…
Nod your head and accept this magic wish I send to out thee…..

Jump up and stomp the ground .. bang on the floor and make a lot of sound!

Turn on some musical tunes … now scream and shout at the moon

Spin and turn around really really fast … keep on going as I finish out this wish I cast

Now stop and throw your arms up into the air ….
Cast away all your worries and all your cares

Pull your arms in really close and give yourself a great big hug …
Hold on tight…. make it really really snug

Feel the magic from above .. feel the warmth and all my love

I’m sending you now, a magic feather
Now see.. don’t you feel better?

Many Blessings of love and magic,
Raventalker

It’s NOT Okay!

I wrote this several years ago… and you know.. I STILL find myself saying this … not as much .. but I still do say it even tho I don’t mean it. Personal or professional life.. we all do this in one way or another.

It’s OK

… how often do you find yourself saying this???

Someone does something intentional sometimes and most times not. It leaves you with bad feelings in one way or another and you say .. “It’s ok”.

But is it really ok?

What do you do with those feelings you are left with?

Are you able to manage them away? Do you just bury them deep inside you.. in that place where we often place the things we don’t want to deal with .. or don’t know how to deal with .. or are afraid to deal with?

I find myself so often saying this little phrase… as small as it is … it can be very damaging inside.

Not sure how to stop myself from just saying “it’s ok”. Being the kind of person that I am, always wanting to please others and not make anyone feel bad .. wanting to fix all that is wrong with the world. How do I stop myself from saying “it’s ok” and still not feel guilty for possibly making someone feel bad because of it?

Another question in saying that is why is it “I” feel guilty about telling someone it’s NOT ok and that I am hurt or feeling negative from whatever it was that happened? Especially when I am speaking about something the other person did or said .. because that is the reason we say “it’s ok” to begin with. Telling them not to worry about their words or actions. Telling them not to worry that their words or actions may be causing pain to another.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm .. oh dear .. it looks like I have opened yet another can of worms inside myself.. now how to work it all out and learn from it and heal myself from all the many years of saying “it’s ok”.

and …..

Will the day ever come that I will find myself not ever HAVING to say “it’s ok” ???

I guess only time will tell .. but I’m certainly not holding my breath…lol

I’d DIE! lol

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Allow Yourself

With life being ….. well LIFE .. we often find ourselves shutting things out. Lots of things… in fact far more than we realize. You can’t live a life closed off from life’s experiences. You have to allow yourself to FEEL … to LOVE … to CREATE … to LIVE!

Allow healing…. Allow laughter…. Allow sorrow… Allow pain… Allow love… Allow appreciation….. Allow yourself all things from all experiences.

Just like that great quote: To know great happiness you must first experience great sorrow.

It’s true… How would we know happiness if we didn’t understand and know the depths of pain and sorrow?

We get hurt and we put up a wall… we fail and we put up another wall… we become unhappy and we put up even more walls.. sooner or later we are just surrounded by walls and we are not only keeping the bad things out but we aren’t letting the good things in either. So we doom ourselves to carry on living without experiencing.

If I had put up a wall every time I got hurt or failed at something … OMG .. I would be a hermit living in a vast forest with no contact with the world at all. I’d be so sad, alone and I would have died in the same way … very sad and very alone..

I can’t imagine missing all the moments of love, beauty, magic and wonder… I would have missed it all if I had put up walls from past hurts.

Not meeting my bestest friends… would have also been missed if I had of put up walls and closed myself off to new friendships because of past friendships gone wrong.

If I had closed myself off to the world… I don’t think I could paint or create a thing… for what experiences would I be able to draw from except from pain and solitude?

My message today: Don’t be afraid to fall down… getting up and giving it your all is well worth a few scrapes and bruises along the way… LIVING is so much better than existing.

Many Blessings,

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Meditation Tips

Meditation is a great tool … There are many forms of meditation and many reasons why one might meditate.

It helps to relax, reduce stress, helps with anger, sleep, focus and can also help remember past events or even past lives. These are just a few of the things that you can do with meditation.

It’s best to try many types of meditation until you find the one that is right for you.

When just beginning to meditate it can help by listening to tranquil music and then even more so if you use headphones. The headphones will help drown out any outside noises while you learn your meditation.

The more you do the better you become. It can sometimes be hard to focus and stop the mind from wandering in the beginning. Practice makes perfect.. the more you meditate the better you become at it and soon you’ll be able to meditate with little or no trouble at all.

There are many techniques online… I suggest you google meditation techniques and try out as many as you like. You will find that some are easier for you than others. Everyone is different and so what works for one may not work for another.

Practice visualizing ordinary, everyday things.

Part of meditation is the ability to visualize… start out with closing your eyes and visualizing ordinary, everyday objects, when you master one object… move on to another .. soon you will be able to do this with ease.

Guided meditation vs self guided meditation…

Guided meditation is where someone else is talking you through a meditation technique and self guided is where you memorize steps to a meditation and do it by memory alone.

Guided meditation can sometimes work better simply because you are focused on the words someone else is saying and you are able to completely let go and ease into the picture that they paint for you with their wording.

When you memorize a meditation and do a self guided meditation.. you have to try and let yourself go to the place you are seeking along with continuing to guide yourself down that path.. so you can see how that maybe like trying to live in two worlds at one time.

Try both … one may suit you better than another and then again sometimes you will find certain types of meditation are best self guided and others work better guided by someone else… like past life regression.

When trying to remember a past life .. it is easier to participate in a guided meditation .. that way someone else guides you down that path while you are able to completely let go and travel that road without the task of keeping yourself on track… it is the responsibility of the other person to do that and you can have the freedom to roam about that life fully. Also it’s good to have someone else with you as you explore past lives or even past events in your current life so that if you go too deeply or experience great tragedy .. they can see you struggling and bring you back up if needed.

Comfort – You must be in a comfortable place when meditating .. you can’t be too hot or too cold or uncomfortable in general…. it breaks your concentration and disrupts the process.

I hope these tips have helped.

Many Blessings,

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