Old Trauma Revisited

Old traumas may be brought up today for you to deal with, face head on and then release and let go of them. Remember that pain doesn’t exist in this moment, it is only a memory from the past. Your experiences do not define you… you define yourself!

Many Blessings,

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Will I Ever Be Happy?

The number one question I get all the time. Will I Ever Be Happy?

I give you the answer that spirit gives me. I have also struggled with this in my life but I have learned to listen and understand .. FINALLY!

I hope you enjoy my explanation of Finding Happiness Within and I hope more than anything that you too will also be able to find and experience it!

Many Blessings,

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We are NOT our Stories

Our experiences in life are our stories. They happened, they are real but now they are nothing more than thoughts. We hold dear the stories that enlighten us, that make us feel good, we remember the lessons learned from the teaching stories… but we let go of the story itself. We are not the story. We are the spirit that had the experience but we are not the story itself. Whatever it is you need to let go of… let it go… it is nothing more than a thought to you now…. it is not what is happening right here, right now… it’s in the past which makes it nothing more than a story… a thought.

Many Blessings,

Finding Balance

Life is busy and can be chaotic… we get an up close point of view when we really need to be able to step back from time to time so that we can see the bigger picture. We should not live in the past but don’t forget the lessons it taught us…. we should not live too far in the future that it takes us away from living in the moment. We have to find a balance between then, now and tomorrow. It takes putting distance between you and your situation to see the bigger picture. Take the time when things start feeling out of place to do that.  Step back and really look at what’s going on… in the physical form and mental form.

Many Blessings,

Who is Raventalker?

Edited in Lumia SelfieI’ll tell you who I am …. for one, I’m a mess! A great big, giant mess of a woman! I love way too much and believe in myself way too little. I have baggage, loads and loads of baggage. The good thing is, I know about the baggage I carry and I am always trying my best to lighten the load. I am forever working on being a better me. Always working toward resolving any issues I may have with myself or my past, always teaching myself new things and eager to grow in as many ways as I possibly can. I won’t lie though, some things scare me to death so I dare not say that I am fearless in any way. I worry all the time and quite often about things that will never happen. I am ever curious and some might say a bit crafty 😉 .

I love finding new ways to be creative and express myself in all forms of art. I have dabbled in painting, stained glass, lampwork, weaving, sewing, knitting, leather work, sculpting, prop building, photography and writing .. just to name a few. The act of visualizing something and then working with your hands to make this vision a reality is an exciting challenge I am always ready to take on. I don’t have to be the best at anything, I just try to be the best me and do my own personal best at whatever challenge I decide to take on. I land where I land, on top, in the middle or even sometimes at the bottom.. as long as I have felt like I did my best, it doesn’t matter where others may rank me.

I am a hopeless romantic, a dreamer of dreams and a believer in magic. Some might say that magic isn’t real, dreams are for the foolish and that romance never lasts…. I say, we each make our own magic, dreams are worth following and romance is exactly what the world needs. Romance, magic and dreams die only if we allow them to. In my world, these things are what keep me smiling and hoping. They are why I have never given up this fight for life, even when my world seemed to be falling apart… magic, dreams and romance kept me going. I know they exist. They are a part of my soul.

I laugh, I cry, I hurt, I love, I create, I learn, I teach, I care, I fear, I worry, I dream, I hope, I believe, I play, I stress, I get emotional, I joke around, I try many things, I never give up on something I believe in, I keep going when others have let go.

Well, now you know… this is me, Raventalker…. that crazy woman, with all that baggage, creating art and believing in the silliest of things.

Many Blessings,

What If…

What if it’s going to be okay?
What if life isn’t really over?
What if the tears stop falling?
What if I stop reliving the past?
What if my heart becomes whole again?
What if the pain just stops?
What if the bad memories no longer haunt my sleep?
What if smiles and laughter take over?
What if I’m not scared anymore?
What if this hurt becomes nothing more than a memory?
What if I’m going to be okay?
What if love comes calling again?

What if……

Many Blessings,

Holding on to Pain and Anger

IMG_8505 Someone suggested yesterday that I speak a little about holding on to anger, so  here I am talking about holding on to pain and anger. I’m adding in pain, but this  should include any type of negative emotion, behavior or thought.

Holding on to these things do us no good at all. They stew inside us and destroy  our chances of peace and happiness. Negativity robs us of so many things and can  hold us back from progressing forward.

So, you are holding on to anger from something that has happened to you, or you  are holding on to pain from a past event or you have developed some sort of  negative behavior, stemming from something that happened…. in the PAST.  PAST being the keyword here. You cannot go back and change what has  happened, you can’t rewind and replay and expect a different result. Why hold on to these thoughts or feelings? What good are they doing? Is the other party learning any lessons, are they suffering from what you continue to hold on to? NOPE! They are most likely oblivious to your  own internal pain and self punishment while you suffer daily.

