Month: January 2015

Changing Behaviors and Patterns

In the past, I allowed people to lie to me. Knowing their words were lies I accepted this in my life. I wanted to give each person the benefit of doubt, I looked past the little lies and thought more about why they lied. Was it that they were scared, had low self esteem, or maybe they felt less than for some reason and felt they needed the lie. Whatever the reason, it wasn’t needed. My thoughts, “Maybe one day they will not feel the need to lie to me anymore”. That never seems to work out that way, The truth may be hard but it doesn’t break trust. Without trust, you have NOTHING. This video is me breaking my own patters and behaviors of allowing things in my life that aren’t good for me. I’m watching out for myself way more these days and taking a lot less crap. I deserve better. If better never shows up, well at least I’m not living in a world of lies.


Many Blessings,
Raventalker

You Are Enough

Today’s message from Spirit … YOU ARE ENOUGH

There is no need to change for anyone except yourself. If you are with someone that makes you feel less than, like you aren’t enough, then they are not the person you need in your life. Find someone who already knows your value and appreciates you for who you are right now, just as you are.

YOU ARE ENOUGH!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Easy Words – Hard to Follow

When you find it hard to follow your own advice. Many times over I have given the advice to others to live their life in a way that makes them happy…. only I have not followed my own advice. I spent my years making others happy … putting my own happiness to the side. As a friend, daughter, wife, mother… I thought that is what I was suppose to do. Times are changing. It’s time to start living for me.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Choosing Your Own Happiness

Don’t put your happiness in the hands of those who don’t deserve it.. those who don’t truly love and appreciate your worth. Remember that YOU have the power to choose how you feel. 
Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Getting Back Up

Life iEdited in Lumia Selfies quite often complicated and hard. There are magical moments and moments of great hardship.  The world will knock you down over and over again. Just make sure you keep getting back up.

Life lessons are hard, they create so much chaos in your life, you don’t know if you are coming or going and searching for that next step can feel like a huge burden. All the “what if” questions flood your mind, creating worry and fear. That’s the whole point.. Your world gets turned upside down when it’s time for big change. We are all creatures of habit to some extent. Unless someone throws the puzzle pieces up in the air, we will continue searching for the right piece to go in that empty space in front of us. Sometimes you are simply working the wrong puzzle.

Although change can throw you off balance, there is a great feeling that comes with finding your balance again. Remember as a child when you use to walk across an old fallen tree… each step taken with care, not to lose your balance…. when you would begin to teeter from one side to the other it was both frightening and exciting all at the same time and then that moment when you regained your balance…. remember that feeling? THAT was a great feeling, you felt safe, you felt okay and that moment of fear, when you nearly fell off … is gone. You still have to keep walking forward to get off that old tree. Just remember that the fall is still possible and that tree isn’t going anywhere… get back up and try it again.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Releasing the Pain

Yesterday I was going through some photos and noticed that there was a distinct difference in my eyes from a year thenandnowago and a photo I took yesterday. I photochopped them side by side with the dates under them and posted this photo to my Facebook page. Friends were posting how I looked so much better, more alive, happier, healthier, etc. I have not lost a  single pound, I’ve not changed my diet or exercise routine… yeah that’s still non-existent at the moment .. lol.

One friend finally said “Wow, what did you do differently?”

I went internal and thought the question over for only a brief moment when the light came on and I replied “I stopped feeling like I was nothing.”

Typing those words out and seeing them on the screen in front of me… reading them back to myself out loud, I got teary eyed and in that moment I released a world of pain that had been building up inside me for a very long time.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Year of the Raven… continued

This weekend was a major moment for me. I treated myself to a weekend holiday. After work on Friday, I headed straight for the mountains, all by myself. No one to keep me company on the 4 hour drive, no one to go sightseeing with, no one to have lunch and dinner with, it was just me keeping my own company. I had several emotional moments, but gathered my senses and enjoyed myself.

I drove up without booking a hotel, I thought for a change I wouldn’t really plan a thing and just see where I landed. I got to the strip in Pigeon Forge and just picked a place to stay. I got my room key thing-a-ma-bob and I knew straight away that this would be a great trip. My room number was 111 (Number 111 signifies that an energetic gateway has opened up for you, and this will rapidly manifest your thoughts into your reality). Note to self: Stay positive! That being said, I got some sleep so I could get up before the sun to make my way up the mountain to see the sunrise.
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So my day starts out again without any real plans except to get up the mountain before the sunrise and drive the Cades Cove loop. My first stop, Visitor’s Center to get a map…. hmmmmm looks like the Visitor’s center isn’t open this early. No map, no problem! I just followed the signs. Found a great spot for the sunrise photo and continued to the Cove.

cades cove 3I laughed at my own silliness when I got out at the first stop and grabbed nothing but a sweater to keep me warm on the mountain where it was 25 degrees and a long walk to the abandoned cabin I was headed for to take photos. The crows were laughing at me too. They surrounded the field as I made my way up the path and cawed back and fourth to each other. I nodded my head and said.. I know, I know…. not a smart decision! It’s wasn’t my first and I’m sure it won’t be my last.

I ran into a fellow photographer at the cabin and showed her my crystal ball trick then took her camera to get a shot of her in the beautiful surroundings… we ran into each other at several places along the rout in Cades Cove and each time exchanged where the best view points were. I really enjoyed being out on that mountain top, even all by myself. I realized that I wasn’t ever really alone. I could hear the voices of all my friends cheering me along, I felt their love and caring thoughts and all of their support. They weren’t physically there, but I felt their spirit with me.
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There were deer everywhere you looked, frost covered everything and made it look like a winter wonderland. I was in my own little piece of heaven. At one spot in the Cove I encountered an amazing amount of Eastern Bluebirds. Oh my goodness, they were so beautiful and everywhere! The wind would blow through the trees and the frost would float down just like snow. The vibrant colors of the bluebirds stood out again the white landscape. It was like a scene from my very own fairy tale. BEAUTIFUL! I knew I was right where I was meant to be. My spirit sang out loud how happy it was to be there in this place of beauty.

