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An Unexpected Break Through

me and mom

Ok so I’m sure this happens to everyone at some point and time.. you think you have gotten past something and BAM you realize that maybe you haven’t.

So I’m at the gym .. did my all time best on the bike today 10.69 miles in 35 minutes .. wooohoooooooooooo …. I’m hot and tired but feeling good about my accomplishment .. proud I made myself go to the gym today .. then off to the sauna I on my usual routine.

The sauna can be an awkward place some days .. depending on who else is in there .. you have all personality types do deal with… some won’t speak or look at anyone else.. some will speak briefly to say hello.. some will just nod and others don’t mind striking up conversations.

Well after the men leave the sauna there is a lady that comes in and sits right next to me… at first we both sit there silent .. relaxing .. enjoying the sauna and then I spoke up and mentioned how nice it is that the weather is going to be cooling off into the mid 80s this week and from that point we continued to chat.

She was telling me about one of her daughters in college and how last year she was called to a college in Seattle to speak and how worried she was letting this child go alone because she is oblivious to all things around her. Well the story goes on with the daughter getting in a car with a 26 year old man she had just met .. he offered to take her to the airport and her being the naive one says .. ok no problem and gets in the car with this man.. everything turned out ok.. the man wasn’t an axe murdered or rapist .. thank goodness… but the daughter said to her mom.. it’s ok  Mom, he’s a vegan! hahahaha what the heck does that have to do with anything! The mother was at a loss for words.. and explained to me this is how her daughter is and went on to say her son is street smart and totally opposite of the daughter,  thank goodness .. she says ..

Well then she asks me if I was that way as a kid or was I more like her son.. street smart…

I replied with .. oh very street smart .. always looking at everyone around me s if they were up to something..lol… and then something made me tell her about when I was 4 I had to watch after my two younger cousins because we had an uncle that lived a block from my grandmother’s house and when my grandmother would leave at dawn to go for her daily walk he would make is his way up to her house where we laid there sleeping without anyone else in the house.  So, now you know his intentions. I need not describe what he would do to us.

It only took once for me to then be aware and make myself aware when my grandmother would leave and at that point when I heard him making his way up the trail I would grab my cousins and we would hide or run out of the house and up into the woods until my grandmother got back home.  He would on occasion catch us …. thankfully not often… those times were few and far between for me at least .. I have no idea about my cousins when they were there without me.

So the next thing she says to me is …. I bet you didn’t sleep well as a child.

OMG! Ding Ding Ding .. the bells go off and the light is on … I said to her .. I still don’t.. I never have been able to sleep … and never even thought to put 2 and 2 together.

Then I got emotional.. I had thought I had made peace with it all but at that moment in telling her my story I relived it all again and then when she mentioned not sleeping .. I was stunned.. and I broke down… it was a break through way over due. I’ll be interested in seeing if now after nearly 40 years I’ll begin to actually sleep at night without the tossing and turning and the restlessness that I have had since I can remember.

I stepped out of the sauna and went to refill my water bottle and it was all I could do to hold back the tears. I went on out to my car and sat there for a few minutes.. collecting myself and my thoughts … trying to keep it together.. WOW! So you could say going to the gym today did far more than help heal my body … it may have also just healed a part of me that has been so long ago damaged.

What happened to me as a child is something I’ll certainly not ever forget …. these type things we live with each and every day of our lives. I never told my mother … she had told me about her brother this to her and her sisters and how she still had issues from it … I guess she told me the story as a way to make me aware of what he could do .. hoping it wouldn’t happen to me..  so even at the early age of 4 I could see and feel the pain that it had caused her and I then felt that  I had to protect my mother from more harm from this brother .. I thought that if she found out that he had done the same to me that it would have crushed her .. so I thought that I could be stronger and could handle the burden and protect her from further damage. I was now very aware and I took this responsibility upon myself  to protect my mother.. my cousins and me… and as I sit her telling you the story .. I think back to when my own children were 4 and can’t imagine them bearing something like this at that age .. I guess the survival mode kicks in at all ages.. and this was my way of survival back then. My mom still doesn’t know. This is certainly something I’ll never tell her, I still feel that she wouldn’t be able to handle knowing it. It’s hard enough knowing myself.

I am ever so thankful for this chance meeting with a woman I don’t even know. I’m still in shock really .. the next few days I’m sure to have many moments of reflection and at the end I hope to be stronger and more aware.

Wow…. pretty much sums this up for me.. just wow!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Starting Over

Every day we wake up .. we have another opportunity to begin again.. no matter what happened the days, weeks, months or years before.. every new days offers us a NEW chance to begin again.

Whether it is getting back on track with a diet and excercise routine or mending relationships.. each day brings us an opportunity.

What you do with that opportunity is what really matters.

Stop beating yourself up over things you wish you had or hadn’t done just start fresh with that new days clean slate and make the changes you so desparately want and or need.

It’s never too late to be who you always wanted to be.

Take each day as it is .. an opportunity to learn, grow, heal and move forward.

Many blessings for a great and prosperous day,
Raventalker

Finding Your Dreams

Spirit brings me a peculiar message this morning … I’m not going to question it .. I’m just going to keep typing as the message evolves….

Finding Your Dreams

Have you lost your dreams?
Do you remember what once you dreamed?
Does it seems like a battle to let the visions flow?
Do you feel lost?
Does it feel like hope for tomorrow is gone?
Has passion left you?

Spirit tells me that you have yourself wound so tightly that you have cut off the flow of life…. everything for you now will seem like a struggle.

It is like you have allowed your worries, stress and your need to get to a good place choke the flow of life and energy from your being.

Meditation is one way to help you find a calm, relaxing place within yourself.

Spirit says you have got to let go… you have got to find some kind peace with yourself and with life in general.

The stress is killing you… the worries are drowning all hope from your life.

Hope is not truly gone.. it is there .. just as your visions are still there … but it is like you have a thick cloud bank covering them.. blocking you from seeing and from feeling their presence.

Change your current behaviors… mix things up a bit and get yourself out of some of the damaging routines that have developed over time.. never fear change.. change is necessary for us to move forward and to grow.

Take a good look at the things in your life that are no longer doing you any good and make the changes necessary. YOU are the only one who knows what these changes are …. so don’t let others tell you whats good for you … take those decisions upon yourself and trust your inner guide.  You know what needs to be done even tho you may feel quite lost .. once you awaken to the knowledge that change needs to be made.. you’ll know what changes those are.

Be careful not to let fear and doubt steer you.

Many blessings,
Raventalker

The Possibilities are Endless

You’ve heard it before…  “The possibilities are endless”

I’d like to argue but really I’d just be making excuses. If we want something bad enough … we have it in us to obtain whatever it is we seek.

Ok, so someone says … I’d like to obtain a million dollars…. well with work, planning and dedication.. I’m sure thats a goal one could certainly obtain.

Is it easy?

I don’t think that was ever a part of the phrase nor do I think anyone ever thought the two go hand in hand…  You know that other saying… “Nothing worth while comes easy”

Here are some thoughts I’d like to leave you with today ….

What is it you truly want?
How far are you willing to go to reach that goal?
Are you ready to work for it?
Do you believe you can do it?

What are you waiting for?

To quote from the movie Soul Surfer ” I don’t need easy, I just need possible.”

What possibilities are waiting for you?

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

All Signs Point To…..

On my in to work this morning I was greeted right away with the angelic numbers 222. (222 meaning  – Have faith. Everything’s going to be all right.)

This made me smile as I felt blessed and comforted seeing the numbers there in front of me as I drove to work. I began to think about signs in general.. what they mean to people and their significance to others.

I also thought for a moment about those who would like to tell us that we make things up to mean things and that none of it really means anything .. we just say that it does.

Then I thought … well who cares if it is real or not. If I am able to find comfort in something as simple as a set of numbers, then whats the harm… what does it matter to anyone else but me. It means something to me and that is all that matters.

