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Being Your Own Hero

Today, I talk about pulling yourself out of the pit and becoming your own hero. No one is going to magically come along and save us… we have to save ourselves. How long you stay in the pit is a choice you make. You have to make the decision to get out and then focus on a positive life. If you have nothing positive to focus on then  focus on the life you want … see yourself in the life you want. See yourself happy and in a balanced life. Be Your own Hero!

Many Blessings,
Waya

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Toxic Relationships and Why We Stay

Something I know too much about… toxic relationships and staying far too long. There are so many reasons we give ourselves for staying. None of them are really worth the pain that we endure. The biggest reason is that it’s familiar to us and we know what to expect each day… it doesn’t matter that it’s painful.. we know that pain and we know what to expect from it.

Many Blessings

ravensig

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Surviving This Life & Surviving The Shift

The energy, the planetary alignments, the eclipses, the moon and life changes that are going on right now can be soooooooo overwhelming.  It is NOT the time to check out… life is just about to change from what it has always been to something amazing. The struggle is about to become a lot less of a struggle and the storm is nearly over. Change isn’t easy, and when so many on the same path are experiencing this all at once .. the energy is super intense and hard to manage. I promise you that you will survive as long as you just don’t give up. The life that is coming is well worth everything you are going through right now.

Many Blessings,
ravensig

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The Pain of Growth & Healing

Tonight I speak a moment about a personal breakthrough.. one of those ah ha moments where you see clearly that you have been doing something without realizing you were doing it.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Releasing the Pain

Yesterday I was going through some photos and noticed that there was a distinct difference in my eyes from a year thenandnowago and a photo I took yesterday. I photochopped them side by side with the dates under them and posted this photo to my Facebook page. Friends were posting how I looked so much better, more alive, happier, healthier, etc. I have not lost a  single pound, I’ve not changed my diet or exercise routine… yeah that’s still non-existent at the moment .. lol.

One friend finally said “Wow, what did you do differently?”

I went internal and thought the question over for only a brief moment when the light came on and I replied “I stopped feeling like I was nothing.”

Typing those words out and seeing them on the screen in front of me… reading them back to myself out loud, I got teary eyed and in that moment I released a world of pain that had been building up inside me for a very long time.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Year of the Raven… continued

Here we go with my first update on MY YEAR to ENJOY  BEING ME!

WP_20150103_026I was walking through Hobby Lobby today and started down an aisle to look at a giant clock at the other end. There were tons of mirrors in that aisle.. I try my best to avoid mirrors…. the horror of seeing what I look like out in public.. cringe. Just before I got to the clock I turned an saw myself… I paused, stepped back for another look and do you know what??? Other than the typical stuff…. yeah I need to lose some weight, blah blah blah, etc…  there was nothing wrong with that reflection. That was me and I’m not all that bad to look at. A bit fluffy but if I really want to change that, I can!

For years I felt so unattractive, not from words said or actions toward me but more because of a lack of actions and just the feeling that I got. One knows when someone else finds them attractive and that’s something I haven’t felt in a very long time. When that feeling is absent in your life long enough, you begin to think you look how you feel inside and inside I felt that I must be hideous. Why else would that feeling of mutual love be held back from me so much?   I certainly know I’m far from what most consider beautiful or gorgeous and that’s okay… I’m happy to be me. Today the reflection in that mirror wasn’t hideous at all and it took me by surprise. It was a really nice moment and I hope that it stays with me.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Who is Raventalker?

Edited in Lumia SelfieI’ll tell you who I am …. for one, I’m a mess! A great big, giant mess of a woman! I love way too much and believe in myself way too little. I have baggage, loads and loads of baggage. The good thing is, I know about the baggage I carry and I am always trying my best to lighten the load. I am forever working on being a better me. Always working toward resolving any issues I may have with myself or my past, always teaching myself new things and eager to grow in as many ways as I possibly can. I won’t lie though, some things scare me to death so I dare not say that I am fearless in any way. I worry all the time and quite often about things that will never happen. I am ever curious and some might say a bit crafty 😉 .

I love finding new ways to be creative and express myself in all forms of art. I have dabbled in painting, stained glass, lampwork, weaving, sewing, knitting, leather work, sculpting, prop building, photography and writing .. just to name a few. The act of visualizing something and then working with your hands to make this vision a reality is an exciting challenge I am always ready to take on. I don’t have to be the best at anything, I just try to be the best me and do my own personal best at whatever challenge I decide to take on. I land where I land, on top, in the middle or even sometimes at the bottom.. as long as I have felt like I did my best, it doesn’t matter where others may rank me.

I am a hopeless romantic, a dreamer of dreams and a believer in magic. Some might say that magic isn’t real, dreams are for the foolish and that romance never lasts…. I say, we each make our own magic, dreams are worth following and romance is exactly what the world needs. Romance, magic and dreams die only if we allow them to. In my world, these things are what keep me smiling and hoping. They are why I have never given up this fight for life, even when my world seemed to be falling apart… magic, dreams and romance kept me going. I know they exist. They are a part of my soul.

I laugh, I cry, I hurt, I love, I create, I learn, I teach, I care, I fear, I worry, I dream, I hope, I believe, I play, I stress, I get emotional, I joke around, I try many things, I never give up on something I believe in, I keep going when others have let go.

Well, now you know… this is me, Raventalker…. that crazy woman, with all that baggage, creating art and believing in the silliest of things.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

What If…

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What if it’s going to be okay?
What if life isn’t really over?
What if the tears stop falling?
What if I stop reliving the past?
What if my heart becomes whole again?
What if the pain just stops?
What if the bad memories no longer haunt my sleep?
What if smiles and laughter take over?
What if I’m not scared anymore?
What if this hurt becomes nothing more than a memory?
What if I’m going to be okay?
What if love comes calling again?

