Full Speed Ahead!

No time to play around… with every brick we are building the dream. There is much work to be done to make the dream come true. We are moving full speed ahead to make it happen!!! With new found energy, things are getting done and life feels supercharged!!

Many Blessings,

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Old Trauma Revisited

Old traumas may be brought up today for you to deal with, face head on and then release and let go of them. Remember that pain doesn’t exist in this moment, it is only a memory from the past. Your experiences do not define you… you define yourself!

Many Blessings,

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Being Your Own Hero

Today, I talk about pulling yourself out of the pit and becoming your own hero. No one is going to magically come along and save us… we have to save ourselves. How long you stay in the pit is a choice you make. You have to make the decision to get out and then focus on a positive life. If you have nothing positive to focus on then  focus on the life you want … see yourself in the life you want. See yourself happy and in a balanced life. Be Your own Hero!

Many Blessings,

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Spiritual Guidance for April 4-10

This week is all about inner reflection and balance. Looking within to see where we are off balance and what we can do to bring more balance into our lives.

Many Blessings,

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Your Spiritual Guidance for March 28 – April 3

Oh what a magical week we have coming!! Our to-do lists gets things checked off and changes and opportunities are everywhere!! It’s like the birth of a brand new EVERYTHING!

Many Blessings,

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The Final Phase of Letting Go

If you haven’t already let go… the time is RIGHT NOW! Today, I talk about letting go and how hard it is but also how much it’s needed.

Many Blessings,

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Toxic Relationships and Why We Stay

Something I know too much about… toxic relationships and staying far too long. There are so many reasons we give ourselves for staying. None of them are really worth the pain that we endure. The biggest reason is that it’s familiar to us and we know what to expect each day… it doesn’t matter that it’s painful.. we know that pain and we know what to expect from it.

Many Blessings


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Surviving This Life & Surviving The Shift

The energy, the planetary alignments, the eclipses, the moon and life changes that are going on right now can be soooooooo overwhelming.  It is NOT the time to check out… life is just about to change from what it has always been to something amazing. The struggle is about to become a lot less of a struggle and the storm is nearly over. Change isn’t easy, and when so many on the same path are experiencing this all at once .. the energy is super intense and hard to manage. I promise you that you will survive as long as you just don’t give up. The life that is coming is well worth everything you are going through right now.

Many Blessings,

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On the Path of Healing

Forgive me now, today’s video is late and long … It’s a story about a full 24 hour period of magic and healing. It starts off with a tiny message from Spirit about love… then it turns to a ceremonial vision with the grandmothers and then to a mystery person and a meditation … a huge. long awaited release and ending with a magical morning in the woods. ENJOY!

Many Blessings,

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Will I Ever Be Happy?

The number one question I get all the time. Will I Ever Be Happy?

I give you the answer that spirit gives me. I have also struggled with this in my life but I have learned to listen and understand .. FINALLY!

I hope you enjoy my explanation of Finding Happiness Within and I hope more than anything that you too will also be able to find and experience it!

Many Blessings,

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Let it Go… Truly Let it Go!

Whatever it is in life that has caused you pain… let it go. Right now, this minute release it. You no longer need to hold on to it. It’s in the past and you no longer live there. The years you have spent telling yourself you have let it go, let that go as well. The lies you’ve told yourself, saying that you are okay, yep, let those go too. The reasoning, the guilt, the pain, the torment, the memories, the denial, the feeling that you needed to pay for your mistakes, the story of it all… let it all go. Truly, once and for all… LET Whatever IT is… GO! Don’t, for one more minute let it hold you back from living, from loving, from believing, from wishing, from hoping, from doing, from becoming! Don’t allow it one more second to steal away your happiness, your peace and your life. Just LET IT GO!

If you must… stand outside in the rain and allow it to be washed away from your being and then stand in the sunlight and allow yourself to be consumed with the light of healing. It’s okay to be okay. It’s okay to let the pain go. There is no need to wear it like a badge. I doubt the lessons will ever be forgotten, but the pain is no longer needed… so let it go.

