bad habits

When I was a child, I remember being happy for no reason… I was just happy or was it that I wasn’t particularly unhappy… hmmmm, definitely something to ponder. Somewhere along the way I lost my own happiness. I don’t know how, I don’t know when. All I know is that somewhere along the line I started looking to others to help me find happiness. I think most, if not all of us do this. Not sure there is an age when this happens or any particular event… it just seems to happen. I’m not saying there aren’t events in our childhood that help push this along, because I know a lot of tragic things happen through our lives at all ages. I’m just saying that somewhere, somehow… we all reach this point.

We spend much of our time looking to others to create our happiness. Whether it be our parents, spouses, children, friends or even strangers… somewhere down the line we forget how to be happy on our own and feel that we can’t be happy unless this person does that, or behaves like this or whatever. When we were younger I don’t recall ever “needing” anything to be happy.. I just was. So why in our adult years is it so hard to find that again?

I know that happiness starts within and for the most part I am able to live in many happy moments… sometimes the old ways still creep up on me and I find myself unhappy because I’m looking for someone else to make me happy. It’s just a behavior I’ve taught myself unknowingly and a behavior I try hard to break. It’s that moment of realization about what I’m doing and why that then turns my sadness around and I begin again to feel happy just because I am and I deserve it.

Here’s to hoping you all can find your own happiness inside and here’s hoping I keep breaking that chain of behavior when it starts to creep up again!

Many Blessings,
Raventalker

On this journey one cannot help but pick up things along the way. Some of the things that we pick up are: lessons, beliefs, habits, ideas and fears. We aren’t born with any of these .. they are all added to who we are as we travel along our journey. Some are needed and some, once lived, are no longer needed. They are like barriers that keep us from moving forward.

It’s a good idea to take some reflection time throughout our journey to assess which of these are still valuable and beneficial to us and which are no longer needed.

It’s much easier said than done. Some of the things that we pick up, come to us in a dramatic way and effect our lives greatly. Getting rid of whats no longer needed can be a process all on its own that is daunting and very hard to deal with.

Take your time and allow yourself to come to terms with whatever it may be that you are ridding from your life. Create a ritual, ceremony or have a party to help you make this change or transformation in your life. This can be a private matter or include your closest friends and family. Sometimes it helps to have those who support you, at your side when making such an affirmation. Some might say Life Changing.

Imagine for a moment … throwing a party and inviting all your friends over to help you celebrate getting over one of your greatest fears. It could be anything from a fear of flying to being afraid of the dark or even something like a fear of relationships or speaking in public.

What barriers will you be breaking down? Celebrate it!

Many Blessings,