So why hold on?

It’s in the past… it happened. EVERYONE has had bad things happen to us… EVERYONE. You are not alone. LET IT GO! It does not serve you at all to continue holding on to the negativity. It hurts you and you alone… why allow a negative experience from the past to continue interrupting your present and infect your future?

LET IT GO… It will be the best gift you ever give yourself… that release will be your new found freedom. 

Many Blessings,

Samhain – Celtic New Year

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I thought I would share with you first a bit of history and then a ceremony you can do to welcome in the Celtic New Year.

First, here’s a bit of history:

Samhain (pronounced Sow-en), dates back to the ancient Celts who lived 2,000 years ago. Contrary to what some believe, is not a celebration of a Celtic god of the dead. Instead, it is a Celtic word meaning “summer’s end.” The Celts believed that summer came to an end on October 31st and the New Year began on November 1st with the start of winter.

At sunset on October 31, clans or local villages begin the formal ceremonies of Samhain by lighting a giant bonfire. During the celebration, the Celts wore costumes, and danced around the fire. Many of these dances told stories or played out the cycles of life and death or commemorated the cycle of Wheel of Life. These costumes were adorned for three primary reasons.

The first was to honor the dead who were allowed to rise from the Otherworld. The Celts believed that souls were set free from the land of the dead during the eve of Samhain. Those that had been trapped in the bodies of animals were released by the Lord of the Dead and sent to their new incarnations. The wearing of these costumes signified the release of these souls into the physical world. Not all of these souls were honored and respected. Some were also feared as they would return to the physical world and destroy crops, hide livestock or ‘haunt’ the living who may have done them wrong.

The second reason for these traditional costumes was to hide from these malevolent spirits to escape their trickery.

The final representation was a method to honor the Celtic Gods and Goddesses of the harvest, fields and flocks. Giving thanks and homage to those deities who assisted the village or clan through the trials and tribulations of the previous year. And to ask for their favor during the coming year and the harsh winter months that were approaching.

Now that you have a little bit of history… here’s something you can do yourself to celebrate the Celtic New Year and cleanse yourself of the past and prepare for the days to come.

On two sheets of parchment paper you will make 2 lists: 

The first list will be of all things you don’t want or no longer need in your life. Be specific!

The second list will be of things you want to keep in your life and things you would like to see coming into your life. Again, be specific. 

You will take the “Keep” list, roll it up, tie it with a ribbon and place it in a safe place for the year. You will then take the “Get Rid of” list and burn it in a fire. Watch that list burn and imagine all the things on that list burning out of your life with it. Be sure while you do these acts that you do them with love in your heart. You don’t want bad karma, mojo or intentions intertwined with your ceremony. Do all things with love. You don’t wish for bad to come to anyone or anything in your lists … you just no longer want or need them in your life so you should wish them away with love and kindness so that the parting be an easier transition for all who may be involved.

And as with all ceremonies you should take time to yourself to reflect, prepare and ground yourself before beginning. Cleanse the space, yourself, your mind and body before the ceremony. 

Many Blessings,

Daily Insight- Full & Empty

So I’m sitting here in the office and I keep feeling drawn to post some daily wisdom for the day. I pull out my cards.. shuffle.. shuffle.. shuffle… Two cards pop out if the deck together. I flip them over and this is what I saw:

Three of Water – Fullness
Enjoy the fruits of your labor. Make no rules of what should happen next.. enjoy what is offered and stay open for new surprises.

Seven of Earth – Depletion
Expecting something increases our chances of disappointment. Stay in the moment, live in the now. Allow yourself time to rest and be mindful not to project any negative thinking into the future.

Together they show you how you can be full and next minute depleted of all. Be careful that you remain in the moment and take that time to enjoy all the fruits of your labor.. even the tiniest tomato can be as savory as a big plump one… so enjoy what is offered and don’t throw away that fullness with expectations of what happens next…. allow “next” to come on its own time and for now.. enjoy the life before you.

Many Blessings,

Facing Your Demons

holly7-2012Today I’ve been thinking about the individual worlds that we all live in and the demons that haunt us there.

I’ve given much thought this morning to my own demons and why the heck am I still allowing them to haunt me. Getting rid of behaviors or thoughts related to past pain is hard. It’s a defense mechanism to hold on to these memories and to certain behaviors and or thoughts to keep history from repeating itself and to keep the pain that was felt as far away as possible.

The big question is: How much do these demons hold us back?