We tell ourselves so many lies and the biggest being that we are okay with how things are, how they have been and how they may continue to be. We find ourselves just getting by. We tell ourselves that we have let stuff go that we clearly have not. We tell ourselves and everyone else that we are okay, when deep inside we still feel that same ol’ pain.

The first step we must take now is by telling ourselves the truth.  The truth that part of our past still haunts us and that we have not actually let any of it go.

So here I am, taking the first step… I have spent my life holding on to a number of bad memories, a number of bad experiences and a number of bad choices. Afraid that I would repeat the past, I have held on to these things, not because I wanted to, but because I didn’t want them to come back around. Having them felt like a report card showing I passed that class, meaning I wouldn’t have to repeat it again. So, I held on without realizing I was holding on.

Today…. I begin the process of truly letting it all go. There is no actual class for life or for living. There is no report card at the end of it all that shows how well I did or didn’t do… there is only a life lived. How well that life is lived is up to me. It’s time to start truly living, it’s time to let go.

Many Blessings,

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Viewer’s Choice

Tonight I let some of my viewers decide on the video topics. Here are the results in these 3 videos about Travel, Letting Go and Home. Enjoy!

How We Travel and Where We Wander

There’s No Place Like Home

Letting Go

Many Blessings,

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The Pain of Growth & Healing

Tonight I speak a moment about a personal breakthrough.. one of those ah ha moments where you see clearly that you have been doing something without realizing you were doing it.

Many Blessings,

Releasing the Pain

Yesterday I was going through some photos and noticed that there was a distinct difference in my eyes from a year thenandnowago and a photo I took yesterday. I photochopped them side by side with the dates under them and posted this photo to my Facebook page. Friends were posting how I looked so much better, more alive, happier, healthier, etc. I have not lost a  single pound, I’ve not changed my diet or exercise routine… yeah that’s still non-existent at the moment .. lol.

One friend finally said “Wow, what did you do differently?”

I went internal and thought the question over for only a brief moment when the light came on and I replied “I stopped feeling like I was nothing.”

Typing those words out and seeing them on the screen in front of me… reading them back to myself out loud, I got teary eyed and in that moment I released a world of pain that had been building up inside me for a very long time.

Many Blessings,

Year of the Raven… continued

Here we go with my first update on MY YEAR to ENJOY  BEING ME!

WP_20150103_026I was walking through Hobby Lobby today and started down an aisle to look at a giant clock at the other end. There were tons of mirrors in that aisle.. I try my best to avoid mirrors…. the horror of seeing what I look like out in public.. cringe. Just before I got to the clock I turned an saw myself… I paused, stepped back for another look and do you know what??? Other than the typical stuff…. yeah I need to lose some weight, blah blah blah, etc…  there was nothing wrong with that reflection. That was me and I’m not all that bad to look at. A bit fluffy but if I really want to change that, I can!

For years I felt so unattractive, not from words said or actions toward me but more because of a lack of actions and just the feeling that I got. One knows when someone else finds them attractive and that’s something I haven’t felt in a very long time. When that feeling is absent in your life long enough, you begin to think you look how you feel inside and inside I felt that I must be hideous. Why else would that feeling of mutual love be held back from me so much?   I certainly know I’m far from what most consider beautiful or gorgeous and that’s okay… I’m happy to be me. Today the reflection in that mirror wasn’t hideous at all and it took me by surprise. It was a really nice moment and I hope that it stays with me.

Many Blessings,

Who is Raventalker?

Edited in Lumia SelfieI’ll tell you who I am …. for one, I’m a mess! A great big, giant mess of a woman! I love way too much and believe in myself way too little. I have baggage, loads and loads of baggage. The good thing is, I know about the baggage I carry and I am always trying my best to lighten the load. I am forever working on being a better me. Always working toward resolving any issues I may have with myself or my past, always teaching myself new things and eager to grow in as many ways as I possibly can. I won’t lie though, some things scare me to death so I dare not say that I am fearless in any way. I worry all the time and quite often about things that will never happen. I am ever curious and some might say a bit crafty 😉 .