The truth is that none of us can truly say what is at the end of our road until that end has come to be. Having faith and something to believe in doesn’t hurt anyone at all.  If in times of stress, hardship, struggle, loneliness or whatever the case may be .. you are able to find comfort in whatever sign it is you have chosen to see then so be it. You are the only one effected by the sign.. so whats the big deal. Why is it some are so bent on arguing about what sign you chose to believe in and whether or not it is a real sign or not??? I think maybe the case is that they have their eyes closed so tightly to what cannot be explained that they don’t “SEE” .. and when others say that they have “SEEN” they feel.. .well they feel a bit left out and since they haven’t “SEEN” any signs then they must not be real.

Finding comfort in finding a feather.. seeing sets of numbers.. hearing a birds call… feeling like someone of a higher power is watching over you harms no one. Go ahead and believe as you wish .. it is all our given right.

Signs are everywhere you just have to ask for them. When asking for a sign you are making yourself aware of your surroundings.. so what was there all the while is now visible to you.

Just as that line from one of my favorite songs goes… Only the ones who believe, ever see what they dream, ever dream what comes true.

So says the raven today… DREAM.. BELIEVE.. HAVE FAITH.. LIVE.. LOVE… LAUGH and SEE!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

STOP! You’re Going the Wrong Way!

WP_20140423_010How many times have you started down a path that you just knew was not the right path for you?

This happens to us all. It’s all a part of life and being human, making mistakes, learning and growing. I can tell you from far more experience than I’d like to admit …. that path is a torturous one.

So there we are walking down the path laid before us… something inside us tells us something is wrong. The universe starts throwing signs in front of us to let us know that this path we have started on is not the one for us and yet we continue to walk forward. Oh how silly are we? We don’t intend on taking the wrong path. We don’t intend on making our lives harder, but somehow .. there we are… doing just that! Ignoring our own inner knowing and ignoring the signs in front of us.

Why? Why do we do this?

So many factors come in to play as to why we go down that wrong path.

Every path, every situation, our motives and reasons for our choices are different. Here are just a few of examples as to why oh why we go down that road:

Sometimes it is ego… dare we admit we have made a mistake..LOL…damn that ego!

Sometimes it is worry and fear. Worried that we are afraid of the path unknown to us, afraid of hurting others, afraid of what if I’m just making excuses and this is the right path. Don’t you just love it when you argue with your own inner knowing.

Sometimes it is a case of walking past that point where you feel you have already traveled beyond that half way point and you think to yourself.. well I might as well keep going to the end. You tell yourself that turning around and going back is further than just going on and making it to the end. Ummm, hello! Is it not further to keep going in the wrong direction and then having to turn around .. than it is to just stop what you are doing .. no matter the point… and get your butt back to the beginning to travel down the road better suited for you?

When in the thick of it all, we have a hard time seeing clearly. We question every move, we ignore the obvious and we make excuses not only for ourselves but for others and for our actions and motives. Hoping for the best and intending on doing the right thing for all involved.

I mean really! Who wants to admit they are wrong???  hahahahaha I can laugh now … but during those times when I was on that wrong road… whew, was it ever so hard and troubling!

I believe this is something we will all do at some point in our lives and often more than once in our lifetime. The key is recognizing your mistake and in the best way that you can … correcting it. People will get hurt, times will be hard… but we all have the ability to heal and in the end everyone will benefit from better choices.

Pay closer attention when life throws you a road block… there must be a reason for it. Don’t make things out to be more complicated than they need be and don’t let fear guide you. I know… easier said than done.. but the first step is realization.

Many blessing for a path well traveled,
Raventalker

The Upside of Living

I won’t pretend life is all roses and smiles… life gets crazy, hectic, hard, painful and down right insane at times… BUT … my message for you today is … The Sun is ALWAYS Shining.

Beyond the clouds… the sun is ever shining. Though we may sleep .. the sun never does.. it’s rays of light are continuous.. and when the moon takes it’s rest and the clouds part way… we are given the gift of light to brighten our way.

Take each day as it comes…. hardships are expected …. none of us are immune to that fact… but how we make it through.. how we handle ourselves through those times.. how we endure.. is completely up to us. We can give in or we can fight it out.

When times get hard and you are finding it difficult to keep going .. think about the bright days you’ve already had.. think of the blessings that have come your way .. remember the days when smiles and laughter filled your heart and know that those days will come again.

Hard times are temporary just like the weather… hang in there and keep walking forward. Brighter days are just around the corner. Focus on the positive. Let the negative slip away.

Many Blessings and great big hugs to all,
Raventalker

Reflection

It is good for the mind, body and soul to take some time out of our busy and hectic days to reflect. Reflect on the good, the bad and the in between…

Lessons come from more than bad experiences… All shades of life bring to us oportunites to learn… to learn about ourselves and others.

It is good to take a moment from time to time for reflection.. just be careful not to dwell too long.

Lessons of kindness, friendship, opportunity, achievement, and much more can come out of positive experiences .. so you see lessons can come along even in the best of times.

Many Blessings for a great and prosperous day,
Raventalker

The Good and the Bad

Inspired by the words of a friend this morning … “Its the choices we make in the toughest of times…that show us and others who we really are….” by Bear Medicine Walker

I thought I’d take some time to elaborate on this topic for a moment.

It’s easy to be great when things are going well… but when things go bad that’s when our true colors and our true nature sings out loud.

We may not make the best choices or decisions during hard times but if we are of good intentions and a good heart, we will do the best with what we have and what we know.

Mistakes happen .. we all fall down from time to time. It’s easy to be pulled down into a slump of depression and negativity… but it’s how we pull ourselves out of it that matters most. The will and intent to want to pull yourself out of the darkness and into the light says more than words could ever do.

I want to offer just a small bit of advice at this time: Please do not judge others by their immediate actions.. instead take a longer look at the whole picture and give them time to regroup. Treat each as you would hope you would be treated in times of hardship and struggle.

If I alone were to be judged by some of my decisions and actions from the past … Ooooooo boy would I be in a world of trouble.

We each walk our own path … although it may seem similar to another .. each walk is different.. with different circumstances, experiences, knowledge or lack of and different actions and reactions. None should be compared to another.

Our life here is about learning and growing … so mistakes will be made without doubt. EVERYONE makes them .. big , small…. we all are similar in this way.

Be kind to others as you walk through your day .. you just never know what they may be going through … behind that smile maybe a broken heart, a stressed mind and a confused weary soul… so be kind and considerate with your actions always.

Many blessings for a great day!
Raventalker

Toast of Music City Awards

So here we are again this year … just 1 month ago Toast of Music City kicked off the voting for “The Best of” for the Nashville area .. the public got to vote for everything in the area from Best Restaurant  to Best Child Care and Local Celeb..

You or someone you know can submit any business or local person for any category and then for 4 weeks votes are cast daily.

So there I am listed in Best Blog and Best Artist (Visual) .. every day for 4 weeks I posted links hoping for votes .. fingers crossed .. hoping for the best.

Any artist will be able to relate.. we do what we do because it’s who we are .. it’s in our blood to create … we don’t do it for money or fame but in the back of our minds it sure would be great to be recognized for all that we put into our creations.

Late yesterday the winners were posted online..  I am truly humbled and honored to say that I MADE IT!!!

I certainly don’t believe I am the best artist or blogger by any means … but what I am certain of is that I have the very best friends and fans anyone could ever ask for. Taking time out of their day for 4 weeks straight to cast a vote my way and for that I am truly .. truly blessed.

As an artist and blogger I give it my all each day .. with every blog .. and every piece of  art I create. Always working to improve and do the best that I can do.  My hopes are to bring a bit of peace and healing to the world in any way that I can through my blogs and writing and with my art .. I just hope to make others smile, relate and connect.

Heavy sigh … and GREAT BIG SMILES!!!!

Thank you to everyone who voted this year. You guys are the best inspiration anyone could ever ask for. I could not have done it without you.

Many Blessings and Thank yous all around!!!
Raventalker

Passion!