What would you do if it weren’t for these demons? If they did not exist… where might you be?

Explore your demons today and start putting them in their place.

It’s not going to be easy by any means… it’s not going to be quick and it’s not going to be painless… BUT…. it will be worth it!

Many Blessings,

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Our Own Origins

Earlier today I was thinking about the old saying about when you are talking about someone and instead of saying that persons name you say the name of another. When that happens, one might then say: …… must have been thinking of me. My train of thought then went to wondering about where that saying originated from .. and then I was left with the simple thought of “origins”. Okay, first of all I have no idea why on Earth I was even thinking about the first part of my statement, as I am home alone at the moment and talking to no one about anyone.. lol.. the thought just floated right into my head for no reason at all. Now you see just a little bit of how strange my mind works sometimes.

Now, where was I?

Oh yes… so at this point the word “origins” is floating around in my mind… and then the thought of my own origins started to form.  I played around with a few of the things that I feel have made me who I am today. Suddenly, I realized I was recalling mostly the negative things that have come and gone but have certainly played a part in who I am and why. Then I transformed my thinking over to the more positive things that have come and gone.

I was slightly surprised to find myself first recalling the negative parts of my history but then again, not so surprised as often for many of us those moments can be some of the hardest to get past. The damage that comes from those negative moments can linger and shape our living for the rest of our lives. If we allow it.

Without knowing I must have been allowing .. because those where the first to come to mind when I gave thought to my very own origins. hmmmmmmmmmmmmm….

Wandering through the moments of my life time.. I give thought to both, the positive and the negative. Thinking at first how I could rid myself of these negative thoughts or actually memories. The truth is .. I can’t! There is good reason for that tho… it takes a balance of the two for a healthy productive life.

Without the hardships we endure, we would not be able to appreciate the positive gifts of those more gentle moments life offers us. Its the Yin and Yang of life that brings us to moments of real clarity. The experiences of both help us along our path. We find out who we are and who we wish not to be as we experience all sides of the spectrum. Just as it all can’t be good, have faith in knowing that when you are going through the harder moments in life that it also can’t all be bad.

Many Blessings,

It’s History

IMG_8776What happened yesterday is now in the past… lets work on today and tomorrow.

One of the hardest things to overcome is past events.

It has left it’s mark on us and imprinted in our minds … but the past is history.. it’s not right now.. right here or today. It’s done. It’s gone. It’s HISTORY!

The past is something that cannot be changed no matter how many times we relive it in our minds and no matter how many times we try to reword it or replay it’s many different scenarios that we would have liked to have seen happened.

Live for today and tomorrow.. live right here and now and move forward with what you have. When you live in the past,  you stall your living. Your future is put on hold and you find yourself in limbo. Stuck in the mud of yesterday with a stalled engine and no energy to pull yourself out of that muck!

It’s pointless really … allow yourself to realize this and move forward. Waste no more time on yesterday and instead invest in right now.

It’s time to turn around and look ahead .. march forward with the lessons learned to make right now and the days to come the best that you can.

Many Blessings,

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It’s Time

wishIt’s Time….

There comes a point in your life when you have to let go of old ideas, behaviors and/or beliefs…

Throughout our lifetime many things will come and go as we need them… Be careful not to cling too tightly to any one thing in your life… when it’s purpose has come and gone we need to release it from our grasp so that something new can come in and help us in our growth and in our travels along this path.

I’m not saying give up everything you ever believed in … but more so ideas, beliefs or behaviors that are no longer suited for you at this moment .. this place on your journey.

It may just be allowing our ideas, behaviors and beliefs to transform…. The stubborn part of us may want to stick to what we have always done… but it is like this… if you get stuck in the mud and all you do is put your foot on the gas … spinning and spinning to get out … what happens is that you just get buried deeper in that mud pit .. there is a chance that it may finally work for you and the traction may find something to take hold of and push you out of the mud … but there is also a chance that it won’t … how long are you going to do the “Let’s wait and see” game?

So what I’m saying … is that it’s time to step back and take another look at where you are and what you are doing and what you are  thinking at this time… there is a change that needs to be made in order for you to get out of that mud and move on. So what are you waiting for? You already know the change that needs to be made.. don’t fear the road ahead… listen to that inner knowing and march on!

Many Blessings,

Left Behind From Our Journey

IMG_4172-22This morning the thought came to mind about our footprints … or more so the footprints we leave behind us as we journey through life.

Take some time now to look back at the footprints you have already left and think on how you would like to leave your future footprints.

This is not about correcting wrongs or even correcting past mistakes.. it’s about growing and becoming our own personal best.

It’s about being responsible in our actions and in all ways that we live.

Many Blessings,