I love finding new ways to be creative and express myself in all forms of art. I have dabbled in painting, stained glass, lampwork, weaving, sewing, knitting, leather work, sculpting, prop building, photography and writing .. just to name a few. The act of visualizing something and then working with your hands to make this vision a reality is an exciting challenge I am always ready to take on. I don’t have to be the best at anything, I just try to be the best me and do my own personal best at whatever challenge I decide to take on. I land where I land, on top, in the middle or even sometimes at the bottom.. as long as I have felt like I did my best, it doesn’t matter where others may rank me.

I am a hopeless romantic, a dreamer of dreams and a believer in magic. Some might say that magic isn’t real, dreams are for the foolish and that romance never lasts…. I say, we each make our own magic, dreams are worth following and romance is exactly what the world needs. Romance, magic and dreams die only if we allow them to. In my world, these things are what keep me smiling and hoping. They are why I have never given up this fight for life, even when my world seemed to be falling apart… magic, dreams and romance kept me going. I know they exist. They are a part of my soul.

I laugh, I cry, I hurt, I love, I create, I learn, I teach, I care, I fear, I worry, I dream, I hope, I believe, I play, I stress, I get emotional, I joke around, I try many things, I never give up on something I believe in, I keep going when others have let go.

Well, now you know… this is me, Raventalker…. that crazy woman, with all that baggage, creating art and believing in the silliest of things.

Many Blessings,

What If…

What if it’s going to be okay?
What if life isn’t really over?
What if the tears stop falling?
What if I stop reliving the past?
What if my heart becomes whole again?
What if the pain just stops?
What if the bad memories no longer haunt my sleep?
What if smiles and laughter take over?
What if I’m not scared anymore?
What if this hurt becomes nothing more than a memory?
What if I’m going to be okay?
What if love comes calling again?

What if……

Many Blessings,

Who Am I?

IMG_5903I’ve been called by many names…. some good, some bad. It has taken me many years to realize that it doesn’t matter what others know me by, what matters is how I know myself. It doesn’t matter what they want to call me… it only matters what I believe within myself to be true.

This is something, I’m sure that we all struggle with from time to time… “Not letting the voice of others get stuck in our head“.

Words hurt and they stick to us like some sort of gorilla glue…. that shit is nearly impossible to get off. It takes a conscious ongoing effort to stop those words from hanging around in our heads. A daily reminder that their words are more of a reflection of them than us. Their words, their opinions… only have meaning to us if we allow them to. Only if we do in fact act out what they have suggested, do we become what they say we are.

Be kind to yourself and don’t be one of those people who sends out those hurtful “gorilla glue” words to others.

Just be kind.

Many Blessings,

Wake Up Call 101

WP_20140518_012-4Awakening thought of the day: If you see me crying, don’t think it is because I am weak… these tears come from having to be strong for so long, hoping that one day I wouldn’t “need” to be …. but in realty, life tells me I need to be stronger. Wake Up Call 101 – thanks life … you suck!

Before long I’ll be moving mountains with all this strength I’m building. As I type these words , a tiny little smirk forms across my face and although life at the moment is less than fun, I have hope that my statement is true. I think to myself, yes, I’ll move mountains! I’ll make my life what I want it to be and I’ll stop trying to make everyone else happy at my own expense.

I know what I would tell myself in the situation. I need to take my own advice.

Take this pain and the lessons and move forward, don’t look back. Use these obstacles to your advantage. Don’t let the pain keep you from moving forward. Pain is temporary. YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS IN ALL WAYS!

When life sucks… make it better. After all I am a magical person… my kisses, as I have always said, are magical… so here I am blowing myself a kiss, making it better one day at a time.

I have the power to change my world.

I have the tools within me to succeed.

I will do this!

Might need a nap first… being strong is tiring .. no .. no nap… move forward. You can nap later… your life needs your immediate attention now.
Many Blessings,


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Stripping it all away!

This is a vision I had a couple of years ago and thought now to be a good time to re-share with you my experience…

The Milk Ceremony ~ 

I was laid out in circle completely naked as the clan mothers cleansed me with milk. They carefully poured milk all over my body taking care not to miss any part of me. Once this was done pieces of leather were laid over my more private areas and a medicine man then came into the circle. He carried with him a large shell of smoke to once again cleanse and bless me and the area before he began his medicine.

What happened next was something I would have never imagined.  It was as if I had many layers of myself on me…. Like layers of clothing it was as if I had layers of flesh that had built up over the years. The medicine man stood at my feet and with gestures he pulled off each layer one by one. With each layer he pulled off and threw behind him, I became brighter and more clean looking.  It was just like when one lightens their teeth and with each application they become a tad bit whiter. Behind him as he threw off each layer, there were helpers that would quickly pour special water mixed with milk and herbs onto the ground where his gestures seemed to have thrown the layers. Also there was a bundle of herbs smoking just on the far side of the area that yet another helper would continuously fan so that the smoke filled the entire area behind the medicine man.

These layers of me were… well….. they were ideas, behaviors, thoughts, actions and habits that I had formed over years of living. Things that had attached to me through all my daysin this life. I was being stripped away of everything. Stripped down to the bone but the medicine man went far beyond flesh and bone …  he went all the way down to the core of me.

feather It took quite a long while to strip away all my layers .. seems as though I must have collected quite a lot in this  life thus far.  When he was finally done stripping away my layers, I saw something amazing and unexpected. I was made up entirely of light. Laying there still, glowing oh so brightly.. and to my amazement I could see certain parts of me a bit brighter than the rest. We read about and are taught that our bodies have these Chakra points… the points in your body that hold the most energy…. Seeing myself in this way….. confirmed that to be true.

It was as if I had the whole of the universe inside me… made up of every constellation imaginable. Some say were are born of the stars .. after seeing this I would certainly believe that to be a truth. Once I was stripped down to this level the medicine man and his helpers along with the clan mothers, sat down and formed a circle around me…. They sat there for a very long time chanting in a meditative prayer. They did this until the sun came back up.

I was then shaded by some structure that they built and left there in a meditative state until the sun had gone back down. As I began to grow back a new layer of flesh and bone… I was given a token or gift from each person in the circle… they placed these gifts inside me. It will be up to me to find these gifts and use them when the time is right. The medicine man’s gift was a large crystal.. it was squared in shape .. not pointed and not entirely clear.. it was a milky color and a bit off white.

This ceremony leaves me in quite a state of reflection. I can certainly see the point of it and feel quite blessed to have been part of such a sacred and healing act. In fact beyond the words describing the ceremony I feel quite speechless.. not knowing exactly what to say… yeah I bet you never imagines that either!! hahahaha.

On that note I will leave you with this one last thought… maybe we should all take a bit of time to look at ourselves and the many layers we have collected over our lifetimes… and do ourselves  the favor of shedding those layers that bring us negativity, pain or those thoughts and behaviors that simply hold us back in life.

Many Blessings,

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Make it Go Away

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Make it Go Away….

Banish the Fear that keeps us from moving forward.
Lose the Doubt that keeps you from knowing your power.
Get rid of the Hurt that keeps you from trying again.
Let go of the Pain that is now in the past.

Many Blessings,

Holding on to Pain and Anger

IMG_8505 Someone suggested yesterday that I speak a little about holding on to anger, so  here I am talking about holding on to pain and anger. I’m adding in pain, but this  should include any type of negative emotion, behavior or thought.

Holding on to these things do us no good at all. They stew inside us and destroy  our chances of peace and happiness. Negativity robs us of so many things and can  hold us back from progressing forward.

So, you are holding on to anger from something that has happened to you, or you  are holding on to pain from a past event or you have developed some sort of  negative behavior, stemming from something that happened…. in the PAST.  PAST being the keyword here. You cannot go back and change what has  happened, you can’t rewind and replay and expect a different result. Why hold on to these thoughts or feelings? What good are they doing? Is the other party learning any lessons, are they suffering from what you continue to hold on to? NOPE! They are most likely oblivious to your  own internal pain and self punishment while you suffer daily.

So why hold on?

It’s in the past… it happened. EVERYONE has had bad things happen to us… EVERYONE. You are not alone. LET IT GO! It does not serve you at all to continue holding on to the negativity. It hurts you and you alone… why allow a negative experience from the past to continue interrupting your present and infect your future?

LET IT GO… It will be the best gift you ever give yourself… that release will be your new found freedom. 

Many Blessings,


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I just read a great quote: Before going to bed, forgive everyone and sleep with a clean heart.

This is something I’m sure we all need to practice. I cannot even begin to count the hours of lost sleep because I was holding onto something negative.

Ok let’s do a practice run now:
I forgive your stupidity and your blindness
I forgive what you don’t understand and your ignorance
I forgive you for what you don’t even realize that you’ve done to my soul
I forgive you for not seeing the best in me
I forgive you for not understanding
I forgive you

I forgive myself for hurting and for keeping it locked inside
I forgive myself for allowing the pain to drain me
I forgive myself for not being able to let it go
I forgive myself

Many Blessings,

Facing Your Demons

holly7-2012Today I’ve been thinking about the individual worlds that we all live in and the demons that haunt us there.

I’ve given much thought this morning to my own demons and why the heck am I still allowing them to haunt me. Getting rid of behaviors or thoughts related to past pain is hard. It’s a defense mechanism to hold on to these memories and to certain behaviors and or thoughts to keep history from repeating itself and to keep the pain that was felt as far away as possible.

The big question is: How much do these demons hold us back?

What would you do if it weren’t for these demons? If they did not exist… where might you be?

Explore your demons today and start putting them in their place.

It’s not going to be easy by any means… it’s not going to be quick and it’s not going to be painless… BUT…. it will be worth it!

Many Blessings,

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The Rebuild

Inspired by a video that my dear friend Olivia Kemp posted on my Facebook wall this morning.. I feel drawn to write a bit about rebuilding. Rebuilding ourselves.

Okay Olivia .. you asked for it .. so here it goes!

Life can be harsh and people even more so. For those who have been bullied as children and adults… it’s not just school age children that play the part of the bully. The bully can be a school mate, a spouse, a parent, a boss, a co-worker or even a stranger. The damage left behind from the torment that a bully lays upon us can be life changing, devastational and ever so difficult to get over and move past.

Once we have been able to remove ourselves from this destructive person, we have to then start working on the rebuild. We must find a way to repair and rebuild ourselves and the damage that has been done to our heart, our mind and our soul. We don’t want to continue carrying around with us this pain, so we must work to rid it from our lives.

Step 1 is understanding that the things that were said were not about you .. it was always about them. The acts that were done to you was not about how good or bad you are but how they felt about themselves.

Step 2 is understanding that no matter how great you were, how much you loved the other person, the kindness that you tried to show them or anything that you did or did not do .. it wasn’t and still isn’t your place to change them or heal them. They must find the change and healing within themselves.

Step 3 is understanding that you have value. No matter what was ever done or said to you by another.. you DO have value.

Step 4 is knowing who you are and who you aren’t. ( you aren’t a doormat, you aren’t bad, you aren’t the names someone else calls you, you aren’t the pain they are fighting)

Step 5 is to continue growing, learning, living, loving and understanding yourself.

Step 6... keep walking forward.

Step 7 … smile, for you are of great value and you are a survivor!

I hope this blog finds you all well and on the way to recovery..

Many Blessings,

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I know what it’s like…

Browsing through my memory bank, I found a few things.

People at work ask me all the time,  “How do you know so much?”… I tell them “because I’ve been through so much .. oh and because I’m curious” … they are referring to my knowledge of navigating my way around a computer and its various software and websites … I was referring to everything else!

So what else did I find in my memory banks besides how to find random crap on Google, navigate websites, set up email signatures on webmail sites and the ever so important troubleshooting abilities that allow me to walk my co-workers through  the many road blocks they encounter daily????

I found that I also know:

What’s like to fall and fall hard and what it’s like to get back up again.

I know what it’s like to hurt and how it feels when you can finally laugh again.

I know what it’s like to love with all my heart has to offer and the pain that comes when that love isn’t returned.