The stress that was once inside me, gone…. the loneliness I had been feeling for so long, gone… the heartache that follows me around like a shadow, not gone but definitely healing. I stood on that mountain looking at the valley below and the voice inside me said, “You’ve got this!” I let everything else go and enjoyed every moment of my holiday alone.

To check out the photos I took … click here and visit my Facebook Photography Page, Life Through Raven Eyes.
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Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Today’s Message – Pick A Card!

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1) Integration – There’s a lot going on for you beneath the surface. Things are falling into place, your are being mended and new things are forming within. Give yourself the time and freedom of not having to justify the delicate processes of your spiritual development that is currently taking place. Somethings are not meant to be dragged out in the open for others to scrutinize. be kind to yourself during this process. When the time is right the fruits of your internal labor will be visibly clear.

2) Inspiration – The carousel of thoughts that spin around and around in your head with and without your permission, finally begin to slow down enough to let higher inspirations come through. By trusting your intuition and faithfully acting on them, you are led to your own true self quite easily. That feeling that comes just after that acting of trusting yourself lets you know that you are on the right path. TRUST IT!

3) Self-Liberation – Your inner amazon wants to find a clearly defined direction. She refuses to stay submissive. She insists on being fully herself. There is no need to give in. You deserve to remain who you are without compromise. Stay strong, stand your ground for what is important to you. YOU are WORTH MUCH! Be the best you can be and enjoy who you are.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Unbinding Yourself from the Pain

Lately I have had big problems sleeping. My mind doesn’t stop going over and over what I’ve recently been through. I’m ready to let it go but mind seems to disagree when I try to go to sleep.

I keep trying meditation and focusing on others things but nope my brain says lets go back over here … I say noooooooooo I don’t want to go back over there … and my brain says like it or not here we go!

I want to be past it so bad and while I am awake I feel that I am okay for the most part, except for the occasional thought that usually comes unexpected and causes a brief meltdown. I go to bed NOT thinking about it and suddenly BAM! There it is like Groundhog Day, rerunning over and over through my mind. I try shifting my thoughts, I try focusing on other things, nothing seems to be helping right now.

cutthecordI decided I had to go a step further to rid myself of these haunting images and thoughts. I did a little unbinding ceremony. I took a piece of ribbon (in this case I used black, thought it was most fitting), I tied it on both ends. One end I imagined it being me and the other end my ex. I smudged the ribbon, I asked that we be untied in all ways for the better of everyone involved. I wanted to unbind myself from him so that I could let the haunting memories and destructive thoughts go. I severed the ribbon in half and burned each end before the knots so that we were fully separate. My heart and soul no longer tied to the hurt and pain.  I cried for a moment and let it all go.

Last night was the first night in months that I didn’t have any of those memories and thoughts running through my head all night long. The torment that is caused when you can’t get something like this out of your mind, can be so damaging. I was actually able to sleep and dream of other things. The relief that was given to me, priceless. Heavy sigh of relief. I had tried so many things and nothing helped. Sometimes we have to create a physical act for our minds to truly grasp the end and allow us to completely let go.

(Please always make sure that when doing these type of ceremonies that you do them with love in your heart and the best intentions for everyone involved.)

Many Blessings,
ravensig

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Today’s Message – Pick a Card

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1) Transformation – Just like the circle of life, parts of yourself must die to make way for new. Old aspects of ourselves, old beliefs, old habits, etc… when we begin to change, some of these things must change in order for us to grow. Take time to process and grieve the dying part but don’t linger there for too long, it is time to embrace the new you.

2) Excess – This card warns you to be careful of allowing your resources to be depleted… zapping you of all your energies. Also a reminder to be kind to yourself and treat yourself well. Don’t worry about the opinions of others, find your own truth and follow that path.

3) Pleasure – Allow yourself to enjoy life on all levels. So much is possible! Don’t be afraid to take on new projects. Seize the happy moments life offers you and enjoy them fully.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

Year of the Raven… continued

Here we go with my first update on MY YEAR to ENJOY  BEING ME!

WP_20150103_026I was walking through Hobby Lobby today and started down an aisle to look at a giant clock at the other end. There were tons of mirrors in that aisle.. I try my best to avoid mirrors…. the horror of seeing what I look like out in public.. cringe. Just before I got to the clock I turned an saw myself… I paused, stepped back for another look and do you know what??? Other than the typical stuff…. yeah I need to lose some weight, blah blah blah, etc…  there was nothing wrong with that reflection. That was me and I’m not all that bad to look at. A bit fluffy but if I really want to change that, I can!

For years I felt so unattractive, not from words said or actions toward me but more because of a lack of actions and just the feeling that I got. One knows when someone else finds them attractive and that’s something I haven’t felt in a very long time. When that feeling is absent in your life long enough, you begin to think you look how you feel inside and inside I felt that I must be hideous. Why else would that feeling of mutual love be held back from me so much?   I certainly know I’m far from what most consider beautiful or gorgeous and that’s okay… I’m happy to be me. Today the reflection in that mirror wasn’t hideous at all and it took me by surprise. It was a really nice moment and I hope that it stays with me.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker