kindness

The Struggle Between Positive and Negative

IMG_8041Being Kind, Helpful and Positive vs Allowing Others to Walk all Over You

I’m sure I’m not the only one who has ever struggled with this. I am someone who tries my best daily to be as positive and helpful as possible with those I interact with. I will do what I can for anyone who asks for assistance. BUT…. there are some people who step into your life and want to take advantage far too much and in return send out bad energy and negative vibes.

You know those that I speak of… certain people in the workplace who smile in front of you and snarl behind you. Those who come to you when they need help and god forbid if at some point they don’t get first priority.. they take the opportunity to be as nasty as they can. Snide remarks here and there… that look of pure misery when you are near their space and an overall feeling of discontent.

There is a part of me that says .. no matter how this person wants to act .. I will kill them with my kindness and I will rise above their negativity. Then there is this other side of me that says.. well.. I will give them what they give me in return. If they are unsatisfied with the energy they are receiving from me, then maybe they need to have a look at what they are sending my way.

There come s a point where my “killing them with kindness” starts feeling like I am simply allowing the other person to walk all over me. They get what they want from me and yet continue to send back that ugly, negative energy of theirs. So what do you do?

Personally … it takes me a long, long time to get to the point of “I’ll give back to them what they send my way”. I do whatever I can to change the situation into a more positive one. With some people, it is just wasted time and energy. It seems as though they live to be the way they are and I am unsure they care about how their attitude effects others at all.

I’m not quite sure of the correct answer here … if even there is one.

I will continue being me and spreading as much light and joy as I possibly can… but beware those who wish to send out negative energy my way… you just never know when it might get thrown right back at you.

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

When the Universe Speaks

It’s not often in life that we get the privilege to feel the universe cheering us on… as if we are on the right track and Spirit keeps giving us that “atta boy” pat on the back to keep us trucking on in the right direction. When it does happen .. be sure to stop for a moment to make note and give thanks. Don’t let those moments just slip on by. Enjoy the moment!

This morning as I made my way into the office …. I sat down at my computer… turned it on and right away I get a really great message from a Facebook friend thanking me for making her mornings bright. I was caught off guard but it sure did bring a smile to my face as well. She was thanking me for something that I had hoped would happen when I post the things I post and when I blog about the many topics I touch upon.. but you never know if the message is really getting out… I often wonder if it really means anything to anyone. The confirmation this morning from my friend was a wonderful gift!

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In the middle of our conversation I ran out quickly to refill the bird feeder outside my office window. Just as I stepped out the back door of the office, I heard a noise, looked up and several crows were perching on top of a street lamp just across the street. I put my bird seed down and grabbed my camera to snap a couple of pics and WOW!!! A hawk flew into the frame and was buzzing the crows sitting

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on top of the light. I couldn’t believe what I was seeing and couldn’t believe that I was lucky enough to be standing there with my camera in hand taking pics of it all! I am still excited with the energy that was stirred from this event!

I love those little surprises .. the crows, the hawk.. the message from a friend.

Here’s a bit of info for the Hawk and the Crow:

Hawk is the messenger, the protector and the visionaries of the Air. It holds the key to higher levels of consciousness. This totem awakens vision and inspires a creative life purpose.

Crow lives in the void and has no sense of time, therefore, it sees past, present and future simultaneously. Crow merges both light and dark, both inner and outer. They are symbols of creation and spiritual strength. Look for opportunities to create and manifest the magic of life. Crows are messengers calling to us about the creation and magic that is alive in the world today and available to us.

So what does all of this tell us?

It tells us to always be ready and willing to enjoy the moment when it comes. You never know from what direction love, kindness, happiness, surprises and magic will appear. Be ready and willing to accept it as it comes!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

What We Allow

Today Spirit urges me to talk about what we allow in our lives.

We need to stop often and take a look at the things we allow in our own lives. It’s easy to see what others allow but we must stop for a moment, step back and truly look at our own lives to see what it is we are or are not allowing.

Think about a few examples here: (Things we allow or block from our lives)

Love – we know how to give it but are we allowing it to be returned to us?
Kindness – same as above
Fear – ooooooo that’s a mean and nasty one.. be careful not to let your actions be guided by it
Creativity – are you doubting your creative self – blocking the creativity from flowing through you … when it comes to creativity you have got to let it flow  – also don’t let others stifle your creative ideas
Doubt – Oh  another ugly one … doubt can cause us and the people around us far more harm that one might think. Practice trusting yourself and that inner knowing that stirs inside you. If you can’t trust yourself, you’ll not trust anyone else either.
Success – are you truly allowing yourself to succeed or are you putting your own road blocks in the way?
Growth – are we allowing growth in all areas of our lives or are we again stifling or even pushing ourselves… trying to control how much we grow… how much we move forward … let nature take its course and allow your own growth to come at its own pace.

These are just a few examples… throughout our lives there are so many things we will find ourselves allowing in that are no good for us.. we talk ourselves into accepting what is … instead of seeing what could be or what is best for us.

Many blessings,
Raventalker