I know what it’s like to cry myself to sleep and yet get up the next morning with a new attitude and desire to get past whatever it was that made me so sad.

I know what it’s like to fail and then the joy it brings when I succeed.

I know what it’s like to laugh so much and so hard that you can’t breathe.

I know what it’s like to smile from the inside out.

I know what it’s like when you hit that wall and it feels like you just can’t go any further.

I know know what it’s like once you decide you can get past that wall and the moment you decide to lift your head and just keep moving forward.

I know what it’s like to feel alone.

I know what it’s like to miss someone.

I know what it’s like to want, to need, to hope, to dream, to wish with all that you can.

I know what it’s like to struggle.

I know what it’s like when someone understands and cares.

I know what it’s like to be surprised.

I know what it’s like to be disappointed.

I know what it’s like to fall behind.

I know what it’s like to get ahead.

I know what it’s like to be lost.

I know what it’s like to find yourself.. again and again and again…

I know what it’s like to see your dreams come true.

I know what it’s like realize that I know nothing at all.

I know what it’s like to know love.

I know how it feels when something comes easy.

I know how it feels to be misunderstood.

I know how it feels to be broken.

I know how it feels to be mended.

I know that life is what you make it.

I know that I still have learning to do.

I know what it’s like…….

I could keep going.. but I think you understand where I was going here…

When you think you’re behind in your knowing … browse your own memory banks and I bet you will discover as I did that you do know a thing or two and that the learning, growing and knowing never ends.

Many Blessings,

What the Day May Bring

This morning I’ve been feeling urged to talk about making it through the day. It’s easy to talk about and to hand over suggestions when times aren’t so rough… but when the times go wrong and then even more wrong and the waters of life are choppy as hell… what words can be said… what advice can be given?

I thought about this post for a moment and began thinking about positive thoughts and no matter what’s going on to keep that positive outlook until the storm has passed.. and then I thought …. hmmmmmmmmmm …. yeah easier said than done. I thought to myself, why the heck am I even posting about this anyway? I wondered if there was someone out there right at this moment that needs a shoulder, an ear or just someone to acknowledge their storm. I thought for a moment that I wouldn’t write more about this topic and then I thought more about those weathering the storm right now and how can I help them.

My only advice while in the middle of any shit storm is.. HOLD ON TIGHT! DON’T LET GO!!! The storm won’t last … keep that thought in mind and just hold on! I know it sucks.. I  know it’s painful… but hold on. Just keep holding on. When brighter days do come around.. you’ll be glad that you didn’t let go.

Many Blessings,

The Upside of Living

I won’t pretend life is all roses and smiles… life gets crazy, hectic, hard, painful and down right insane at times… BUT … my message for you today is … The Sun is ALWAYS Shining.

Beyond the clouds… the sun is ever shining. Though we may sleep .. the sun never does.. it’s rays of light are continuous.. and when the moon takes it’s rest and the clouds part way… we are given the gift of light to brighten our way.

Take each day as it comes…. hardships are expected …. none of us are immune to that fact… but how we make it through.. how we handle ourselves through those times.. how we endure.. is completely up to us. We can give in or we can fight it out.

When times get hard and you are finding it difficult to keep going .. think about the bright days you’ve already had.. think of the blessings that have come your way .. remember the days when smiles and laughter filled your heart and know that those days will come again.

Hard times are temporary just like the weather… hang in there and keep walking forward. Brighter days are just around the corner. Focus on the positive. Let the negative slip away.

Many Blessings and great big hugs to all,

On the Attack

crow and mockingbirdToday I want to speak a little about how we beat ourselves up… why we beat ourselves up and how to stop the cycle.

I would say that the majority of us have done this in one way or another… we do something or don’t do something and then beat ourselves up over it.


I should have said ….

I shouldn’t have said….

I should have done this… or that …I could have done more…

I could have gone farther…

I forgot this .. or forgot that ….

I could have ..

I should have…

Why didn’t I…

Why did I….

blah blah blah … the possibilities are endless..

Why do we feel so much guilt for things we did or didn’t do?