Heavy sigh .. and not in the way that you might think a heavy sigh would go with the topic today…  This heavy sigh is in frustration.

How do you get people passionate about what they do?

How do you get people to care about their own way of business… ?

HOW HOW HOW??????

No matter what you do .. do it well .. do it with care and do it with pride.

It doesn’t matter your part in the world… waitress, business man, company owner, delivery person, receptionist or store clerk…. what matters is how you do your job.

It may not be your dream job … but it’s your job …. do it with passion, pride and care… you may not be in the happiest place doing the best of jobs but your attitude toward what you do makes all the difference in the world.. not only to you but to those around you as well.

It feels to me that for the most part .. getting others passionate about what they do is like trying to light wet firewood … soaking wet firewood!

I suppose it’s probably not my job to get others passionate about what they do … but it frustrates me to see people not taking care and pride in their own jobs.

If you don’t like what you do .. change it…  I know .. its not always that easy … but if you don’t even try to change it .. its not going to change on its own.. and in the mean time .. find something in what you are doing that you DO like and focus on that .. and if nothing else just take pride in doing a job well done..

Even if you are a file clerk .. you can be the best damn file clerk that office has ever seen! or best receptionist, storage clerk, maintenance person, delivery tech, computer tech, support staff, cook, cleaner, sales person, etc. You are limited but none other than yourself.

Ok .. that’s my gripe of the day … sorry for going off on a tangent…. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH .. whew.. ok I feel better now!

Many Blessings for a beautiful day,
Raventalker

P.S.
I have to add a personal experience here:

years ago I worked at a place that at first I liked and then because I wouldn’t follow the manager around like trained dog I was put on the blacklist and made to feel bad every day … made  to have lunch alone instead of in the group with everyone else.. made to be the one to go fetch things from the storage building from hell .. and just made to feel inferior every day.

What did I do about it?
I made sure I was best damn employee that company had ever seen .. making myself so valuable that once I was gone I would without doubt be missed! I managed a system for the storgage building from hell that only I knew.. so again when I was able to leave .. they would be lost. I took it upon myself to do the best of my ability and I challenged myself daily to out do myself .. and this took the focus off how others were trying to make me feel and I felt pride in myself for a job well done and for knowing that what I was doing was to the very best of my ability. I took the power out of their hands and put it in my own .. I was determined to do well despite the things they were trying to do to make me feel bad.

To this day .. I still smile..  Months after I left I went back to visit a few friends and it was nice seeing a huge mountain of stuff that needed to be done and wasn’t because I was gone.. hahahahahahahaha THAT WAS THE BEST!

Do your best no matter what others are doing …. just do your own personal best and take joy from knowing that you have done exactly that.

Watch Your Words

IMG_3338The simplest of statements can change who you are and how you feel and how you live.

Think about these statements for a moment and think of how many times you may have said them …

I am broke
I am sick
I am hurt
I am sad
I am afraid
I can’t do it
I don’t know how…

Think for a moment how these statements effect you …

Now change your statement to define you in a better way

I’m not broke.. I just don’t have the money right now … but its coming

I’m not sick .. I’m just not feeling my best at the moment .. but better days are ahead

Here’s to using better words…

Many Blessings for a great and prosperous day,
Raventalker

Your Song

Each of us has a song inside … it resonates who we truly are. It comes from our heart and soul… bellowing out from the core of who we are inside and out.

Each song is unique to the person in which it resides.. none more important than the other.

The question of the night is: Do you know your own song?

Here are a few other questions one might ask about your song:
Can you sing it out loud?
Do you sing it proudly?
Does it ring of pride?
Does it carry a tune of sadness or joy.. maybe a mixture of the two?
Does the sound of it make others want to join in and sing it too?
Is it a pleasant melody or something quite the opposite?
Does it beat fast or slow?
Does this song bring tears or smiles… or maybe both?
Is it a healing song?

The answers only you will know… important to none other than you.

Step inside yourself for a moment and listen to your own song … allow yourself to be filled with its melody … get to know it .. get to know yourself..

Within this song are the answers you seek… the person you maybe thought was lost is still there … listen to the sounds and find yourself …. sway with the beat and dance to the tune of you and be proud of the person that is there.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Magic Wish

I wrote this a few years back and thought it was a time to reshare 🙂
Don’t Make Me

Don’t make me call on the rain to hide the tears

Don’t make me call on the wind to carry away the fears

Don’t make me!

I tell you I have been there … so many times.. I have visited this place … you know.. that sad place deep inside you where you go to when you’ve been hurt.. when you’re sad and lonely .. when you feel like no one else in the world feels the way you do.

That place you escape to … that place where you think no one will notice how sad and lonely you are or how deeply hurt  you may be..

I just wanted to send out a great big {{{hug}}} to all those finding themselves in that place.

So I’m posting this little message to let you know you’re not alone.. there are people who care.. you just have to let them help you .. let them love and care for you ..

Pull yourself out of that lonely place and try to have a bit of fun.. laugh … and live .. don’t let anyone make you feel like you don’t deserve to be loved  ..

Here’s a bit of magic coming your way .. hoping you’ll be able to laugh and have some fun … and most importantly feel the love this magic wish brings

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Now close your eyes and count to three…
Nod your head and accept this magic wish I send to out thee…..

Jump up and stomp the ground .. bang on the floor and make a lot of sound!

Turn on some musical tunes … now scream and shout at the moon

Spin and turn around really really fast … keep on going as I finish out this wish I cast

Now stop and throw your arms up into the air ….
Cast away all your worries and all your cares

Pull your arms in really close and give yourself a great big hug …
Hold on tight…. make it really really snug

Feel the magic from above .. feel the warmth and all my love

I’m sending you now, a magic feather
Now see.. don’t you feel better?

 

Many Blessings of love and magic,
Raventalker

Unforgettable

 I wrote this a while back … but thought I might refresh it and share again.

Unforgettable moments, people, places, scenes and events.

I want to be one of those unforgettable people..  and be part of many unforgettable moments, view unforgettable scenes and witness and participate in unforgettable events.

I want happy memories that will last many lifetimes. I want happy memories of me to linger long after I am gone. I’d like others to want me around even when I’m not.

I want to be a creator of those unforgettable times for everyone I can.

I want to be a part of the great magic that flows through the air and into everyone… bringing them up… making them laugh .. and making them feel good all over .. inside and out.

I’ll do my part each and every day to make this possible..

I just hope that others see and feel the magic … hold on to the magic and appreciate the magic that has come their way .. from me and from others.

A magic that fills your being with a joy that makes you feel as though there is nothing you can’t do.. no mountain to high too climb.. no river too wide to cross.. no boundaries to hold you back.. a magic that feels like new love .. fresh and exciting .. that sends tingles up your spine every time you think of me.

That’s me and that’s my wish for tonight for everyone … tomorrow and eternity.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

It’s NOT Okay!

I wrote this several years ago…  and you know.. I STILL find myself saying this …  not as much .. but I still do say it even tho I don’t mean it. Personal or professional life.. we all do this in one way or another.

It’s OK

… how often do you find yourself saying this???

Someone does something intentional sometimes and most times not. It leaves you with  bad feelings in one way or another and you say .. “It’s ok”.

But is it really ok?

What do you do with those feelings you are left with?

Are you able to manage them away? Do you just bury them deep inside you..  in that place where we often place the things we don’t want to deal with .. or don’t know how to deal with .. or are afraid to deal with?

I find myself so often saying this little phrase… as small as it is … it can be very damaging inside.

Not sure how to stop myself from just saying “it’s ok”. Being the kind of person that I am, always wanting to please others and not make anyone feel bad .. wanting to fix all that is wrong with the world. How do I stop myself from saying “it’s ok” and still not feel guilty for possibly making someone feel bad because of it?

Another question in saying that is why is it “I” feel guilty about telling someone it’s NOT ok  and that I am hurt or feeling negative from whatever it was that happened? Especially when I am speaking about something the other person did or said .. because that is the reason we say “it’s ok” to begin with. Telling them not to worry about their words or actions. Telling them not to worry that their words or actions may be causing pain to another.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm .. oh dear ..  it looks like I have opened yet another can of worms inside myself.. now how to work it all out and learn from it and heal myself from all the many years of saying “it’s ok”.

and …..

Will the day ever come that I will find myself not ever HAVING to say “it’s ok” ???

I guess only time will tell .. but I’m certainly not holding my breath…lol

I’d DIE! lol

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Allow Yourself

With life being ….. well LIFE .. we often find ourselves shutting things out. Lots of things… in fact far more than we realize. You can’t live a life closed off from life’s experiences. You have to allow yourself to FEEL … to LOVE … to CREATE … to LIVE!

Allow healing…. Allow laughter…. Allow sorrow… Allow pain… Allow love… Allow appreciation….. Allow yourself all things from all experiences.

Just like that great quote: To know great happiness you must first experience great sorrow.

It’s true… How would we know happiness if we didn’t understand and know the depths of pain and sorrow?

We get hurt and we put up a wall… we fail and we put up another wall… we become unhappy and we put up even more walls.. sooner or later we are just surrounded by walls and we are not only keeping the bad things out but we aren’t letting the good things in either.  So we doom ourselves to carry on living without experiencing.

If I had put up a wall every time I got hurt or failed at something … OMG .. I would be a hermit living in a vast forest with no contact with the world at all. I’d be so sad, alone and I would have died in the same way … very sad and very alone..

I can’t imagine missing all the moments of love, beauty, magic and wonder… I would have missed it all if I had put up walls from past hurts.

Not meeting my bestest friends… would have also been missed if I had of put up walls and closed myself off to new friendships because of past friendships gone wrong.

If I had closed myself off to the world… I don’t think I could paint or create a thing… for what experiences would I be able to draw from except from pain and solitude?

My message today: Don’t be afraid to fall down… getting up and giving it your all is well worth a few scrapes and bruises along the way… LIVING is so much better than existing.

Many Blessings,
ravensig

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Summer’s Beginning

WP_20140620_010Here I stand on the longest day of the year…. stretching my hands to the universe accepting of the energy that comes fourth. Thankful for the blessings in my life and hopeful of a future filled with many more.

A time when the days stop growing and the nights stop shrinking …
A time to begin working with your dreams.

Tonight when the sun finally slips down and calls it a night… I’ll lay my head upon my pillow and dream many dreams for happy days to come.

Dreaming of  the love I have found and growing old together… still smiling at each other when those days come to an end. Dreaming of creations yet to be realized and created. Dreaming of peace and love for all my family and friends. Dreaming of the future… of an ease of life, of fresh air, clean water and our warm and cozy home. Dreaming dreams that  keep us dreaming, keep us hoping, keep us living, keep us smiling.

Tomorrow I shall awake and follow those dreams as I do each and every day. Never giving up, never stopping when I fall. I’ll continue to chase those dreams til my days find their end.

The Solstice, where the days are still much longer than the night, we have time to bring our dreams into creation… and as each night comes to be, we are given a wee bit more time to focus our intent within our dreaming.  Use this time wisely.

Let your dreams be realized in the sun lit hours while the moon guides you through the night and keeps you dreaming those dreams that keep you living the life you always knew could be possible.

 

 

Many Blessings for a Happy and Bright Solstice,

Waya

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The Road We’re On

IMG_5029Uphill… downhill…. good… bad…. treacherous… smooth …. straight …. crooked …. no matter the condition of the road your on … it’s YOUR road.

You can focus on all the flaws, holes and obstacles or you can do the best with what you have… that’s entirely up to you.

What you do while on your road is also your own making … but beware.. what you do on your road stays on your road. So be careful not to add obstacles that don’t need to be there.

No two roads are alike.. similar they may be but never exactly the same… what worked for someone else may or may not work for you… so don’t try walking in someone elses footsteps expecting the same outcome… rarely does that ever work out.

No matter your road, walk it in peace with love and honor in your heart. You’ll feel much better as you make your way and be able to hold your head up and say … I did my best.
It doesn’t mean you did everything right .. but at least you tried.

Be kind to others and be kind to yourself.

Many blessings,
Raventalker

Perfect…

I have to say I’m not perfect in anyway .. except one…
I’m perfect only at being ME!

I can’t sing.. my dancing is just ok …
I can rhyme a little but try to write a lot …
I know how to use a paintbrush but the greatest, I’m certainly not
My drawings are never exact … even my glass sometimes gets chipped
My words sometimes come out wrong
My days often flawed
But I’m ME and that’s all I can be…

I try my best and give it my all
But sometimes I still hit that wall
I try to see from all points of view..
But my vision sometimes goes  askew

To myself I try to always be true
Even if we don’t agree … doesn’t mean I don’t like  or respect you
I have to stand my ground and stay true to who I am
Otherwise I’m nothing more than a joke, a  sham

So there you have it .. I’m just me..
As perfectly as I can be..
Flaws and all .. this is me

Perfectly ME!


Raventalker

From a thought to a dream

From a thought to a dream
From a dream to reality
We all have within us this ability

To make our wishes and dreams come true
The power is there, sitting deep inside you

Thoughts become words, words become action
The universe works in reaction

Speak out loud, what you wish to see
Answers will soon come to thee

With honor and love in your heart
For the dream to come true
You must play an active part

Walking in the direction of your dream
It’s not as easy as it may seem

Obstacles sometimes block the way
Never give up, no matter what anyone has to say

Positive thoughts and actions ease the trail
Don’t worry about “What if I fail”

Where there is a will, there is a way
That’s what I’ve always heard them say

So follow your heart and you shall soon see
What was once a dream, has now become reality!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

These Pages


These are the pages of my life…

Turn them with ease, gentleness and care.
My soul, these pages do bare

This path is mine, not unlike yours
Full of many roads, hallways and doors.

Tears, laughter, sorrow and pain
Lessons learned again and again

Secrets whispered in the night
Wishes placed on the wings of butterflies in flight

These pages contain all that is me
Bound in leather, written for all to see

Scrapes and bruises, stitches and scars
Always dreaming beneath the stars

Creating for creation’s sake
Sitting with my love by the lake

Kisses and cuddles late at night
Seeing with second sight

Ghosts and spirits roaming about
Wondering what this life is all about

A smile.. a look
It’s all right here.. written on the pages of this book

Fairy tales that do come true..
Have a seat and let me tell you

My light, at times has nearly gone out
My head filled with so much self doubt

This life has had it’s highs and lows
But that light in me… still it glows

I’ll not give up on the dreams I dream
It’s never as easy as it may seem

Twists and turns, wear and tear
Let me tell you… I’ve been there!

It began with “Once upon a time…”
Just like in those old nursery rhymes

There will be no end…  you see
For my soul will continue on buzzing like a bee

So, I’ll see you in the here after
Living Happily ever after.

 

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

It’s Right There!

IMG_9490It’s right there next to you, behind you, in front of you, above, below and all around you.  It’s right there!

Peace, love, joy and excitement.

Sure there are other things as well… but that doesn’t take away the peace, love, joy and magic that also exist.

It may be storming but the love, peace, joy and magic can still be found… if you just look for it.

If all you look for is rain.. that’s all you will find.

Take each day as it comes and find you’ll it.

A cool breeze on a hot, sunny day.
A refreshing moment beneath a shade tree.
The warmth of a sweater on a cold night.
The coolness of your pillow on the flip side.
A smile
A giggle
A friend
A kiss
A hug
A snuggle
The warmth of a campfire
Lightening bugs a dusk
The song of a bird
The purrr of a kitten
An eager welcome home from your pet
The smell of jasmine blooming in late spring
Snow cones and ice cream!
4 leaf clovers
Babies sleeping
The quiet at the end of a long day
The chatter of children at play
Movie Night
Doing something right
Sunsets and sunrises
Unexpected surprises

It’s all there… no matter where you go…

Just take another look and you’ll see … It’s Right There!

Many Blessings for a great day!
Raventalker

 

Barriers and Walls

IMG_2171Today I want to take a moment to talk about barriers and walls that separate us.

A week or so ago I stumbled upon a website that bashed various people across the internet. They bashed people they clearly didn’t even know. They picked away at these people for no other reason than that the people listed on their site didn’t have the same beliefs as them… or that they didn’t do the same things they did… as if their way is the only way. My name was even on their list. They picked at my story about how I got my name, saying how it is more of an embarrassment and that I must ramble on non-stop, given my name. Then they went on to say my website was nothing more than a load of bad art. These are the things they said about me.. so you can imagine what they said of others.

These people don’t even know me but choose to bash me regardless. Wow! How can I sign up to their club? What a charmed life they must live. They have nothing better to do than search the net and find terrible words to write about others. It’s people like this that build barriers between us all.

I won’t do the same and  search them down to make fun of their name or the job that they do or the way they live their lives. To each their own. We all have a right to our own beliefs and or our own way of living as long as it harms none.

I just don’t see the good that they bring and I am saddened. I’ve never been one to care much about what others have to say about me. I do my thing and that’s just me. I have always been that way and will continue being me no matter what. I’m not perfect and never claimed to be. I make mistakes and I am as always a work in progress myself. But people I know and care about are listed and bashed and I just hope they never see what these people have written about them or at least if they do see it, I hope they don’t take it to heart.

On another note of the same…

I had a personal experience a couple of weeks ago where someone said to me that they thought I was a smart person until they found out about something I believed in. WOW! Just because my beliefs may differ from yours does not mean I’m stupid or any less of a person. Again… another wall built for no good reason at all.

My beliefs are mine and mine alone.. as yours are yours and yours alone..

I am not threatened by what you believe in as you shouldn’t be by what I believe in.

It’s just silly nonsense!

This world doesn’t need more walls and barriers … that’s one thing I do know!

Oh and btw .. yes I do sometimes ramble on …lol.. but hey that’s just me .. I have a lot to say. There are many stories in me and I like to share. Not embarrassed one bit by my name, I wear it proudly! 😛

I would like to leave you all with one thought today. As you go through your daily life, be careful not to judge too quickly and be kind not only in your actions but also in your words.

Today is “Say Something Nice Day”  so smile at everyone you pass and say something nice to someone you meet. You’ll not only brighten their world..  you’ll brighten yours as well.

Many blessings to everyone…
Raventalker

Imagine

Today Spirit offers me up one word… IMAGINE

As I ponder upon the word I’ve been given…  the message becomes clear.

IMAGINE the life you want to live and walk in that direction.

We dream … we believe in that dream .. and then we start walking toward that dream … whether the dream is realized or not .. you have taken the steps to get you as near to the dream as possible.

Your world is truly what you make it to be … not saying bad things don’t happen ….

The bad things that happen in our lives build strength, courage and growth .. not saying those things don’t suck .. just saying they help build the parts of us we at some point didn’t even know were there.

Take a quick glance back at the things you have already overcome…
SEE! YOU CAN MAKE IT PAST THE STORM!

Now imagine the life you want .. believe in that image and walk toward it without fear.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

The Long and Winding Road

IMG_5029Remember that we are each born with everything we need to succeed.

Not saying it won’t be a battle… and certainly not saying it will be a smooth and easy road

The road to success lies before us and it’s a long, treacherous road with lots of hills and valleys, with loose rock and sink holes….

How we maneuver down that road makes all the difference….

We must keep our ultimate goal in mind and continue walking in that direction no matter what obstacles come before us.

We must not give up … the goal is there … we just have to keep walking toward it.

Know that you have what it takes to reach that goal and push forward! YOU WILL GET THERE!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Closed Door

Often times we look too long at closed doors….  to see the new one that has been opened for us.

Just Sayin…

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Feeling Disconnected?

Feeling Disconnected?

We often go through periods in our life where we feel completely disconnected to everything… even to ourselves.

The question is …. how to reconnect?

Life gets busy and we find ourselves buzzing here … buzzing there .. nonstop.. we are doing doing and doing all day long … we get overloaded with so much … we then start cutting strings without knowing that’s what’s going on…  it’s needed so that we don’t blow a fuse or two…  life begins to slow down a little and suddenly we realize this …  we get that disconnected feeling but have no idea why it is now that we feel so disconnected. .

Not so simple.. depending where you are on your path and what’s going on in your life .. you might find that though you try many different things.. you just can’t seem to connect.

Sometimes it’s a matter of life telling us we need a break. We need some time to rest and recharge… take some  time to do just that … get outside and take a walk… read that book you’ve been meaning to read… take long hot baths… whatever it is .. take some time to yourself … get that much needed rest and don’t worry so much about that connection.. it will soon be back and life will be back in that groove you are use to.

Take that time for yourself and oh yeah .. DON’T LET YOURSELF FEEL GUILTY for taking that much needed break!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

All it Takes is Remembering

IMG_8987Today I want to take you back … back in time to the days when you felt you had the world in your hands and you just knew that someday all your dreams would come true.

You may have been 5 and just starting school.. ready to learn all that you could.

You may have been 9, in that in between age of being a kid and being a teenager.

You may have been 13 and just starting Junior High…  or you may have been 16 with a license to go wild … .your freedom in the form of a little plastic card with your picture on it.

You may have been 18, graduating high school  ready to leave home and branch out on your own.

You may have been 21 and now the world truly was in your hands … no rules holding you back!

You may have been 35 and finally coming into your knowing…

You may have been in your 40’s and well … the little things no longer mattered.

No matter what the age was when you felt like the world was yours … when you had high hopes, dreams and long-standing goals… go back now to that time… even if it was just for a moment … go back

Remember what that felt like…

Remember how mountains were merely anthills and rivers were never too wide.

Now remember those hopes and dreams… remember the goals you once had…

Remember your ambition and your readiness to take on whatever lies before you.

Remember?

Explore those thoughts today is all I ask…..

Many Blessings,
Raverntalker

Kinks

Remember we are all a work in progress….
Don’t sweat the small stuff … perfection comes from being perfectly YOU.

The message from Spirit today is to not let the small things in life cause you stress.. the details will work themselves out as long as you are walking in the direction of your goals.

IMG_5029Kinks are just learning tools.. they keep us on our toes and refocus us on our journey.

When things are going smooth for too long … we tend to then start sleepwalking through life… the autopilot kicks in and we miss so much.

Just like when you do that daily drive home for the 7,000th time and think back… how did I get here? You suddenly can’t remember if the light was red or green when you drove through it and you can’t remember any of the small details about your drive.. all you know is that you’re home now.

So when you come across a kink in your plan… don’t stress… just continue walking toward your goal with love in your heart and all will work itself out.

What is meant to be will be.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

My Wish Today


What is my wish this day?
My wish is that all grown-ups get to have some fun and play!

Remember what it’s like to play in the rain
Let’s get silly and walk around, chugging along like a choo-choo train

Let’s seal of all our secrets with a pinky swear
Let’s see who blinks first as we give each other the stare!

A pinch and a poke
Yeah that’s right.. you owe me chips and a coke!

Let’s stay up and laugh all night
Let’s grab some sticks and play fight

Dragons, fairies and witches exist
Let’s play 1 potato, 2 potato with our fists

I’ll hide and you can seek
Hey now! Don’t you peek!

Summer days are always the best
When you never needed or wanted time to rest

Let’s fly some kites in the park
We’ll play all day but we have to be home by dark!

Let’s spin and spin all around
Let’s spin until we get dizzy and fall to the ground

Ring around the rosies
Pocket full of posies

Days were full of adventure and fun
We laughed, we played, we’d swing and run

Tickles and giggles all through the night
Jumping on the bed and pillow fights!

