hardship

Change Your Focus

spring bloomsNot every day can be lollipops and giggles… but no matter what life is throwing at you,  there is beauty to be seen. The negativity in a day is in reality just a small part of our life. It will pass soon and we will look back and wonder why we stressed so much over that tiny little moment of our lives. During those moments of stress, hardship and despair it’s extremely difficult to see anything other … but if we can manage if even for a moment to change our focus … we may be able to also gain some perspective on that moment.

Seeing obstacles for what they instead of how they make us feel at that moment…  feelings of dread, fear, sorrow, anger, etc  dissipate more quickly and the situation becomes more manageable.

How to do this?

Stay aware. Be open to seeing every thing in life with more than one point of view. Make a conscience effort daily to integrate this way of seeing into your life. Take each moment as it comes and if possible find a way to step back from that moment that brings you such stress and anxiety to reflect on what is real and what is made up with emotions.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Shifting Your Thoughts

We all find ourselves in that negative zone from time to time. Some far more than others. Getting out of that negative space often seems like a task that is larger than life, larger than you feel like you can handle at that moment.

It’s as hard as you allow it to be. I know you hate that answer but it’s true. My words are easy to say and easy to type but I know how difficult it feels in real life. I have been in that negative space far more often than I would like to admit.

The question of the day is: How do you get out of that negative space and into a more positive one?

By shifting your thoughts from whatever it is that put you in that ugly space to begin with. Is it easy? Yes and No. It’s something that will take some serious work on your behalf. You will have to focus your thoughts and energy to something else…. something that doesn’t relate what so ever to those negative thoughts. The further from that negative monster that put you into that space.. the better!

Find something to do. Busy yourself with something that will make you feel good. Whether it is something for another or something productive for yourself or whatever… find something physical to focus your energy and thoughts on.

Take some reflection time to focus and remember all the best moments of your life. Fond memories always put a smile on my face and help me move forward.

When we find ourselves in that negative pit… we dwell on all things negative and bring a dark and dreary cloud over ourselves that does not have to be there. Focusing so much on those negative thoughts doesn’t make it go away, it doesn’t make you or anyone around you feel good, it doesn’t help or improve your life in any way at all. All it does is prolong the negative darkness that is there.

Shift your thoughts and you’ll be asking yourself why on Earth you spent any time at all in that negative space.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

 

What the Day May Bring

This morning I’ve been feeling urged to talk about making it through the day. It’s easy to talk about and to hand over suggestions when times aren’t so rough… but when the times go wrong and then even more wrong and the waters of life are choppy as hell… what words can be said… what advice can be given?

I thought about this post for a moment and began thinking about positive thoughts and no matter what’s going on to keep that positive outlook until the storm has passed.. and then I thought …. hmmmmmmmmmm …. yeah easier said than done. I thought to myself, why the heck am I even posting about this anyway? I wondered if there was someone out there right at this moment that needs a shoulder, an ear or just someone to acknowledge their storm. I thought for a moment that I wouldn’t write more about this topic and then I thought more about those weathering the storm right now and how can I help them.

My only advice while in the middle of any shit storm is.. HOLD ON TIGHT! DON’T LET GO!!! The storm won’t last … keep that thought in mind and just hold on! I know it sucks.. I  know it’s painful… but hold on. Just keep holding on. When brighter days do come around.. you’ll be glad that you didn’t let go.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker