I’m going to have to give a “for instance” to describe the situation: Someone has a problem with you and you have no idea why. They proceed to either give you the dreaded silent treatment or they are just mean and nasty toward you. You, still clueless as to why or what the problem is and or how it even originated. What do you do? How do you let it effect you? And for how long do you allow it to effect you?
Personally, I want everyone to like me and I try to please everyone I can. Some people don’t want to be happy and so trying to please them is a useless task. When someone suddenly has a problem with me or seems to be mad at me and I don’t know why… I am bothered. It bothers me to no end. If I know why… then ok… it’s easy to deal with… at least there is reason and you know what that reason is.
Recently, this has happened to me (not the first time) and do you know what??? I don’t even care whatever the reason may be. The problem is theirs and theirs alone. If they wish to rid themselves of the misery then they will come to me and have a conversation and let me in on this big secret of hatred. Otherwise I will keep on keepin on… being me, being myself. For once I am not going to go out of my way and bend over backwards to figure out someone else’s problem. I’m not running to them to resolve their issues. The issue may be pointed in my direction, but the issue is not mine to deal with.
I don’t have a problem with the other person and can’t for the life of me figure out why they have an issue with me. I’ll not allow their secret problem with me effect my minutes, my hours or my days. Why should I? Why should I have to be the one to make amends over something that I don’t even know about?
The world is a crazy place… filled with crazy people… and that’s just the way it is!