Holding on to Pain and Anger

IMG_8505 Someone suggested yesterday that I speak a little about holding on to anger, so  here I am talking about holding on to pain and anger. I’m adding in pain, but this  should include any type of negative emotion, behavior or thought.

Holding on to these things do us no good at all. They stew inside us and destroy  our chances of peace and happiness. Negativity robs us of so many things and can  hold us back from progressing forward.

So, you are holding on to anger from something that has happened to you, or you  are holding on to pain from a past event or you have developed some sort of  negative behavior, stemming from something that happened…. in the PAST.  PAST being the keyword here. You cannot go back and change what has  happened, you can’t rewind and replay and expect a different result. Why hold on to these thoughts or feelings? What good are they doing? Is the other party learning any lessons, are they suffering from what you continue to hold on to? NOPE! They are most likely oblivious to your  own internal pain and self punishment while you suffer daily.

So why hold on?

It’s in the past… it happened. EVERYONE has had bad things happen to us… EVERYONE. You are not alone. LET IT GO! It does not serve you at all to continue holding on to the negativity. It hurts you and you alone… why allow a negative experience from the past to continue interrupting your present and infect your future?

LET IT GO… It will be the best gift you ever give yourself… that release will be your new found freedom. 

Many Blessings,


  1. I also have found it helpful to separate oneself from the people who cause the pain/anger if possible. Sometimes it is not possible but you can limit your exposure and how you react to it. The old feelings still pop up and I get stuck in the muck but am finding it easier to move past it instead of wallowing.
    Thank you, great post!

    1. Yes indeed .. you have to know it’s ok to walk away from negative people. It may be hard but there is no point in subjecting yourself over and over again to that kind of pain

  2. Ty Raven’s Call, hand on heart, for reminder. My 16 year young son is residing at a friend’s home. We have held a close bond until he went to stay a short while. It’s ended in the parents “brainwashing” him. He has chosen to not speak to me, his natural mother, for reasons unknown to me. Yes, we have struggled financially to keep our heads above water, as it were. Hard times for him. Now I’ve a chance to relocate to my hometown & renew my lisence in Nursing. I could swoop him up, but that would only mean bringing an angry, disheartened son along whilst I’m gring to succeed & provide an income. This is personal and why I’m seeking advice. If I go without my son then I know success is a given. No distractions or anger being spewed my way. Then I will return home & he will see I’ve accomplished my goal & have the abilities to support him. Or I take him and am around his hatred & anger towards me & his family for not having the chance to be successful until now. He’s lost all faith in me that I will reach my goals. What would you do.?. Anyones advice is appreciated. An inspiring post~reminder to stay positive and not feed the negativity…

    1. YOu have to follow your intuition here and do what feels right and what feels best for everyone involved. Ask yourself what would he benefit by forcing him to go along with you? What would you benefit from the same?

      {{hugs}} and good luck on your journey

      1. My intuition says he’s safe where he’s at, but my heart misses him. I will go & return as a nurse. I feel he will then be free to deal with his issues and I’ll be able to return as a mother who has succeeded in her goal. Thanks so much. Raven

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