This time Spirit asks you: What are you afraid of? What on Earth is it that you are allowing yourself to believe? It is within you to create the life you’ve always wanted. You have to let go of self created fears and work toward that life you’ve always dreamed of. If you fail at a task on your list, get up and do it again and again and again until you get it right. Eventually you’ll find yourself in this magical life of yours that YOU did indeed create all on your own.
Oh, we have so many of them don’t we… from everyday fears to lifetime fears. Fears of failure, trust, love, heartache, falling, dying, not becoming, fears of monsters both hidden and not, fear of being judged, misunderstood or not being found. Our fears can come from so many places and from so many situations.
When fear leads us… we go nowhere.
We must learn to understand the difference between the good fears that are there to keep us safe and those fears that are completely made up in our minds to keep us from moving forward. Don’t feed those fears!
Let go of those unhealthy fears and take back the power that they have stolen from us.
I was talking with an artist friend of mine yesterday and the conversation went into the direction of one’s idea of their own success. He felt that he wouldn’t be success until he reached a particular income level. My idea of my own success was a bit different. I’ll share with you the thoughts of how I measure my own successes:
Instead of having one singular goal I have many and I never really plan them.. I just enjoy them as they come along. Here are a few of them so you can understand what I mean:
- The moment I sold my first piece.
- My first custom order.
- Repeat customers.
- Creating something just how I imagined it.
- Being happy with the end result of any project.
- Getting into a real art gallery.
- Being asked to participate in shows.
- Positive feedback from customers.
- Positive feedback from anyone!
- Hearing how others relate to my work.
- Shipping my work all over the world.
- Winning Toast of Music City 🙂
- Looking back at all the pieces I successfully finished.
- Touching the lives of others.
- Knowing someone liked my art enough to buy it and hang it in their home, becoming a part of their everyday life.
- Knowing that pieces of me will live much longer than I… hopefully touching the lives of others for many years after I’m gone.
These are the type of things that I measure my success by. If I measured only by how much money I make.. I may or may not ever see that goal. There is no way of knowing … so in the mean time … I enjoy all the other successes that come my way.
Watch as a baby first begins to to learn how to crawl. They push themselves up by their arms and one knee at a time they raise up… and then the inevitable slip of a knee happens and they find themselves back on their tummy. A baby doesn’t just give up at that moment… something inside them says “I can do this” and they try again and again until they master crawling. It begins again when they try to walk for the first time. And again as they learn to speak.. to read .. etc.
We were born knowing “WE CAN” … it isn’t within us that idea of giving up… that is something we tell ourselves when we are afraid to succeed.
What’s stopping you from succeeding?
What excuses do you allow to keep you from doing?
We all make them when we really don’t want to do something. Some excuses are pretty good.. and then there are those that are just that.. excuses!
If we have a vision in our mind of what we want to manifest, complete, bring to life… then we must take on the work that goes along with making that happen.
Waiting for things to just come to us is a fantasy… it just doesn’t happen.
Do you think Mark Zuckerberg just sat down one night and coded facebook… ok so nearly but still.. to make it what it is today he had hours upon hours of work put into it… and once it came to be he didn’t just stop there. His vision continued and so did his work. He probably entered numerous lines of code that didn’t work before he came upon the ones that did. What he didn’t do was allow himself excuses.
Let’s go back even further .. Thomas Edison, Ben Franklin, the Wright Brothers… How many times do you think they failed before finding the one thing that worked??? They had an idea, a goal and they worked toward that goal until they got the results they were looking for.
Here’s an excuse I hear every day: “I don’t know how.”
Really? You are going to say this today and settle for that answer? Are you not going to at least try and find out? Umm Google, Youtube, this thing called the internet!!!! AMAZING resource for just about anything in the world you wish to learn. But that’s ok.. YOU DON’T KNOW HOW.
Sigh….. I’m certainly glad the great inventors of the world didn’t just settle for “I don’t know how”
We’d still be without lights, electricity, cars, computers, internet, refrigeration, facebook (Oh God the horror!!) LOL.. just think about it.
I’m not saying you have to take on the task of being the next big thing .. I’m just saying that if you want something then you have to WORK to get it! Stop allowing excuses and get out there and start DOING to make those dreams a reality.
If this rose were to have a fear of failure … it would have never bloomed. We would have never seen it’s beauty.
My job is to help agents succeed in their business.. I am constantly looking for new ways in which they can grow and expand their business… that’s my day job….
In my personal life I try and use my own experiences in the same way .. hoping to help others heal, grow and find their own peace and happiness as I try and do the same for myself…
This morning Spirit gently whispered to me… it’s not because they don’t want to.. it’s because they are afraid.
Often I get “what I call” excuses … from this person and that about why they can’t do this or learn that … or whatever …
… and I get frustrated… You know the saying .. “You can lead a horse to water….”, well thats how I often feel when trying to help others whether it be in their professional or personal lives.
Personally I fail all the time… but for me it’s an adventure… certainly not a fear ..
I do my best .. dust myself off and try again … sometimes it never works out .. eventually I move on to another approach if thats the case .. and again I may fail … but if I don’t at least give it a try .. I’ll never know.
My message to everyone today is “it’s ok to fail” tomorrow is another day … all the great inventors failed many times before getting it right … the world won’t end .. and time won’t stop.
What’s not ok is not trying at all.
So what if it takes several tries or even a hundred … at least you gave it a go.
Believe in yourself and hug yourself for trying….