Today I speak about feeling stuck. Stuck in a life you don’t want… Your journey has been difficult to say the least and it feels like you are destined to remain in this life that you certainly never wished for, hoped for or dreamed of having. You’re not really stuck.. it’s just an illusion. There is a way out!
Many Blessings,
Follow the Raven:
I am a survivor of all kinds of abuse, from being molested as a child to being stalked, having a gun pointed at them and from physical, mental and verbal abuse, from being bullied and made fun of to being made to feel like I was nothing at all. Many times I wanted to check out of this life and end the pain. Every time I found a reason to stay. I survived… you can too. There is help, but you must tell others what is going on and ask for the help.
Many Blessings,
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Through the years I have encountered many in my life who would have had me believe I was nothing… and through the years I have always come out proving that I was indeed something more. Sometimes I would go years believing how they made me feel, fighting it all along the way. The core of my being knew that I was not what they would have me believe, but when living with this kind of behavior day in and day out for so long, one can tend to start believing this lie. Everyone has value, if the person you are with cannot see yours then they truly do not belong in your life. It doesn’t always come from romantic relationships, it can come from work, friends, etc. This has been a hard lesson for me, I have relived it again and again. Someday, maybe I’ll truly believe in my own worth and forget the lie that I was lead so often to believe.
Many Blessings,
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This morning I was reading a post by a friend, she spoke about a dream she had that her mother was in. It turns out that her mother was a very angry, negative and abusive person. In the dream, my friend had hoped that her mother might apologize or at least show some remorse for what she had done. That, of course never happened.
I have thought about what I could say to ease the pain of that friend and had a realization that I hope helps many. You see, I know a lot about abusive people, as I have been around them far more than I like to reflect upon. I had an abusive spouse that was abusive in every way that one could be. I grew up with a mother that never saw the sunshine, only the rain. Her entire life revolved around pain and misery and she was more than happy to spread it around. Let’s not forget those abusive friendships, abusive work relationships/encounters, etc.
So, while pondering what words of advice I could give to help my friend move past this pain, I began to think about all the abusive people I’ve encountered in my lifetime. It all really came down to something so simple and true.
All the pain, misery, abuse and negativity that comes from someone is because of them. It is not because of you or anything you have done. It is not any failing on your part, but on theirs. People are angry, abusive, negative, and hurtful because of themselves and their own past. They were not born this way but somewhere down the line they allowed themselves to become it.
You are not the root of how they behave… You were just simply there.
The best way to let it all go is to forgive them for not being able to rise above their own history and become something better than what has happened to them. Forgive yourself for allowing their issues to get inside your own head and cause you pain. Forgive and let it go. Holding on to the pain doesn’t make them any better a person, it doesn’t change what they did or what they will do in the future. It changes nothing. It holds you back from moving forward and from finding your own peace. Let it go. Forgive.
Many Blessings,
Raventalker
Well as I made my way into work this morning I was listening to the radio an Pink’s song “F’ ing Perfect” came on and it got me thinking about how we all, at some point and time in our lives do exactly what she says in her song. We allow ourselves to feel inferior and we allow those feelings to get us down.
We allow ourselves to feel this way. It’s not something others make us do.. the decision to feel “less than” is ours. It’s those little voices in our head .. nothing at all to do with the other person. We allow it. For whatever reason.. we do this to ourselves. Sure there are those that don’t help matters.. they see that we do this to ourselves and they take advantage and behave in a way that makes us continue doing it even more. Still… at the end of the day it is we, that do it to ourselves.
I was going to write a long blog about this and explain how I have done it as well and at times still struggle with those voices…. I was going to tell you all about my experiences in abusive relationships and how I managed to get out of that seemingly never-ending loop of abuse.
But then….. I was browsing my Facebook wall and came upon this video and thought … you know what… let’s get out of our heads today and have some fun instead. These guys are sure entertaining.. lol.. I know it started my day with a smile .. I hope it will yours as well.
ENJOY!
The Healing Path of the Raven & Wolf 