I know many feel this way and I’m certainly not alone here. I’ve always been a loner from since I can remember back in my early childhood days. I’ve never been one to follow the crowd or do things to “fit in”. I follow my own set of rules that have nothing to do with anyone other than myself and the beliefs that are a part of my core being.
For the most part I am okay with being a loner and then there are times when I feel too much alone. It feels good to connect with others. To have that mutual bond for whatever reason that gives you that feeling of “someone understands me or someone gets me or even a feeling that someone cares”, that feeling is priceless.
The holidays I think are the worst at least for me they are. I am usually the one going out of my way to create for others, hoping to make their holiday a little more special … those loner feelings then fall right into place when it seems as though no one cares to make mine more special in return. It’s certainly not why I do it, I do things for others because I really want to create something special for them and make them feel good. It’s just nice if at some point I wasn’t the only one who seems to care and go out of my way for others.
How do you get past these feelings?
Personally I get back to creating. I find things to do that make me feel good and I do them a lot. I do my best to ignore that fact that those around me just don’t go out of their way for others and I continue doing “me”.
I wish I had more advice for others to help you cope, but I’ve got nothing. We have to learn to accept who we are and who other’s are and that we are all separate individuals. Don’t take it personally because someone else doesn’t do as much as you do or that they seem not to care as much or that they don’t do more. Continue being you and enjoy your life to its fullest.
I was talking with an artist friend of mine yesterday and the conversation went into the direction of one’s idea of their own success. He felt that he wouldn’t be success until he reached a particular income level. My idea of my own success was a bit different. I’ll share with you the thoughts of how I measure my own successes:
Instead of having one singular goal I have many and I never really plan them.. I just enjoy them as they come along. Here are a few of them so you can understand what I mean:
The moment I sold my first piece.
My first custom order.
Creating something just how I imagined it.
Being happy with the end result of any project.
Getting into a real art gallery.
Being asked to participate in shows.
Positive feedback from customers.
Positive feedback from anyone!
Hearing how others relate to my work.
Shipping my work all over the world.
Winning Toast of Music City 🙂
Looking back at all the pieces I successfully finished.
Touching the lives of others.
Knowing someone liked my art enough to buy it and hang it in their home, becoming a part of their everyday life.
Knowing that pieces of me will live much longer than I… hopefully touching the lives of others for many years after I’m gone.
These are the type of things that I measure my success by. If I measured only by how much money I make.. I may or may not ever see that goal. There is no way of knowing … so in the mean time … I enjoy all the other successes that come my way.
Let’s forget complexity and structure and just ALLOW ourselves to be inspired.
Today we are so busy doing and doing .. most often, just spinning our wheels going nowhere! We forget what it’s like to be inspired. Some may not even know how that feels or what might inspire them.
It doesn’t have to be difficult or complex.. inspiration can come from anywhere!
here are just a few examples:
~waking up to a beautiful sunny day
~the sound of your children playing
~kindness from a stranger
~the way the sun glistens on the morning grass
~reflections on the lake
You see there is no limit to what can inspire as long as you are allowing yourself to be so.
What you are inspired to do in reaction is also limitless.
Allow yourself to be inspired today and do it! Follow it through!
Even if you don’t finish your inspired task.. at least you began!
Be sure that when you are creating pieces of art or craft items for others that you feel good yourself when doing the work. Your energy goes into everything you create and so when that item gets a new owner .. not only do they have your creation they also have a bit of your energy. You want to make sure that they receive good, healing and happy energy along with the item and not cruddy, negative or sick energy.
If you feel bad, if you are angry, depressed, hurt, sore, achy or any of the sort then that energy will go into whatever you are doing at the time. Be aware of your own feelings when creating or doing anything.
It’s ok to have a bad or off day… just be aware of what you are doing and how you feel .. whether realted or not that energy is there and it DOES go into whatever it is you are doing… even if you are simply cooking a meal.
Corn Husk Dolls are a great holiday craft that you can incorporate into just about any holiday … they can become an angel, a pilgrim or indian, they can be a patriot, a loving couple for valentines, etc .. whatever you can imagine you can create ..
You can get as simple or complax as you wish with your corn husk dolls…
add wings and they become angels and fairies… go dark and give them a pointy hat and a broom and they become a witch .. like I said let your imagination take you away and create something beautiful today!
here is a link below for a simple how-to … Google some photo samples of different dolls to help you with ideas.