Remember when?
Way back then…

My wish today is easy you see
Let’s remember what it was like to be a kid
When our days were filled with light and worry free

Come on now.. don’t make me beg
Last one to the tree swing is a rotten egg!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Feeling the Flow

Inspired by a post I read earlier this morning about feeling the flow  and energy of all things.
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Feeling the Flow

It’s here and there .. it’s all around us everywhere!
It’s energy fills us and brings us into being
It’s something worth feeling .. something worth seeing…

The flow, it comes in waves of greatness
Swirling all around and bathing us

It’s not in just you and me
It’s in the buzzing of every bee and the whisper of every tree

It’s in the lake, the pond and every river, ocean and stream
It fills us like the visions in a dream

Circling all around us in a swift and steady fashion
Feeling the vibration is beyond words or imagination

The Earth and it’s hummm
Like the beating of an ancient drum

Pounding deep from within it’s core
Feeding life into each and every pore

Rushing through flesh and bone, wood and stone
It’s always there and never gone

Feel it now with your heart, soul and very being
Close your eyes and experience with me this amazing feeling

Feel it now with more than just your hand
Feel it as it moves across the land

The flow of life as it sways to and fro
That fills us all each and every day as we grow

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

When?

When will you be happy?

Do you ever hear yourself saying things like….

I’ll be happy when I get a new car

I’ll be happy when I loose weight

I’ll be happy when I find love

I’ll be happy when I own my own home

I’ll be happy when I find a better job

I’ll be happy when …..

How about being happy right here .. right now?

I’m not in any way suggesting that you settle … but what I am saying is that why wait to be happy .. we can be happy right here and right now while we walk toward our goals.. no need to wait til those goals are met.. because I dare say .. if you aren’t happy walking toward those goals.. what makes you think meeting that goal will magically change your mindset and make you happy right then  at the very moment that goal is met.

IMG_9620Happiness begins when you allow yourself to be so.

Choose right here .. right now for that moment to begin!

Smile and love with your whole heart and watch what happens 🙂

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Wisdom from the walking trail

It’s all about frame of mind… 

Whatever you do …. if you decide before you do it that you hate it or will hate it then it’s probably not going to be an enjoyable experience for you. (This isn’t always true.. but mostly true.. there are always those exceptions 🙂

If you set your mind to be open to the task.. then who knows.. you may end up liking it or at the least .. not minding it so much.

I started out in my most recent “battle of the bulge” thinking that adding a workout to my already busy day was just going to be that much more work for me… it made just getting to the gym a real chore… talking myself into going and not giving up all the way home up until I actually stepped foot into the gym and then from there I would have to talk myself into staying on the bike while I was there just to get through the whole workout.

Then suddenly a funny thing happened somewhere between getting there.. being there and finishing my workout…. My thoughts went from dread to I now look forward to my workouts! How can that be??????

Well I wasn’t going to give up on the workouts .. it is my mission this time around to win this battle… and so I might as well try my best to find a way to like what I’m doing. So I did! I found something in the gym that I absolutely love .. that would be the swimming and the sauna .. hee hee LOVE IT! I save that for last .. I go in do my rounds with the weights .. do my 30 minutes of cardio and then my reward is there waiting every time.. time to swim .. which is also a great workout so there’s an extra benefit to me.. and then after swimming as many laps as I can handle .. off to the sauna I go.. there is my meditation time.. time to just sit and relax and sweat off a bit more weight at the same time.

So now it’s so much easier to get through my workouts .. so much easier to get to the gym .. and all in all I feel better.. I don’t have that looming dread hanging over me at the end of my day.

As soon as my thoughts changed from negative to positive .. everything clicked and my world became a whole lot brighter. This was something I needed to do regardless of how I thought about it so I might as well turn it into something enjoyable.

I’m lucky that my thoughts changed so quickly .. just 5 weeks into my battle.. if only they had changed years ago maybe I wouldn’t have such a large battle.. but that’s in the past and for now I’m concentrating on each day as it comes.

Message of the day:

When you have a task before you and you’re feeling that dread … look around and see if there is a way to see the positive and embrace that part of it.. even if it’s something small.. a little bit of positivity goes a long way!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Today’s Walk

What a beautiful Spring day!

I pushed myself away from my desk and took myself down the street to the park and walked for my lunch break. I was greeted at the path entrance by sister crow, cawing from overhead.

Crows are the keepers of the Sacred Law and to have a Crow totem is very powerful. Personal Integrity are your watchwords and your guide in Life. If you have a Crow totem, your prime path is to be mindful of your opinions and actions. You must be willing to walk your talk, to speak your truth and to know your life’s mission. Crow is a omen of Change. Crow lives in the void and has no sense of time, therefore, it sees past, present and future simultaneously. Crow merges both light and dark, both inner and outer.
It is the totem of the Great Spirit and must be respected as such. They are symbols of creation and spiritual strength. Look for opportunities to create and manifest the magic of life. Crows are messengers calling to us about the creation and magic that is alive in the world today and available to us.

As I rounded my path for the 3rd time.. look at what was gifted to me 🙂

As I’m making my rounds my dear friend the dragonfly swoops by for a visit… and I say hello!

Dragonfly is the essence of the winds of change, the messages of wisdom and  enlightenment; and the communication from the elemental world. Dragonfly medicine beckons you to seek out the parts of your habits which need changing.  Call on Dragonfly to guide you through the mists of illusion to the pathway of transformation. 

The Jasmine is starting to bud and the fragrance is already filling the warm spring air… mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm…. so relaxing!

Jasmine is an astringent, anti bacterial, anti viral, cooling and bitter herb. It stimulates the uterus, calms nerves and is reportedly an aphrodisiac for women.

It is also used as an alternative for cancers, as well as viral and bacterial infections. J. officinale is used in perfumes, as well as flavoring for maraschino cherries.

It is mostly used in Ayurvedic medicine for infections with high fever, conjunctivitis, sunstroke, dermatitis, as well as cancer of the bones, lymphatic nodes and breast cancer.
Also it is used for mouth ulcers, and the fresh juice is applied to corns.

  • This is useful for severe depression and especially for postnatal depression.
  • It is useful during childbirth since it relieves pain and strengthens contractions and is also a hormonal balancer.
  • On the skin it is used with great effect to treat dry, stressed and sensitive skins and also helps to increase elasticity.
  • It has anti-depressant, antiseptic, anti-spasmodic, aphrodisiac, emmenagogue, emollient, galactagogue, sedative and uterine properties.

The Robins are everywhere .. preparing their nests and fetching food for the young ones that have already hatched.. I always smile when I see the Robin.. it reminds me of the fairies.

A Robin totem will stimulate new growth in all areas of your life. Believe in yourself as you move forward. Obstacles will fall by the wayside if you do and confrontations will be for show only. This totem gives you the ability to will new growth into your life. Meditate on Robin and the correct path will be revealed to you.

I have to also speak of the Polk Salad that grew along the path .. It reminds me of my grandmother… when I was young she would always send me out to pick it when was ready. Then she would take it inside…. wash it off and cook a big pot of it … I never ate because I couldn’t stand the smell.. but she sure loved it!

Since pioneer times, pokeweed has been used as a folk remedy to treat many ailments. It can be applied topically or taken internally. Topical treatments have been used for acne and other ailments. Internal treatments include tonsillitis, swollen glands and weight loss. Dried berries were ingested whole as a treatment for boils, taken 1 berry per day for 7 days. Grated pokeroot was used by Native Americans as a poultice to treat inflammations and rashes of the breast. Independent researchers are investigating phytolacca’s use in treating AIDS and cancer patients. Especially to those who have not been properly trained in its use, pokeweed should be considered dangerous and possibly deadly.

All in all I’d say another productive walk 🙂

See you on the next round!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

If You had Just 1 ……

If tomorrow was your last day here on Earth … what would be the one story about your life that you would want told?

I think mine might be quite long because it incorporate so many things and at the end to sum it up .. it would be that my story was about not giving up. Not giving up on people, on my goals and dreams, on love,  and not giving up on myself…

 

So come on .. share what your story would be about…

 

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

 

Time to Begin!

