coping

Mourning

lone leafThere are many kinds of loss, some that are obvious and others that may not be so obvious to most. With loss comes a time of mourning. No matter the size, context or extent of loss we must allow our selves that time to heal.

The obvious types of loss are associated with the death of people and pets but death can visit us in many ways.

Other not so obvious types of loss:
Death of a job – losing a job can be devastating in more ways than just financial.

Death of a job title – When we are stripped of our job titles (large or small) a piece of us
goes with that title… especially if you took pride in your job.

Loss of a friendship – It is always sad to lose a friend in any way. Someone you trusted, cared for and loved, now not a part of your life.

Loss of an aspect of self  – We grow and we change and with that change often certain aspects  of who we are at one time or another must die so that new growth can take place.

Loss of a home – This happens even when we choose to move. The place we called home .. rather it be for years or months.. this was once a safe place for us and moving on can have more of an impact than you might realize.

This list could go on and on. When something has been a part of your life for any amount of time and then it is no longer with you …. mourning may set in without your realizing that is what is going on. Allow yourself time to heal from this loss. It may seem a bit silly to mourn something such as a job title or position ….  or silly to mourn a home you only lived in for a short time.. but it happens. When we make a connection and then that connection becomes broken… then a time of healing needs to take place to fill the void and loss of that connection.

Many Blessings,
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The Good and the Bad

Inspired by the words of a friend this morning … “Its the choices we make in the toughest of times…that show us and others who we really are….” by Bear Medicine Walker

I thought I’d take some time to elaborate on this topic for a moment.

It’s easy to be great when things are going well… but when things go bad that’s when our true colors and our true nature sings out loud.

We may not make the best choices or decisions during hard times but if we are of good intentions and a good heart, we will do the best with what we have and what we know.

Mistakes happen .. we all fall down from time to time. It’s easy to be pulled down into a slump of depression and negativity… but it’s how we pull ourselves out of it that matters most. The will and intent to want to pull yourself out of the darkness and into the light says more than words could ever do.

I want to offer just a small bit of advice at this time: Please do not judge others by their immediate actions.. instead take a longer look at the whole picture and give them time to regroup. Treat each as you would hope you would be treated in times of hardship and struggle.

If I alone were to be judged by some of my decisions and actions from the past … Ooooooo boy would I be in a world of trouble.

We each walk our own path … although it may seem similar to another .. each walk is different.. with different circumstances, experiences, knowledge or lack of and different actions and reactions. None should be compared to another.

Our life here is about learning and growing … so mistakes will be made without doubt. EVERYONE makes them .. big , small…. we all are similar in this way.

Be kind to others as you walk through your day .. you just never know what they may be going through … behind that smile maybe a broken heart, a stressed mind and a confused weary soul… so be kind and considerate with your actions always.

Many blessings for a great day!
Raventalker