Why then do we torture ourselves with it? Going over and over in our heads .. arguing with ourselves and convincing ourselves that we are less than we should/could be.For some, maybe making ourselves feel bad is so familiar that it feels safe to us.. of course we don’t “knowingly” do this … but we do it.Feeling bad can be so common to us that when there is nothing else to make us feel bad …. we then abuse ourselves in one way or another.. sometimes it is by talking ourselves down… sometimes it is by making decisions that we know are not good for us… and sometimes it is more like a constant arguing with yourself. How do we stop this cycle?

Heck if I know!! I still do it … for instance:

This past weekend I fell and hurt my hip and knee … I’ve recently signed up at the YMCA and am on a mission to rid myself of this excess weight I’ve been carrying around … so this week I have gone to the gym .. I have worked out .. but not full force. My thought is that I don;t want to push myself too far and hurt my knee more and then not be able to work out at all… but as soon as I tell myself that is the reason for not going full force.. I feel guilt .. I know I can do more and so I argue with myself over my own answers…lol.. it’s madness! I feel bad for not doing more … even though it truly is a possibility that if I do push myself to go all the way that I could really strain my knee to the point of being out of commission for a while.. so why can’t I be happy with what I have done.. why beat myself up for what I haven’t done?

Getting myself to the gym and doing what I’ve been doing this week is far more than what I was doing so why is that not enough? Why do I feel the need to beat myself up over it? Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh…

I know many of you will relate…

Over the years, I do feel that I am doing better at not beating myself up as I use to.. but it still happens … I’m guessing the key is to become aware that we are doing this and once it begins.. STOP! Let it go no further. Pat yourself on the back for noticing and for putting an end to the torture to more forward. Once step at a time…

Many Blessings and healing hugs,

Have You Ever?

Today’s post is dedicated to all those who have found themselves in that deep dark hole of depression, loneliness and sorrow. It happens to all of us at some point in time. Life becomes complicated and messy… there are days when we just can’t deal with what life brings us or we just don’t know how to cope. So many reasons that we can find ourselves in this dark place. Life throws at us so much, sometimes it is just too hard for us to take on.

I want everyone who finds themselves in this dark place to know that you are not alone. This happens to us all and the thing I want you to take with you from this post is that … it is never forever… the pain, loneliness, sorrow, depression is temporary and you can overcome it… there will be light again.

Reach out to your friends and family to help you through the difficult times. With much love and understanding I send to you all great big healing {{hugs}} and well wishes.




Have you Ever?

Have you ever found yourself so sad you didn’t want to get out of bed

Crazy thoughts run through your mind, like what if I were dead

You begin to wonder if suddenly I were no longer here

Would anyone notice, would anyone even care

Your world seems so dark and sad

You wonder, why does this feel so bad

It feels like there will never again be light

It’s so hard not to give up and continue to fight

You wonder what’s next and how much can I take

Then you think maybe I’ll close my eyes and never wake

But then you realize this is no way for your life to end

So you pull yourself together and cry to a friend

Letting go of the misery and all the pain

A friend shows you that there will be light once again

You are not alone in this fight

There are others who feel the same, crying in the night

So let tomorrow be the beginning, a fresh start

And let go of what burdens your mind and your heart

Nothing good ever comes from wishing you were dead

So snap out of it and get your ass out of bed!


I’d like to say something about the last line above…
I know it’s not as simple or as easy as getting out of bed… but the first step forward IS getting out of bed.



Many Blessings,


I’m Letting Go

IMG_8797I’m letting go of this pain ..
Hoping it will move on like yesterday’s rain

No longer does it have a place within
No more sadness .. I’m sending it away with the wind

The hurt is far more than I can bare
I’m washing it away like the grey in my hair

Happiness and light are welcome to stay
As for this pain … you can go and stay far far away

Leave me alone I don’t like how you make me feel
It seems harder each time to heal

I’m not your victim.. I’m not your prey
What more is there to say

Hurt and Pain … it’s you I really don’t like!
I don’t care if you leap, run, drive or take flight!

Just go now and take a hike!

Many Blessings,

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