It’s the new moon and time to start something new .. or at least time to start or begin something you have been thinking of doing or wanting to do… NOW is the time to do it!

Plant your seeds … get that garden going .. 

Just make sure that with all things you begin.. begin each task with love and watch how it grows!

There is no time like the present .. stop telling yourself you will and just do it!

You’ll feel good about getting started … and by starting right now… you have giving yourself an additional boost by begiining his new task on the new moon… as long as you keep your eye on the goal .. you’ll see it through.

So come on .. join me today and get those seeds of new beginning planted!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Personal Power

WP_20140520_026We all have it … each of us hold our own power… we just don’t always feel as though we do.

So often we give our power away to others .. others who we should not be giving it to.

Have you ever had one of those days when you just feel useless.. like you’re never seen or heard, like you just aren’t important and that you just don’t matter?

This happens when you let others take your power away from you.. don’t allow others to make you feel less than who you are.

You need to know that you do hold the power to change your life and make it what YOU want it to be.

Own up to your own inner strengths and own who you are.

Remember that at the end of the day that power belongs to you ..

It is better to help others find their own than to give yours away.

The power is yours .. own it!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

A Work in Progress

There I was standing over a clover patch and picked up a four leaf clover .. oh so happy about finding my little good luck charm I got in the car and was about to press it in a book and found that the clover was less than what most consider a perfect 4 leaf clover. The fourth leaf was actually  growing out of one of the others and not a separate leaf all on it’s own. Most would probably throw the clover away thinking it wasn’t really a true four leaf clover and therefor not so lucky afterall. For a moment I thought to myself .. “Dang!”  But then I looked at the clover again and thought … how lucky am I .. I found a four leaf clover!!!

The clover may not have been perfect .. but it was aiming to be a four leaf clover and it was. It may not have been the “ideal” 4 leaf clover but still it was a four leaf clover. It may not have grown just like all the other four leaf clovers .. but still it was a four leaf cover.
It’s fourth leaf may not have been fully developed but still it was a four leaf clover. I’m sure you all see where I am going from here .

We must be happy in the moment .. be happy with who we are right now..
I’m not saying we give up trying to attain our goals but at each moment and at each step and at each phase .. we should be happy with ourselves.. be happy with what we are or have become at that moment…
We should all see ourselves as that tiny little four leaf clover with one of it’s leaves still progressing and growing.. working toward it’s ultimate goal. It doesn’t mean we are any less.. simply a work in progress.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Happiness is Now

Be Happy Today…. Don’t wait til tomorrow.

Yesterday is gone … cherish the memories that make you feel good but release the pain.

Tomorrow is a gift .. let it be ..

Look not too far into the future that you miss out on today.

Find something to smile about each and every day and watch and see how life improves. Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Fear of Reaching Out

Today I want to talk a moment about those feelings we get urging us to reach out to someone .. someone we don’t know.

You ever see someone out in public and immediately get this urge to go over and speak to them .. offering a hand .. advice .. encouragement or a hug?

This is what I’m talking about today .. I have two stories I’d like to share with you today.

Story No. 1:

The first happened a few years ago….

I was going to Tong Ren(energy healing) classes with a friend of mine and there was a woman there .. who had obvious sadness or depression in her life. I always carry crystals with me … and the first time I saw her .. this voice inside me said .. give her the crystal.. I fought back and fourth with that voice through the whole class. I told the voice.. I can’t do that .. I don’t know this lady and she doesn’t know me.. what will she think… be the voice insisted I give her the crystal.. the class ended and I didn’t give her the crystal.

The next class, there she is again and oh boy there is that voice again. All class I argued with the voice and struggled with what to do.. going over in my head how this would play out if I made the decision to hand the woman a crystal.

By the end of the class .. the voice was so overwhelming that I gave in.. took the crystal from my bag and turned to face the woman with my hand out …  crystal in hand.. she looked at me and started crying .. not just a little tear .. I mean she was seriously crying .. she took the crystal and hugged me.. and then said .. Thank you for noticing and thank you for caring.  WOW! I was speechless .. yes, me .. speechless. It felt good… and the voice had been right all along.

Story No. 2:

Ok this happened to me yesterday.. I was at the gym, riding the bike.. pushin and goin like crazy trying to get through the whole 30 minutes and reach my 8 mile mark. I notice a lady in the mirror behind me.. she is on the treadmill and quite a large lady .. I felt a great sadness and loneliness about her and I couldn’t help but keep checking on her. She is on that treadmill walking the whole time I am on my bike and my thoughts go out to her. I’m inspired by the fact that she is in there just like me fighting this battle to get fit. It’s her loneliness that keeps pulling my attention to her .. not her size. I wanted to get off my bike and ask her if she minded if I walk on the treadmill next to her .. I wanted to do this so maybe we could strike up a conversation and that maybe I could take away some of that lonely feeling she had. Again, I argue back and fourth with my own feelings… I don’t know this lady and she doesn’t know me. Maybe she just wants to work out and be left alone.. but that feeling I keep getting from her makes me want to help her.

The voice keeps on talking and I keep on arguing. I wanted to go up to her and say.. just in case no one has told you today.. I want to say I’m proud of you.. but that sounded weird to me and I was worried how it would come across and how she might take that. I just wanted to find a way to keep her encouraged and to take away some of the loneliness she had.

I finished my 30 minutes and my 8 miles and even though I so badly wanted to approach this lady .. I didn’t .. all the way home I kept thinking about her and was kicking myself for not doing something. I hope I see her again… I will try to strike a conversation and just offer to come work out with her if she wants a buddy to workout with.

Maybe she didn’t want or need the help.. but then again .. maybe she did .. and there I was doing nothing about it. After all whats the worst she could do .. tell me no and to tell me to piss off.

I regret letting my fears keep me from doing what I was instinctively guided to do.

I’d love to hear your stories, if this has happened to you .. or if you were on the other end and a stranger has come to you out of the blue to help.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Staying On Course!

Today I want to talk a little bit about some things I’ve been going through myself.

I have recently joined a gym and have been workingout each week in hopes to shed some weight and get fit.

First of all after working a 10 hour day with an added 1 hour or more commute each way … it’s a struggle just to get myself to the gym instead of going home and relaxing…. but I’ve been pretty good at getting there anyway.

Yesterday I went straight from work to the gym .. got myself on a bike and started peddling … 5 minutes goes by and I am ready to stop and go home.. I find myself talking my way through it .. saying to myself.. I think I can make it to 15 minutes then I’ll stop for today and go home… 12 minutes comes around and I am definately ready to call it quits at 15 minutes…  so then 15 minutes comes around and I think to myself.. ok 5 more minutes .. 20 minutes isn’t so bad .. so I am ok with quitting at 20 minutes .. 20 minutes comes around and I’m thinking oh how I want to quit but then I’m thinking I’ve got this far .. only 10 minutes left.. I CAN DO THIS! I CAN DO THIS!

That next 10 minutes I’m just feeling determined to finish it out and make it to the 30 minute mark.. I’m sore, tired and really ready to stop but I keep going .. I grab hold of that bike and finish the 30 minutes.

Whew! I did it! I made it all the way even though 5 minutes into it I was ready to give up and go home. Now proud that I made it through and that I didn’t quit but also exhausted! hahahahaha but a good exhausted 🙂

My message today is .. stay on the bike! You’ll feel so much better about your decisions and you’ll be that much closer to your goal.

No goal was ever met by giving up.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Do You Really Know?

IMG_9620Today Spirit guides me to post this question to you…

Do you really know who you are today?

I know it may sound odd… and I have gone back and fourth with Spirit today about posting this .. and I am urged that I should, so okay! Here I am posting the question.

Do you really know who you are today?

In general you may have a gist of who YOU are … but how about today? How about now?

Are you feeling your life and your views shift?

Are you who you always thought you would be or are you someone different?

Are you the same person every day or do you find that some days you feel all together like someone else?

Do you have a sure footing of who you are?

Beyond your beliefs … beyond your morals and standards of living .. do you feel like you know who you are?

