Old traumas may be brought up today for you to deal with, face head on and then release and let go of them. Remember that pain doesn’t exist in this moment, it is only a memory from the past. Your experiences do not define you… you define yourself!
Many Blessings,
Waya
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Today I speak about feeling stuck. Stuck in a life you don’t want… Your journey has been difficult to say the least and it feels like you are destined to remain in this life that you certainly never wished for, hoped for or dreamed of having. You’re not really stuck.. it’s just an illusion. There is a way out!
Many Blessings,
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Something I know too much about… toxic relationships and staying far too long. There are so many reasons we give ourselves for staying. None of them are really worth the pain that we endure. The biggest reason is that it’s familiar to us and we know what to expect each day… it doesn’t matter that it’s painful.. we know that pain and we know what to expect from it.
Many Blessings
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Dear Heart,
I know it has been a long and tiring road for both of us, but hang in there, we are finally mending and better times are near. It has taken a lot of trial and error and you have never let me down. Time and time again you take all that you can take and continue to give all that you have. Many have come with lies and deceit, making promises they were never intending to keep. Still, you continue to love. Every time I have fallen, you have been there to pick me back up. When I thought I couldn’t, you told me that I could. When no one else loved me, it was you that reminded me that I was love. I am so sorry that I have been unable to deliver the kind of everlasting love that you give, but know that I won’t give up until I do. Your patience is beyond compare. Your trust is unfailing. Your strength is something few will ever be able to comprehend. No matter how beaten and abused, you remain the loving light that refuses to douse it’s flame. In fact, on our worst days is when I noticed your light the brightest. Pushing your rays of hope and love through the darkest of moments, you have brought me through those times when all I wanted to do was give up. I have faith that there is a love out there somewhere in this world that matches our own. Until we find that love, I promise to protect you from those who wish to do us more harm and promise that I’ll not give up the search til the universe takes away my last breath. You are worth all the love I can find to give.
Yours truly,
Holly
Many Blessings,
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I am a survivor of all kinds of abuse, from being molested as a child to being stalked, having a gun pointed at them and from physical, mental and verbal abuse, from being bullied and made fun of to being made to feel like I was nothing at all. Many times I wanted to check out of this life and end the pain. Every time I found a reason to stay. I survived… you can too. There is help, but you must tell others what is going on and ask for the help.
Many Blessings,
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Through the years I have encountered many in my life who would have had me believe I was nothing… and through the years I have always come out proving that I was indeed something more. Sometimes I would go years believing how they made me feel, fighting it all along the way. The core of my being knew that I was not what they would have me believe, but when living with this kind of behavior day in and day out for so long, one can tend to start believing this lie. Everyone has value, if the person you are with cannot see yours then they truly do not belong in your life. It doesn’t always come from romantic relationships, it can come from work, friends, etc. This has been a hard lesson for me, I have relived it again and again. Someday, maybe I’ll truly believe in my own worth and forget the lie that I was lead so often to believe.
Many Blessings,
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This morning I was reading a post by a friend, she spoke about a dream she had that her mother was in. It turns out that her mother was a very angry, negative and abusive person. In the dream, my friend had hoped that her mother might apologize or at least show some remorse for what she had done. That, of course never happened.
I have thought about what I could say to ease the pain of that friend and had a realization that I hope helps many. You see, I know a lot about abusive people, as I have been around them far more than I like to reflect upon. I had an abusive spouse that was abusive in every way that one could be. I grew up with a mother that never saw the sunshine, only the rain. Her entire life revolved around pain and misery and she was more than happy to spread it around. Let’s not forget those abusive friendships, abusive work relationships/encounters, etc.
So, while pondering what words of advice I could give to help my friend move past this pain, I began to think about all the abusive people I’ve encountered in my lifetime. It all really came down to something so simple and true.
All the pain, misery, abuse and negativity that comes from someone is because of them. It is not because of you or anything you have done. It is not any failing on your part, but on theirs. People are angry, abusive, negative, and hurtful because of themselves and their own past. They were not born this way but somewhere down the line they allowed themselves to become it.
You are not the root of how they behave… You were just simply there.
The best way to let it all go is to forgive them for not being able to rise above their own history and become something better than what has happened to them. Forgive yourself for allowing their issues to get inside your own head and cause you pain. Forgive and let it go. Holding on to the pain doesn’t make them any better a person, it doesn’t change what they did or what they will do in the future. It changes nothing. It holds you back from moving forward and from finding your own peace. Let it go. Forgive.
Many Blessings,
Raventalker
In my life, I have been told many things. Negative thoughts, words and actions have come my way more than I’d like to say.
I’ve been told I was nothing and that I would never be anything.
I’ve been called names, names that are too hurtful to repeat.
I’ve been made fun of.
I’ve been pushed around.
I’ve been bullied.
I’ve been ignored.
I’ve been beaten.
I’ve been over-looked.
I’ve been pushed aside.
I’ve been taken for granted.
I’ve been stalked.
I’ve been abused.
I’ve been made to feel worthless.
I’ve been hurt in many ways but here I am.
I stand here with a smile upon my face and love in my heart… despite those who have tried to take me down. I won’t lie and tell you it hasn’t been hard. There were many times I just wanted to give up and disappear. Something inside me said… this is not you and this is not how it will end. Something inside me said I was far more than others would have had me to believe. I took that little voice and held it close to my heart and allowed myself to believe that I was more and that I would rise above what had been said and done to me.
I’m sure that my struggles are far from over … just as I’m sure that I’m a fighter and a survivor in this life and I’m not done yet.
For all of those going through the struggles of life .. I’d like to say .. don’t give up … believe in yourself. Don’t let others get you down and don’t for one minute believe in their negativity. There will always be someone wanting to make you feel less than simply because they themselves feel less than. Get yourself away from those kind of people. Their opinions and actions reflect who they are and have nothing at all to do with who you are.
You are who YOU decide you are !
Many Blessings,
Raventalker
Inspired by a video that my dear friend Olivia Kemp posted on my Facebook wall this morning.. I feel drawn to write a bit about rebuilding. Rebuilding ourselves.
Okay Olivia .. you asked for it .. so here it goes!
Life can be harsh and people even more so. For those who have been bullied as children and adults… it’s not just school age children that play the part of the bully. The bully can be a school mate, a spouse, a parent, a boss, a co-worker or even a stranger. The damage left behind from the torment that a bully lays upon us can be life changing, devastational and ever so difficult to get over and move past.
Once we have been able to remove ourselves from this destructive person, we have to then start working on the rebuild. We must find a way to repair and rebuild ourselves and the damage that has been done to our heart, our mind and our soul. We don’t want to continue carrying around with us this pain, so we must work to rid it from our lives.
Step 1 is understanding that the things that were said were not about you .. it was always about them. The acts that were done to you was not about how good or bad you are but how they felt about themselves.
Step 2 is understanding that no matter how great you were, how much you loved the other person, the kindness that you tried to show them or anything that you did or did not do .. it wasn’t and still isn’t your place to change them or heal them. They must find the change and healing within themselves.
Step 3 is understanding that you have value. No matter what was ever done or said to you by another.. you DO have value.
Step 4 is knowing who you are and who you aren’t. ( you aren’t a doormat, you aren’t bad, you aren’t the names someone else calls you, you aren’t the pain they are fighting)
Step 5 is to continue growing, learning, living, loving and understanding yourself.
Step 6... keep walking forward.
Step 7 … smile, for you are of great value and you are a survivor!
I hope this blog finds you all well and on the way to recovery..
Many Blessings,
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