What if……

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Who Am I?

IMG_5903I’ve been called by many names…. some good, some bad. It has taken me many years to realize that it doesn’t matter what others know me by, what matters is how I know myself. It doesn’t matter what they want to call me… it only matters what I believe within myself to be true.

This is something, I’m sure that we all struggle with from time to time… “Not letting the voice of others get stuck in our head“.

Words hurt and they stick to us like some sort of gorilla glue…. that shit is nearly impossible to get off. It takes a conscious ongoing effort to stop those words from hanging around in our heads. A daily reminder that their words are more of a reflection of them than us. Their words, their opinions… only have meaning to us if we allow them to. Only if we do in fact act out what they have suggested, do we become what they say we are.

Be kind to yourself and don’t be one of those people who sends out those hurtful “gorilla glue” words to others.

Just be kind.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Make it Go Away
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Make it Go Away….

Banish the Fear that keeps us from moving forward.
Lose the Doubt that keeps you from knowing your power.
Get rid of the Hurt that keeps you from trying again.
Let go of the Pain that is now in the past.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Holding on to Pain and Anger

IMG_8505 Someone suggested yesterday that I speak a little about holding on to anger, so  here I am talking about holding on to pain and anger. I’m adding in pain, but this  should include any type of negative emotion, behavior or thought.

Holding on to these things do us no good at all. They stew inside us and destroy  our chances of peace and happiness. Negativity robs us of so many things and can  hold us back from progressing forward.

So, you are holding on to anger from something that has happened to you, or you  are holding on to pain from a past event or you have developed some sort of  negative behavior, stemming from something that happened…. in the PAST.  PAST being the keyword here. You cannot go back and change what has  happened, you can’t rewind and replay and expect a different result. Why hold on to these thoughts or feelings? What good are they doing? Is the other party learning any lessons, are they suffering from what you continue to hold on to? NOPE! They are most likely oblivious to your  own internal pain and self punishment while you suffer daily.

So why hold on?

It’s in the past… it happened. EVERYONE has had bad things happen to us… EVERYONE. You are not alone. LET IT GO! It does not serve you at all to continue holding on to the negativity. It hurts you and you alone… why allow a negative experience from the past to continue interrupting your present and infect your future?

LET IT GO… It will be the best gift you ever give yourself… that release will be your new found freedom. 

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Facing Your Demons

holly7-2012Today I’ve been thinking about the individual worlds that we all live in and the demons that haunt us there.

I’ve given much thought this morning to my own demons and why the heck am I still allowing them to haunt me. Getting rid of behaviors or thoughts related to past pain is hard. It’s a defense mechanism to hold on to these memories and to certain behaviors and or thoughts to keep history from repeating itself and to keep the pain that was felt as far away as possible.

The big question is: How much do these demons hold us back?

What would you do if it weren’t for these demons? If they did not exist… where might you be?

Explore your demons today and start putting them in their place.

It’s not going to be easy by any means… it’s not going to be quick and it’s not going to be painless… BUT…. it will be worth it!

Many Blessings,
ravensig

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Have You Ever?

Today’s post is dedicated to all those who have found themselves in that deep dark hole of depression, loneliness and sorrow. It happens to all of us at some point in time. Life becomes complicated and messy… there are days when we just can’t deal with what life brings us or we just don’t know how to cope. So many reasons that we can find ourselves in this dark place. Life throws at us so much, sometimes it is just too hard for us to take on.

I want everyone who finds themselves in this dark place to know that you are not alone. This happens to us all and the thing I want you to take with you from this post is that … it is never forever… the pain, loneliness, sorrow, depression is temporary and you can overcome it… there will be light again.

Reach out to your friends and family to help you through the difficult times. With much love and understanding I send to you all great big healing {{hugs}} and well wishes.

 

 

 

Have you Ever?

Have you ever found yourself so sad you didn’t want to get out of bed

Crazy thoughts run through your mind, like what if I were dead

You begin to wonder if suddenly I were no longer here

Would anyone notice, would anyone even care

Your world seems so dark and sad

You wonder, why does this feel so bad

It feels like there will never again be light

It’s so hard not to give up and continue to fight

You wonder what’s next and how much can I take

Then you think maybe I’ll close my eyes and never wake

But then you realize this is no way for your life to end

So you pull yourself together and cry to a friend

Letting go of the misery and all the pain

A friend shows you that there will be light once again

You are not alone in this fight

There are others who feel the same, crying in the night

So let tomorrow be the beginning, a fresh start

And let go of what burdens your mind and your heart

Nothing good ever comes from wishing you were dead

So snap out of it and get your ass out of bed!

 

I’d like to say something about the last line above…
I know it’s not as simple or as easy as getting out of bed… but the first step forward IS getting out of bed.

 

 

Many Blessings,

Raventalker

I’m Letting Go

IMG_8797I’m letting go of this pain ..
Hoping it will move on like yesterday’s rain

No longer does it have a place within
No more sadness .. I’m sending it away with the wind

The hurt is far more than I can bare
I’m washing it away like the grey in my hair

Happiness and light are welcome to stay
As for this pain … you can go and stay far far away

Leave me alone I don’t like how you make me feel
It seems harder each time to heal

I’m not your victim.. I’m not your prey
What more is there to say

Hurt and Pain … it’s you I really don’t like!
I don’t care if you leap, run, drive or take flight!

Just go now and take a hike!

Many Blessings,
ravensig

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