Personally … I use to question myself all the time… so I can truly understand this line of questioning.

I use to wonder about my purpose in this world.. but now I just live day to day with the faith that I am doing as I was designed to do and that my purpose will find a way of manifesting.

Trying too hard to FIND your purpose can distract you from actually realizing your purpose… you see we were all born designed with our own individual purpose. All we really have to do is live our lives, work hard, never stop learning and growing and that purpose will be met.

I know… I know… but you want to KNOW what that purpose is and why, and who , and what, and where and when ..and … and…

At the end of the day… does it matter that we know our own purpose or does it matter more that we feel full at the end of our journey.

The question at the end will be “Were you happy?” “Did you have a good time? ”  “Did you enjoy this life?”.…. not a grading system of check marks on tasks completed.

Food for thought 🙂

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Hitting the Wall

Most of us have been there at some point in our lives ..

No matter what it is we are facing …. somewhere down the line is that wall.

Sometimes it comes up and we are able to maneuver around it .. other times it’s merely a speed bump on our path.. and other times it is a solid wall that we hit full force.. straight on … and it stops us dead in our tracks.

The question of the day is: How do we get past that wall once it has stopped us in our tracks?

I won’t pretend it’s any easy feat … words are easy .. it’s easy to talk about what we can do and how we should feel about that wall and ideas of how we overcome that wall … but the act of actually doing it is a whole other story.

Depending on where we are in our life and what else is going on in our life and a list of many other factors play a part in how and if we make it past that wall.

The point of today’s post is to simply let you know you are not alone. So many of us have had to face that wall. Don’t beat yourself up if.. for now.. you can’t make it past that wall.

Take your time.. maybe it’s not meant for you to get past it .. maybe you need to do some reflecting on why that wall is there.. maybe this.. maybe that … just don’t beat yourself up over it.

Life is hard enough as it is… that wall doesn’t help .. obsessing over it make it even worse… just know that you are not alone when it comes to meeting that wall… many have been there and many will find themselves there at some point.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Rebuilding…..

wet branchesWhen you are walking upon the storm .. and your life seems to be falling to pieces…

Understand  that …. Sometimes your world needs to fall apart so you can rebuild it.

Think about all the storms you have been through … you’re here .. you survived… you rebuilt what you once had and you will again.

Patching the walls doesn’t really get rid of the holes.. it just hides them.

So the walls get torn down and you build it back … stronger and better than before.

I’ve patched many holes .. and my world has fallen apart many times… each time I dusted myself off eventually … and began the rebuild process.

This message is to let those who are going through a storm now, know that you are not alone..  and the task before you is not an impossible one… although it may seem impossible.. you will get through this.

Many hugs and healing blessings to you,

ravensig

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How to Turn a Bad Week or a Bad Day Around

rain puddleHow to Turn a Bad Week  or a Bad Day Around

We have all had them.. a bad day, a bad week, a bad month .. heck even a bad year!!!

The question is when that bad day, week, month, year gets us down.. how do we pull out of it and turn it around.

How do we cheer ourselves up and look at the bright side?

Heavy sigh… good question!

Let’s see a raise of hands for those who have the answers…

Oh wait … that’s what I’m suppose to be doing here … giving you some help .. some answers.. some ideas to turn that bad into a “not so bad” situation.

Well, I certainly don’t have all the answers … but I can tell you some of the things that have helped me through the years. These ideas won’t solve any problems… but they will help you get your mind off your troubles.

Meditation is a good start to help relieve stress from a bad day …if you don’t know how to meditate.. Google is always an easy fix… so many techniques out there for meditation.. do a little research and find something that best fits you.

Get out! – Take a walk .. a hike in the woods or near a lake .. go do something to take your mind off whats going on… take in some fresh air and scenery.

Get a hobby! hahahahaha you should notice I have many… hahaha … there is a good reason for that .. creating is my way of dealing with stress, depression and just about any other problem that may be a burden. When working with your hands and creating or crafting something.. for that time you are only focusing on what is in front of you .. you can’t think about the bills or someone with a bad attitude or the leaky roof or the kids grades or grocery shopping, laundry, or whatever else may be bothering you… so it’s a good and productive escape.. it may not solve your problems but it certainly gets your mind of it for a while.

Friends! My friends have been my life savers so many times… just being able to call up a friend to talk it out … get a little input… vent and laugh or cry together .. that has helped far more than anything else ever has!

Laugh! Watch a funny  movie/tv show… send out some jokes to all your friends…. remember the fun times …. whatever it is you need to do to laugh … just make sure you do.. plan some practical jokes … people watch… hahahaha just do something that makes you feel good.

Whatever it is you decide to do .. you have to be able to step outside the situation for a moment .. gather yourself.. regroup… release the tension … You’ll find when you can do this … your view of whats going on may change… things may or may not be as bad as they seemed… You may see new ways to fix the situation … and if nothing else .. you will have at least had some time away from it … we all need to “take a moment” from time to time.

Don’t feel bad or guilty… because you took some time out … that “time out” moment may be just the thing to catch that much needed second wind, or give you a fresh new look at the problem .. or relieve the stress that has built up from the situation.

So go ahead .. “take a moment” and enjoy it!

Many Blessings,
ravensig

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It’s Time

wishIt’s Time….

There comes a point in your life when you have to let go of old ideas, behaviors and/or beliefs…

Throughout our lifetime many things will come and go as we need them… Be careful not to cling too tightly to any one thing in your life… when it’s purpose has come and gone we need to release it from our grasp so that something new can come in and help us in our growth and in our travels along this path.

I’m not saying give up everything you ever believed in … but more so ideas, beliefs or behaviors that are no longer suited for you at this moment .. this place on your journey.

It may just be allowing our ideas, behaviors and beliefs to transform…. The stubborn part of us may want to stick to what we have always done… but it is like this… if you get stuck in the mud and all you do is put your foot on the gas … spinning and spinning to get out … what happens is that you just get buried deeper in that mud pit .. there is a chance that it may finally work for you and the traction may find something to take hold of and push you out of the mud … but there is also a chance that it won’t … how long are you going to do the “Let’s wait and see” game?

So what I’m saying … is that it’s time to step back and take another look at where you are and what you are doing and what you are  thinking at this time… there is a change that needs to be made in order for you to get out of that mud and move on. So what are you waiting for? You already know the change that needs to be made.. don’t fear the road ahead… listen to that inner knowing and march on!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Keeping the Dream Alive

crystalballDon’t allow the best things in your life to die out because you give up something as special as a dream ..

It’s good to have dreams, hopes and ambition…  Our dreams keep us alive.. keep us going .. keep hope within our hearts.. Our dreams are to be cherished and our dreams are meant to be followed and then realized and finally to be lived..

Don’t ever let anyone make you feel that your dreams or hopes are silly .. if it’s in your heart and something you feel strongly about wanting to do … then do it .. do it with great passion and intent … it’s up to you to make your own dreams come true.. don’t sit around and wait for it to happen .. take action.

In the mean time.. it never hurts to lay your head down each night and wish upon the stars… by doing so you are confirming your wish.. your desire to make things happen ..

An Affirmation – the assertion that something exists or is true. ( or soon will be)

So lay down your heads tonight .. with a smile in your heart .. dream a dream of all dreams and dare to follow that dream.. realize it and live it ..

The first step in creating the life of your dreams .. is believing!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Enjoy it!

Whatever you do in life .. find a way to enjoy it.

We all can’t have the job of our dreams.. but we can make the best of what we do have …

Whatever it is you do.. take pride in doing it well.. don’t just do it for the sake of getting by … find something in it that you like and enjoy it!

Work stops being work when you enjoy what you do.

So what are you waiting for?

You might be surprised .. many things in your life will be for the better when you can find that bit of spark and start enjoying your days …

You’ll do a better job… you’ll get noticed for a job well done.. you’ll feel better about yourself and about life in general…

Who knows what can come of finding happiness in the mundane.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker